The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

[Unending Powerhouse Match]

I haven’t watched the video, but what you wrote is true in my experience. I also won’t ever forget a phone call I had with a woman on Catholic match, who after a bit said she was hesitant to talk to me because she was divorced and not a virgin. She kept asking me if it was ok that she was not a virgin and if I wanted to ‘dump’ her (we weren’t even dating just talking) she would understand. She was an attractive Latina around 30 years old. She told me the religious guys she was meeting online were overly judgmental.

During a discussion with my priest I mentioned that I kept confessing the same stuff over and over and felt dumb and he said something interesting. He said to me ‘at least you recognize it, most of the parishioners here don’t and think they are all saints’

With that type of attitude in some churches how can outsiders feel genuinely accepted?

Edit: I saw the video and it seems to be an interview with a porn star. In that case, has she truly repented or was she going to mass and still in the industry?

I don't think we need to watch a 1+ hour video of women talking (why subject yourself to such torture?) in order to learn that "women who do porn come from broken homes" and "you shouldn't be judgemental or needlessly mean to people". I think those things are both common sense even among normies, even if normies tend to somehow twist the latter into "you can't call bad things bad".

That being said, whenever I hear someone go "I tried to convert, but Christians are so heckin' mean!", my first instinct is to call BS.

I don't think it's unchristian to be wary of these types of women. You do not want them in your social circles, they are dangerous in all kinds of ways. It's great if they repent genuinely and whatnot but that doesn't mean you pretend like they're just normal women. It's perfectly natural, normal, and perhaps necessary, for there to still be some degree of stigma there. Things like doing porn change people, potentially forever, and they need to be stigmatized or else you get the current situation in the western world where women will just do porn like it's no biggie.

There are lines where if you've ever crossed them, you cannot expect people to be able to just overlook it. "Oh, this woman exposed her naked body for anyone in the world to watch for free, and participated in the destruction of an entire generation's souls, she looks like someone I would trust around my husband or son" I mean, really?

Not judging people is one thing. Obviously, you cannot see your brother or sister as beneath you, or think that you're a good man and so on and so forth, but you need to get real. Some things just do not make practical sense, you have a duty to yourself and your family. If you are a woman, you do not let a former (so she claims) bigtime whore around your husband. You do not let her around your son either because these types of women are a lot more sexually twisted than people realize, and it would not be strange for someone who has led that kind of life to molest a boy or seduce a teenager. If you're a man, you absolutely do not let her around your wife or daughter because she will be a bad influence.

If there is a porn woman in your church, of course, do not be mean to her or give her bad looks or things like that, and by all means, pray for her and ask God to grant you humility and love so that you do not judge this woman like the pharisee, but at the same time, if she wants to be around your family, and being a little "rude" to her is what it takes to stop that, honestly it is what it is.

Someone in this thread mentioned that this woman stated that she does not believe in God and that she thinks she's a god and whatnot? Yeah.

 

[paternos]

I don't think we need to watch a 1+ hour video of women talking (why subject yourself to such torture?) in order to learn that "women who do porn come from broken homes" and "you shouldn't be judgemental or needlessly mean to people". I think those things are both common sense even among normies, even if normies tend to somehow twist the latter into "you can't call bad things bad".

That being said, whenever I hear someone go "I tried to convert, but Christians are so heckin' mean!", my first instinct is to call BS.

I don't think it's unchristian to be wary of these types of women. You do not want them in your social circles, they are dangerous in all kinds of ways. It's great if they repent genuinely and whatnot but that doesn't mean you pretend like they're just normal women. It's perfectly natural, normal, and perhaps necessary, for there to still be some degree of stigma there. Things like doing porn change people, potentially forever, and they need to be stigmatized or else you get the current situation in the western world where women will just do porn like it's no biggie.

There are lines where if you've ever crossed them, you cannot expect people to be able to just overlook it. "Oh, this woman exposed her naked body for anyone in the world to watch for free, and participated in the destruction of an entire generation's souls, she looks like someone I would trust around my husband or son" I mean, really?

Not judging people is one thing. Obviously, you cannot see your brother or sister as beneath you, or think that you're a good man and so on and so forth, but you need to get real. Some things just do not make practical sense, you have a duty to yourself and your family. If you are a woman, you do not let a former (so she claims) bigtime whore around your husband. You do not let her around your son either because these types of women are a lot more sexually twisted than people realize, and it would not be strange for someone who has led that kind of life to molest a boy or seduce a teenager. If you're a man, you absolutely do not let her around your wife or daughter because she will be a bad influence.

If there is a porn woman in your church, of course, do not be mean to her or give her bad looks or things like that, and by all means, pray for her and ask God to grant you humility and love so that you do not judge this woman like the pharisee, but at the same time, if she wants to be around your family, and being a little "rude" to her is what it takes to stop that, honestly it is what it is.

Someone in this thread mentioned that this woman stated that she does not believe in God and that she thinks she's a god and whatnot? Yeah.

It's proportionality.

It's not the put the sinner higher, sometimes i see the church goers almost fighting to give cash to the drug addict begging for the church. Or the put the sinner lower, you can greet the drug addict as you greet your friend. But you don't take the drug addict in your home. Or maybe some do.

I watched a bit of the movie, faith isn't perfect, not in myself, and not in others. And ofcourse we need to be wary of the drug dealer, the porn peddler in our home. Though we also shouldn't bling ourselves of our own sins, porn / drugs are very visible sins.

Sins as greed, lust, anger, jealousy, pride are so accepted in Western and so there, that we don't act of those.

Do we also keep the greedy man from our house? With the same energy as we keep the whore or the drug user away?

i think it's worth to think about (for myself as well), some sins are easily seen, obsessed about, but I think we let the devil in often without realizing it.

 

[TrainedLogosmotion]

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[Rational1]

I don't think we need to watch a 1+ hour video of women talking (why subject yourself to such torture?) in order to learn that "women who do porn come from broken homes" and "you shouldn't be judgemental or needlessly mean to people". I think those things are both common sense even among normies, even if normies tend to somehow twist the latter into "you can't call bad things bad".

That being said, whenever I hear someone go "I tried to convert, but Christians are so heckin' mean!", my first instinct is to call BS.

It does happen, to men and women alike. A lot of Christians I’ve met along my path are incredibly self-righteous and what my priest said is accurate. I’ve seen it myself. Mean is the wrong word, but certain church communities put on an air of being better than you, in their heads only since they can rarely back it up. That can be true of many communities however and there’s a name for it, it’s called in-group bias the exact opposite of being an accepting community.

I don't think it's unchristian to be wary of these types of women. You do not want them in your social circles, they are dangerous in all kinds of ways. It's great if they repent genuinely and whatnot but that doesn't mean you pretend like they're just normal women. It's perfectly natural, normal, and perhaps necessary, for there to still be some degree of stigma there. Things like doing porn change people, potentially forever, and they need to be stigmatized or else you get the current situation in the western world where women will just do porn like it's no biggie.

There are lines where if you've ever crossed them, you cannot expect people to be able to just overlook it. "Oh, this woman exposed her naked body for anyone in the world to watch for free, and participated in the destruction of an entire generation's souls, she looks like someone I would trust around my husband or son" I mean, really?

Not judging people is one thing. Obviously, you cannot see your brother or sister as beneath you, or think that you're a good man and so on and so forth, but you need to get real. Some things just do not make practical sense, you have a duty to yourself and your family. If you are a woman, you do not let a former (so she claims) bigtime whore around your husband. You do not let her around your son either because these types of women are a lot more sexually twisted than people realize, and it would not be strange for someone who has led that kind of life to molest a boy or seduce a teenager. If you're a man, you absolutely do not let her around your wife or daughter because she will be a bad influence.

If there is a porn woman in your church, of course, do not be mean to her or give her bad looks or things like that, and by all means, pray for her and ask God to grant you humility and love so that you do not judge this woman like the pharisee, but at the same time, if she wants to be around your family, and being a little "rude" to her is what it takes to stop that, honestly it is what it is.

Someone in this thread mentioned that this woman stated that she does not believe in God and that she thinks she's a god and whatnot? Yeah.

Much of your post is contradictory from sentence to sentence regarding judging then saying not to judge so I’m not going to address it. All I’ll say is I’d bet money if you examined your life and the life of many of the men on the forum, someone would also say that their former and/or current behavior would be a very bad influence on any family unit.

 

[Unending Powerhouse Match]

Much of your post is contradictory from sentence to sentence regarding judging then saying not to judge so I’m not going to address it.

With all due respect, that's such a strange thing to say. Either complete your statement or don't state it at all. Otherwise you just effectively didn't say anything.

Look man, I don't know what you're suggesting here. The line is "thou shalt not judge", not "thou shalt be naive and let your wives and daughters talk to a former whore and be influenced by her, and lend money to a man who has stolen from you before, and let a former child molester around your kids, so long as they've stated they they're like, super sorry about it".

You can be realistic and treat dangerous people like the dangerous people they are, without judging them in your heart as beneath you or anything of the sort. I think this is a position perfectly consistent with Christian teaching. It's wonderful if people repent, but you need to acknowledge the fact that people's past sins do shape and warp them in certain ways, and that it can take many years to fully heal.

You do not go into porn if you do not also have a plethora of other spiritual problems, and the act of doing porn then further corrupts you, and through that sin you acquire various other vices, impulses, habits and twistd worldviews. You may well have to spend your entire life patching yourself up. The amount of damage that consumption of porn from an early age has done to men, me included, is insane, and I do not wish to even imagine what kind of damage you would incur if you were to actually participate in its production.

All I’ll say is I’d bet money if you examined your life and the life of many of the men on the forum, someone would also say that their former and/or current behavior would be a very bad influence on any family unit.

No one is arguing that we are perfect here.

 

[Rational1]

With all due respect, that's such a strange thing to say. Either complete your statement or don't state it at all. Otherwise you just effectively didn't say anything.

Look man, I don't know what you're suggesting here. The line is "thou shalt not judge", not "thou shalt be naive and let your wives and daughters talk to a former whore and be influenced by her, and lend money to a man who has stolen from you before, and let a former child molester around your kids, so long as they've stated they they're like, super sorry about it".

You can be realistic and treat dangerous people like the dangerous people they are, without judging them in your heart as beneath you or anything of the sort. I think this is a position perfectly consistent with Christian teaching. It's wonderful if people repent, but you need to acknowledge the fact that people's past sins do shape and warp them in certain ways, and that it can take many years to fully heal.

You do not go into porn if you do not also have a plethora of other spiritual problems, and the act of doing porn then further corrupts you, and through that sin you acquire various other vices, impulses, habits and twistd worldviews. You may well have to spend your entire life patching yourself up. The amount of damage that consumption of porn from an early age has done to men, me included, is insane, and I do not wish to even imagine what kind of damage you would incur if you were to actually participate in its production.

No one is arguing that we are perfect here.

Look ‘man’ what I’m suggesting is I’m not going to bother to argue with pseudo religious scholars or pseudo alpha males online, so that’s that. Take care brother.

 

[Unending Powerhouse Match]

Look ‘man’ what I’m suggesting is I’m not going to bother to argue with pseudo religious scholars or pseudo alpha males online, so that’s that. Take care brother.

>"You're wrong and contradicting yourself and you probably have a murky past lol"
>Refuses to elaborate further
>Leaves

Bros... I fell for the bait. It's over.

 

[easy_c]

I haven’t watched the video, but what you wrote is true in my experience. I also won’t ever forget a phone call I had with a woman on Catholic match, who after a bit said she was hesitant to talk to me because she was divorced and not a virgin. She kept asking me if it was ok that she was not a virgin and if I wanted to ‘dump’ her (we weren’t even dating just talking) she would understand. She was an attractive Latina around 30 years old. She told me the religious guys she was meeting online were overly judgmental.

During a discussion with my priest I mentioned that I kept confessing the same stuff over and over and felt dumb and he said something interesting. He said to me ‘at least you recognize it, most of the parishioners here don’t and think they are all saints’

With that type of attitude in some churches how can outsiders feel genuinely accepted?

Edit: I saw the video and it seems to be an interview with a porn star. In that case, has she truly repented or was she going to mass and still in the industry?

She had quit and was trying to live a normal life, and was attending church. She stopped because she overheard some conversations to the effect that she was unwelcome at church.

 

[Rational1]

She had quit and was trying to live a normal life, and was attending church. She stopped because she overheard some conversations to the effect that she was unwelcome at church.

Not a surprise. It varies from church community to community, but some are very closed off and unaccepting. My guess is a bunch of insecure females got together and ‘excommunicated’ her without her knowledge. It’s one thing if she was dressing immodestly, still in the business, and acting inappropriately. If it’s true she had quit (that can be debated, I only watched 5 mins of the vid and we are only hearing her side), the community should have given her a chance.

 

[Rational1]

Relevant to the story about the porn actress and to those who said she was unwelcome both at her church and in this thread:

 

[Samseau]

She had quit and was trying to live a normal life, and was attending church. She stopped because she overheard some conversations to the effect that she was unwelcome at church.

Not a surprise. It varies from church community to community, but some are very closed off and unaccepting. My guess is a bunch of insecure females got together and ‘excommunicated’ her without her knowledge. It’s one thing if she was dressing immodestly, still in the business, and acting inappropriately. If it’s true she had quit (that can be debated, I only watched 5 mins of the vid and we are only hearing her side), the community should have given her a chance.

And you know this whore was telling the truth because.....

The amount of simping you guys are doing for a whore is unreal. Seems to me this ho is just trying to make Christians look bad by lying about them, claiming they were being "overly judgmental" to earn pity points.

 

[Rational1]

And you know this whore was telling the truth because.....

The amount of simping you guys are doing for a whore is unreal. Seems to me this ho is just trying to make Christians look bad by lying about them, claiming they were being "overly judgmental" to earn pity points.

You need to work on your reading comprehension. I literally wrote that we are only hearing her side and it can be debated whether she had quit and her story.

You also throw around the term simping which you clearly don’t understand. What we are suggesting is that if she had truly repented, she should be given a chance.

 

[Samseau]

What we are suggesting is that if she had truly repented, she should be given a chance.

I doubt someone who truly repented would go online trash talking people they know in real life.

 

[Doraemon]

Wanted to vent/rant here...

Case A
So after posting in this thread in early December 2023 and being called out by multiple members of the forum, my porn usage has drastically declined and even if I do watch porn I'm not as interested in it as before. Being called out has a sobering effect like a bucket full of water poured on the top of the head.

But foolishly I succumbed to a more subtle temptation, which is images of beautiful women.

Since February this year I have developed a hobby of saving pictures of beautiful women from Instagram and around the web. After that I enhance the images using AI photo enhancer app on my phone, basically by using this app the images get increased resolutions and better detail especially in the face.

I thought enjoying women's natural beauty is far better than watching porn/explicit materials. But this is actually just another form of fap addictions and lusts. Now 90% of my NoFap failure comes from looking at enhanced pics of beautiful women and then being tempted to fap. In fact when I look at my phone's gallery right now it has hundreds of pictures of women

Case B
Just like viruses and bacteria that is so small that it cannot be seen by the eyes, but it can cause our bodies to get sick and even die, fapping has the same effect on me even though it looks just like any other addictions. When I was a teen and in my early 20's I used to think that PMO'ing is OK because it doesn't harm anyone, but it cannot be further from the truth because PMO can definitely kill our soul.

In early January 2023 last year, after being baptized on the eve of Christmas I felt genuine joy of being accepted into Christ's church. We celebrated the Christmas eve liturgy until late at night, and then our church have dinner together. It truly feels like a good ending of any stories. Now when I woke up in the morning the joy still lives inside me. But for some reasons that I still deeply regret until now, I somehow thought PMO'ing and getting high will be perfect to complement the joy and feeling alive inside of me. The result is on Christmas day and exactly a day after my baptism I have already relapsed and betrayed my baptismal oath.

On April's Holy Week 2023, on the days of Great Wednesday, Great Thursday, and Great Friday, I consecutively fapped for three straight days before Christ's resurrection. Christians are required to fast and increase their prayers during time of Great Lent and especially in the Holy Week, but what I'm doing is the total opposite of what a true Christian should be doing.

In January 2024 I repeated the exact same offense from a year ago. In the morning after celebrating The Eve of the Nativity of Our Lord Jesus Christ I for some reasons PMO'ed multiple times. When I sobered up and experienced post-nut clarity I regretted what I've done, and realized I'm officially worse than a donkey for repeating the same thing over and over again.

Now yesterday after confessing sins on Palm Sunday and free of PMO for over a week, I am ready to celebrate the Eve of Pascha. I increased my prayers in the Holy Week and maximize my preparations for Pascha. But this morning I decided to make use of my spare time by enhancing pics on my phone, and the result is I get into a state of lust and relapsed multiple times on Sunday of the Pascha of the Lord.

I know the the answer is to get up and fight again by stopping PMO right now, and the next time I go to the church to confess sins to the priest. But I cannot help the feeling that I am a blasphemer that is unworthy of being called a Christian.

 

[TrainedLogosmotion]

Wanted to vent/rant here...

Case A
So after posting in this thread in early December 2023 and being called out by multiple members of the forum, my porn usage has drastically declined and even if I do watch porn I'm not as interested in it as before. Being called out has a sobering effect like a bucket full of water poured on the top of the head.

But foolishly I succumbed to a more subtle temptation, which is images of beautiful women.

Since February this year I have developed a hobby of saving pictures of beautiful women from Instagram and around the web. After that I enhance the images using AI photo enhancer app on my phone, basically by using this app the images get increased resolutions and better detail especially in the face.

I thought enjoying women's natural beauty is far better than watching porn/explicit materials. But this is actually just another form of fap addictions and lusts. Now 90% of my NoFap failure comes from looking at enhanced pics of beautiful women and then being tempted to fap. In fact when I look at my phone's gallery right now it has hundreds of pictures of women

Case B
Just like viruses and bacteria that is so small that it cannot be seen by the eyes, but it can cause our bodies to get sick and even die, fapping has the same effect on me even though it looks just like any other addictions. When I was a teen and in my early 20's I used to think that PMO'ing is OK because it doesn't harm anyone, but it cannot be further from the truth because PMO can definitely kill our soul.

In early January 2023 last year, after being baptized on the eve of Christmas I felt genuine joy of being accepted into Christ's church. We celebrated the Christmas eve liturgy until late at night, and then our church have dinner together. It truly feels like a good ending of any stories. Now when I woke up in the morning the joy still lives inside me. But for some reasons that I still deeply regret until now, I somehow thought PMO'ing and getting high will be perfect to complement the joy and feeling alive inside of me. The result is on Christmas day and exactly a day after my baptism I have already relapsed and betrayed my baptismal oath.

On April's Holy Week 2023, on the days of Great Wednesday, Great Thursday, and Great Friday, I consecutively fapped for three straight days before Christ's resurrection. Christians are required to fast and increase their prayers during time of Great Lent and especially in the Holy Week, but what I'm doing is the total opposite of what a true Christian should be doing.

In January 2024 I repeated the exact same offense from a year ago. In the morning after celebrating The Eve of the Nativity of Our Lord Jesus Christ I for some reasons PMO'ed multiple times. When I sobered up and experienced post-nut clarity I regretted what I've done, and realized I'm officially worse than a donkey for repeating the same thing over and over again.

Now yesterday after confessing sins on Palm Sunday and free of PMO for over a week, I am ready to celebrate the Eve of Pascha. I increased my prayers in the Holy Week and maximize my preparations for Pascha. But this morning I decided to make use of my spare time by enhancing pics on my phone, and the result is I get into a state of lust and relapsed multiple times on Sunday of the Pascha of the Lord.

I know the the answer is to get up and fight again by stopping PMO right now, and the next time I go to the church to confess sins to the priest. But I cannot help the feeling that I am a blasphemer that is unworthy of being called a Christian.

Brother you need to set goals and have a plan. Have you seen the Monk Mode Celibacy thread? Maybe you could try something like this?

Post in thread 'Monk Mode Celibacy' https://christisking.cc/threads/monk-mode-celibacy.595/post-33454

 

[Iacobus]

Wanted to vent/rant here...

Case A
So after posting in this thread in early December 2023 and being called out by multiple members of the forum, my porn usage has drastically declined and even if I do watch porn I'm not as interested in it as before. Being called out has a sobering effect like a bucket full of water poured on the top of the head.

But foolishly I succumbed to a more subtle temptation, which is images of beautiful women.

Since February this year I have developed a hobby of saving pictures of beautiful women from Instagram and around the web. After that I enhance the images using AI photo enhancer app on my phone, basically by using this app the images get increased resolutions and better detail especially in the face.

I thought enjoying women's natural beauty is far better than watching porn/explicit materials. But this is actually just another form of fap addictions and lusts. Now 90% of my NoFap failure comes from looking at enhanced pics of beautiful women and then being tempted to fap. In fact when I look at my phone's gallery right now it has hundreds of pictures of women

Case B
Just like viruses and bacteria that is so small that it cannot be seen by the eyes, but it can cause our bodies to get sick and even die, fapping has the same effect on me even though it looks just like any other addictions. When I was a teen and in my early 20's I used to think that PMO'ing is OK because it doesn't harm anyone, but it cannot be further from the truth because PMO can definitely kill our soul.

In early January 2023 last year, after being baptized on the eve of Christmas I felt genuine joy of being accepted into Christ's church. We celebrated the Christmas eve liturgy until late at night, and then our church have dinner together. It truly feels like a good ending of any stories. Now when I woke up in the morning the joy still lives inside me. But for some reasons that I still deeply regret until now, I somehow thought PMO'ing and getting high will be perfect to complement the joy and feeling alive inside of me. The result is on Christmas day and exactly a day after my baptism I have already relapsed and betrayed my baptismal oath.

On April's Holy Week 2023, on the days of Great Wednesday, Great Thursday, and Great Friday, I consecutively fapped for three straight days before Christ's resurrection. Christians are required to fast and increase their prayers during time of Great Lent and especially in the Holy Week, but what I'm doing is the total opposite of what a true Christian should be doing.

In January 2024 I repeated the exact same offense from a year ago. In the morning after celebrating The Eve of the Nativity of Our Lord Jesus Christ I for some reasons PMO'ed multiple times. When I sobered up and experienced post-nut clarity I regretted what I've done, and realized I'm officially worse than a donkey for repeating the same thing over and over again.

Now yesterday after confessing sins on Palm Sunday and free of PMO for over a week, I am ready to celebrate the Eve of Pascha. I increased my prayers in the Holy Week and maximize my preparations for Pascha. But this morning I decided to make use of my spare time by enhancing pics on my phone, and the result is I get into a state of lust and relapsed multiple times on Sunday of the Pascha of the Lord.

I know the the answer is to get up and fight again by stopping PMO right now, and the next time I go to the church to confess sins to the priest. But I cannot help the feeling that I am a blasphemer that is unworthy of being called a Christian.

You need to permanently delete these photos and apps now. You cannot cling to them if you hope to overcome this sin.

 

[Unending Powerhouse Match]

I really like manga, manhwa, and anime. However, they are full of coomer content, and even in the ones that aren't, the female characters are almost always extremely feminine and quite nice to look at, which you would think is harmless, but I've found that letting these images into my mind inflames lust, and it reminds me that I'm missing out on female companionship since I've been single for years and likely will never be able to marry due to certain reasons, so it can make me fall into a certain degree of despair.

I found that completely cutting off manga, manhwa and anime helped me immensely during lent and Holy Week when it came to avoiding pornography. Now, initially I planned to only cut this stuff off during lent and pick it back up after. I uninstalled my manga reader app and whatnot, but I backed up my manga library and history on that app since I expected to reinstall it after Holy Week. However, I'm thinking maybe I should just quit this stuff forever. It's not like I'd have a shortage of entertainment since I have a nice gaming rig and I have ebooks on my phone.

It would be kind of painful for me to drop this stuff once and for all. There are some stories I got emotionally invested in. I want to know what happens to Chung Myung and the Mount Hua sect.

 

[Rodion]

Wanted to vent/rant here...

Case A
So after posting in this thread in early December 2023 and being called out by multiple members of the forum, my porn usage has drastically declined and even if I do watch porn I'm not as interested in it as before. Being called out has a sobering effect like a bucket full of water poured on the top of the head.

But foolishly I succumbed to a more subtle temptation, which is images of beautiful women.

Since February this year I have developed a hobby of saving pictures of beautiful women from Instagram and around the web. After that I enhance the images using AI photo enhancer app on my phone, basically by using this app the images get increased resolutions and better detail especially in the face.

I thought enjoying women's natural beauty is far better than watching porn/explicit materials. But this is actually just another form of fap addictions and lusts. Now 90% of my NoFap failure comes from looking at enhanced pics of beautiful women and then being tempted to fap. In fact when I look at my phone's gallery right now it has hundreds of pictures of women

Case B
Just like viruses and bacteria that is so small that it cannot be seen by the eyes, but it can cause our bodies to get sick and even die, fapping has the same effect on me even though it looks just like any other addictions. When I was a teen and in my early 20's I used to think that PMO'ing is OK because it doesn't harm anyone, but it cannot be further from the truth because PMO can definitely kill our soul.

In early January 2023 last year, after being baptized on the eve of Christmas I felt genuine joy of being accepted into Christ's church. We celebrated the Christmas eve liturgy until late at night, and then our church have dinner together. It truly feels like a good ending of any stories. Now when I woke up in the morning the joy still lives inside me. But for some reasons that I still deeply regret until now, I somehow thought PMO'ing and getting high will be perfect to complement the joy and feeling alive inside of me. The result is on Christmas day and exactly a day after my baptism I have already relapsed and betrayed my baptismal oath.

On April's Holy Week 2023, on the days of Great Wednesday, Great Thursday, and Great Friday, I consecutively fapped for three straight days before Christ's resurrection. Christians are required to fast and increase their prayers during time of Great Lent and especially in the Holy Week, but what I'm doing is the total opposite of what a true Christian should be doing.

In January 2024 I repeated the exact same offense from a year ago. In the morning after celebrating The Eve of the Nativity of Our Lord Jesus Christ I for some reasons PMO'ed multiple times. When I sobered up and experienced post-nut clarity I regretted what I've done, and realized I'm officially worse than a donkey for repeating the same thing over and over again.

Now yesterday after confessing sins on Palm Sunday and free of PMO for over a week, I am ready to celebrate the Eve of Pascha. I increased my prayers in the Holy Week and maximize my preparations for Pascha. But this morning I decided to make use of my spare time by enhancing pics on my phone, and the result is I get into a state of lust and relapsed multiple times on Sunday of the Pascha of the Lord.

I know the the answer is to get up and fight again by stopping PMO right now, and the next time I go to the church to confess sins to the priest. But I cannot help the feeling that I am a blasphemer that is unworthy of being called a Christian.

Ask your priest for a penance, prostrations, prayers for purity.

I struggle a lot of remembrance of sin and lustful thoughts even though I never really consumed a lot of porn. During Holy Week the temptations were very strong and I found myself dwelling on the thought, accepting it and nurturing it within my mind which puts you in a lot of danger.

Each time this happened I would make 12 prostrations and read the canon to the Theotokos, as per a recommendation I cannot remember the source of. Prostrations really help with these problems I find, because they are a kind of physical prayer which disrupts whatever you may have been dwelling on.

 

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

I see a lot of hamstering on overdrive on this thread. Yes, the world sucks right now. Society, the job market, dating relations between men and women. All of these are an absolute disaster right now thanks to malignant external forces in the physical and spiritual realms looking to shape a new, perverse way of living opposite of God's purpose. But these external forces can only shift what's willing to be pushed. As men, you have God's spirit and characteristics inside you and through Him can fight back.

All these negative changes have only happened because on one side you had spineless, self-serving, people-pleasing men and on the opposite side you had men who just sat by idly and didn't resist for whatever reason. But inaction is a mistake since it is now percieved as compliance and a sign of weakness.

There are already enough things around in the present day to make you weak.

All sorts of residue chemicals in tap water with a myriad of possible effects.

Extremely elevated constant stress with barely any relief.

A government that has become increasingly incompetent over the decades to now reaching a point where they actually harm the hardworking tax payer in favor of criminals and non citizens.

A society that gets more hedonistic and secular with each passing year with suitable available women becoming less and less.

Different forms of media designed to shun masculinity and a well adjusted male mindset while encouraging feminine, childish, weak behavior.

The list goes on and on. But the bottom line is that to even begin trying to change any of the above things men have to become united in a common goal again and they need to become strong physically but most important, mentally.

The biggest hurdle is overcoming the vile addiction fueled by a biological impulse. Understand that no matter what kind of erotic content you are viewing (as "harmless" as it seems) you are essentially castrating and cucking yourself. You are damaging your brain, altering your mental state, and unnecessarily depleting your body of vital nutrients. All for what can be considered a perverse form of inadequate mental escape. A dangerous coping mechanism that will never be beneficial to you in any way.

You indulge in that stuff because you were unhappy or unfulfilled with something at some point in your life and now have become accustomed to using that to unsuccessfully fill the missing void. Fix whatever the underlying personal issue is and your fight to quit porn will be half won. The other half is admitting you made a mistake using porn as a crutch and doing everything you can to avoid digital and articial erotic stimuli and training yourself to not succumb to old habits should such stimuli come your way.

Find some trusted friends. Strengthen each other and don't rationalize bad behaviours. We can fool other humans but God knows what's truly in our hearts. Before God we are all sinners and one day will have to be held accountable of everything we did with the life he was fortunate to have blessed us with.

 

[Lawrence87]

A big part of the struggle against porn is the lack of a clearly defined incentive to stop looking at it. If someone said to you; "quit porn and I'll give you £100 million" it would become a whole lot easier because we would have an incentive that outweighs the momentary pleasure of pornography. As things stand its not really very easy to see what is gained from quitting.

Working on developing faith is a big component. If you fully believed you were jeopardising your eternal salvation by watching porn this would be a big disincentive. In the moment, however, most of us don't really believe this. If we did we wouldn't dare do it. So praying for, and working towards a stronger faith in Christ is one thing that can certainly help, but it is not easy.

Another thing would be to work towards a position in your church where you have more responsibility and consider the role to be something that is totally at odds with someone who watches porn and masturbates. If you are Catholic or Orthodox consider discussing serving in the altar or taking on minor orders with your priest. This can be a powerful motivating factor; having something to work towards that is at odds with the behaviour you wish to abandon.

Also consider what we are all ultimately desiring of, a Christian marriage. Imagine you meet a someone who is beautiful, Christian, virtuous, chaste, and in search of a Christian man etc. Imagine her response if she were to hear that you are a porn addict. Is she really going to be on board with that behaviour? It is difficult enough for Christian men in the West to find a partner. Why lessen your chances even further by engaging in behaviour that would be repugnant to the kind of person you want to attract?