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The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

I see a lot of hamstering on overdrive on this thread. Yes, the world sucks right now. Society, the job market, dating relations between men and women. All of these are an absolute disaster right now thanks to malignant external forces in the physical and spiritual realms looking to shape a new, perverse way of living opposite of God's purpose. But these external forces can only shift what's willing to be pushed. As men, you have God's spirit and characteristics inside you and through Him can fight back.

All these negative changes have only happened because on one side you had spineless, self-serving, people-pleasing men and on the opposite side you had men who just sat by idly and didn't resist for whatever reason. But inaction is a mistake since it is now percieved as compliance and a sign of weakness.

There are already enough things around in the present day to make you weak.

All sorts of residue chemicals in tap water with a myriad of possible effects.

Extremely elevated constant stress with barely any relief.

A government that has become increasingly incompetent over the decades to now reaching a point where they actually harm the hardworking tax payer in favor of criminals and non citizens.

A society that gets more hedonistic and secular with each passing year with suitable available women becoming less and less.

Different forms of media designed to shun masculinity and a well adjusted male mindset while encouraging feminine, childish, weak behavior.

The list goes on and on. But the bottom line is that to even begin trying to change any of the above things men have to become united in a common goal again and they need to become strong physically but most important, mentally.

The biggest hurdle is overcoming the vile addiction fueled by a biological impulse. Understand that no matter what kind of erotic content you are viewing (as "harmless" as it seems) you are essentially castrating and cucking yourself. You are damaging your brain, altering your mental state, and unnecessarily depleting your body of vital nutrients. All for what can be considered a perverse form of inadequate mental escape. A dangerous coping mechanism that will never be beneficial to you in any way.

You indulge in that stuff because you were unhappy or unfulfilled with something at some point in your life and now have become accustomed to using that to unsuccessfully fill the missing void. Fix whatever the underlying personal issue is and your fight to quit porn will be half won. The other half is admitting you made a mistake using porn as a crutch and doing everything you can to avoid digital and articial erotic stimuli and training yourself to not succumb to old habits should such stimuli come your way.

Find some trusted friends. Strengthen each other and don't rationalize bad behaviours. We can fool other humans but God knows what's truly in our hearts. Before God we are all sinners and one day will have to be held accountable of everything we did with the life he was fortunate to have blessed us with.

You make good points, but there needs to be an outlet. Are all men sex addicts or is it just the natural mating imperative? The question is has a man successfully done this for years and can testify to that in good faith? No porn, no sex, complete celibacy and conquering these thoughts.

I expect to see responses like well I have sex with my wife, or I went 90 days, or a year. Porn for me was relatively easy because it seemed fake and you weren’t interacting with women. Real life fornication is another matter totally especially if you are unmarried.
 
You make good points, but there needs to be an outlet. Are all men sex addicts or is it just the natural mating imperative? The question is has a man successfully done this for years and can testify to that in good faith? No porn, no sex, complete celibacy and conquering these thoughts.

I expect to see responses like well I have sex with my wife, or I went 90 days, or a year. Porn for me was relatively easy because it seemed fake and you weren’t interacting with women. Real life fornication is another matter totally especially if you are unmarried.

26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

Don't conflate our weakness with impossibility. It is literally Satan speaking in our ears when we think chastity, at least until marriage is attained, is an impossible goal.

Our perspective is warped because we live in such a fornication-drenched society. To answer your question, yes probably a majority of modern men are either porn or sex addicts. But that doesn't make it natural, acceptable or justifiable.

There does need to be an outlet for most men who are not blessed with a gift for lifelong chastity, and that's a wife. This is why the Church teaches that there are only two paths, marriage or the monastery. Being a man of reproductive age, living in the world and remaining unmarried is the unnatural state that cannot be sustained, not chastity itself.
 
Real life fornication is another matter totally especially if you are unmarried.

I'd say real life concubines a big step up over whores and e-whores. At least there is a chance of marriage with girlfriends.

@Doraemon What denomination are you?

As for those who continue to stumble; fear not, have faith, stay strong - pick yourself back up and soldier on, brave warrior of Christ.

 
Thank God after my last post here exactly two weeks ago, I managed to stay clean until now. Not fapping for two weeks makes me able to think clearly and without shame.

Brother you need to set goals and have a plan. Have you seen the Monk Mode Celibacy thread? Maybe you could try something like this?

Post in thread 'Monk Mode Celibacy' https://christisking.cc/threads/monk-mode-celibacy.595/post-33454
Yes thank you for the advice. Sometimes we need to try creative ways if simple "just do it" mentality does not work. After looking at that thread and considering my real life conditions now, I think the best way for me is monk-mode self improvement (not just celibacy) to really make a difference.

You need to permanently delete these photos and apps now. You cannot cling to them if you hope to overcome this sin.
If there is absolutely no other way, then hard decisions must be taken.

Ask your priest for a penance, prostrations, prayers for purity.
Last Sunday on 12 May I confessed sins to the priest, and God's forgiveness is indeed infinite. After confessing, the guilt and shame for losing control and PMO'ing on Pascha is gone, believe it or not. This definitely helps me in getting up and fight again. Funny thing is the prayers for purity is already included in my church's prayer book, but I almost never prayed it lol.

@Doraemon What denomination are you?
Well my denomination is a very small one since it is neither a Protestant nor a Catholic church. But my church's denomination forms an unbroken line to the Original Church and The Apostles. Its faith, teachings, worships and ethics have not changed for 2000 years, and it never undergone reformation or counter-reformation.

The church that I went to is under the jurisdiction of Moscow Patriarchate, Exarchate of Southeast Asia. I'm going to attach two pictures to help explain. One is Metropolitan Sergius celebrating divine liturgy on St. Thomas Sunday at my church (12 May 2024) and another is my priest celebrating divine liturgy on Commemoration of the Dead (Radonitsa) (14 May 2024).
 

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