Fun fact of the day:
Jeffery Dahmer said pornographic material was a trigger for his crimes.
Think about that.
Jeffery Dahmer said pornographic material was a trigger for his crimes.
Think about that.
The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious
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This is embarrassing for me even on an anonymous forum like this.
During my teenage and young adult years, I watched porn and other graphic images mainly as PMO materials.
Now that I'm older several different effects happened. I don't know why, but watching porn (especially women enjoying themselves) now gives me ASMR feeling, a sense of calmness and peace.
What is wrong with me, it looks that I am in a late stage terminal disease. Maybe my mind and soul is in a late stage deterioration. I know that I am wrong for watching pornographic materials, but I cannot stop chasing that feeling of being "high".
During my teenage and young adult years, I watched porn and other graphic images mainly as PMO materials.
Now that I'm older several different effects happened. I don't know why, but watching porn (especially women enjoying themselves) now gives me ASMR feeling, a sense of calmness and peace.
What is wrong with me, it looks that I am in a late stage terminal disease. Maybe my mind and soul is in a late stage deterioration. I know that I am wrong for watching pornographic materials, but I cannot stop chasing that feeling of being "high".
Just start a no porn streak and shoot for 90 days. What helped me do this was telling myself that I wanted to experience life without porn, even if only for a little while, just to know what it would feel like. That broke the habit and the high I'd get. Now whenever I ask myself if I want to look at porn it's a lot easier to say nah and move on with my day. As for masturbation I think you really have to believe it's self-abuse and pray and fast and do all that other stuff because that one's a hard fight.
virtue
Other Christian
Are you able to substitute pornography, for YouTube ASMR? That can be a good start for waning off this habit; but you have to want to quit within your heart, and repent to the Lord. The Lord can purge you from your dead works.
You can stop. Jeffery Dahmer stopped.
Pretty sure whatever any of us have done isn't anywhere near the level of psychopathy he engaged in. And yet, he still turned to Christ in the end of it all. He believed the Lord would have mercy on him.
There's a story the preacher that saved him tells about where Dahmer accidentally received pornography in the mail from a 'fan' while in prison. He became upset and repulsed by it because it was a trigger for his crimes. The old man had died.
Your old man can die too. Don't let Satan's lies take control of your nous. No one is too bound up for repentance. God is a boundless, infinite loving being and His energies will change you if you turn to him.
He's waiting for you.
I'm going to liturgy now to surround myself with Holy Iconography. I'm going to get 'high'. Praise God, for He is merciful!
That's porn affecting Your brain. You've been desensitized: "vanilla" erotica no longer stimulates You, and soon You will find Yourself pursuing hardcore content, and then, once Your brain gets used to it, You'll have to go deeper and deeper to find stimuli. If You continue on this path, You might find Yourself impotent, unable to get aroused by anything other than the most degenerate filth. Stop before it's too late.
Hmm sounds a lot like someone I know....
In all seriousness @Doraemon, do not underestimate this adversary. Porn can end up ruining your life, tearing you apart from God, and sending you down the lonely road to Hell. Commit TODAY to complete abstinence and renounce all lustful pursuits. This is the only sane path. Even if you don't manage to quit entirely and keep giving in, you're still better off trying your best than just allowing sin to control you. That warm and calm feeling you get when you are aroused... that's what creeping death feels like.
Before I found Christ, I worked with porn addiction counselors and coaches. They told me no one has ever regretted quitting. Most people went on to make more money than before or ended up in successful marriages. Think about that. Every single person who quit benefited in some way and most didn't even consider the spiritual aspect. I believe anyone can quit porn because God does not want us to sin and so he will do everything to help us change. But we cannot quit without Him.
Shaquilleoatmeal
Protestant
Definitely agree with getting rid of the TV. Haven’t watched that in years. Internet on the other hand is quite difficult to use in moderation. It seems lots of people these days, myself included, are basically dopamine addicts; always wanting to pleasure ourselves, sexually and non sexually. The book “Amusing ourselves to death”, is a great read on how we’re being hardwired to only want instant gratification.
Holymanaspen
Orthodox
I have a problem with p**nography, mastrubation and lust that I just haven't been able to shake.
I've white-knuckled it for a year and a half in the past, but really I've never had that inner transformation.
This is just the beginning of my journey. I've largely ignored it and indulged for far too long. I can't do it myself, I'm going to need God to help me.
I've white-knuckled it for a year and a half in the past, but really I've never had that inner transformation.
This is just the beginning of my journey. I've largely ignored it and indulged for far too long. I can't do it myself, I'm going to need God to help me.
Man being addicted to PMO is very shameful. I avoided logging in to this forum for nearly a month due to being too ashamed of my last post.
Not only that, this December for nearly a month I also avoided going to the church so I don't have to confess sins to the priest. Because confessing sins that are basically the same over and over again every weeks makes me ashamed to the max. As a consequence I have not received the holy communion for a long time.
Also having accountability partner helps. Being called out by multiple members of the forum to stop is a big motivation to quit.
Not only that, this December for nearly a month I also avoided going to the church so I don't have to confess sins to the priest. Because confessing sins that are basically the same over and over again every weeks makes me ashamed to the max. As a consequence I have not received the holy communion for a long time.
I remember Roosh once said that living in a state of lust is diametrically opposed to living in communion with God. It's hard to live a godly life when our mind is clouded with evils like these. Roosh said that when lustful thoughts enter he recited The Jesus Prayer multiple times, up to hundreds of times until the thoughts subsided.
Also having accountability partner helps. Being called out by multiple members of the forum to stop is a big motivation to quit.
This is why having the "freedom" to indulge ourselves is not freedom at all. It soon enslaves us. God will free you, the devil will use shame and despair to keep you enslaved. Rip off that plaster and confess. There is a reason modern society gives us all this "freedom" - because those who control us know where it leads.
Perseus66
Protestant
True words there. Self-control = freedom. The desire for casual sex and many sex partners (PUA) is caused by masturbation. Hookup culture, broken families and racial mixing are a direct consequence of widespread self-abuse among men.
A man who is free from masturbation, is also a man who doesn't feel the need to seek exotic sex partners in foreign lands. Instead he wishes for a pure woman of his own race/background with whom to start and keep a family.
White people currently dying out/being replaced in their own countries is just God's punishment for collective sin. God willing, it's never too late to repent.
Some things that are beneficial in this battle.
Block all porn sites, including sites that aren't explicitly porn but have porn on them (i.e: reddit)
Commit to keeping your surroundings to a decent level of tidiness. If you have some chores to be getting on with on a daily basis you will have something to fight against boredom.
Have hobbies and do exercise. Learning a skill will give you dopamine hits, as will exercise. It will also prevent boredom.
Spend time with family and friends. None of us want to go off and masturbate if we are having a pleasant time with others.
Confess regularly.
Do prostrations.
Reflect on your past sins, take sole responsibility for them. Reflect on death and judgment. Do you really want to be like one of the unwise virgins who isn't able to find any oil for their lamp?
Bring forth fruits worthy of repentance.
Reflect deeply and often on the joys of paradise and the sheer agony of hell.
Realise that it is worth enduring anything, and forgoing anything to attain the Grace of God and the joys of paradise.
If you fall get back up immediately. Don't despair of your salvation but seek the infinite mercy and abundant longsuffering of our Lord.
Do not put off repentance.
Pray fervently every day that you be rid of your shameful passions.
Edit to add:
Keep off dating apps.
Give up using foul language and making filthy jokes.
Fast regularly.
Block all porn sites, including sites that aren't explicitly porn but have porn on them (i.e: reddit)
Commit to keeping your surroundings to a decent level of tidiness. If you have some chores to be getting on with on a daily basis you will have something to fight against boredom.
Have hobbies and do exercise. Learning a skill will give you dopamine hits, as will exercise. It will also prevent boredom.
Spend time with family and friends. None of us want to go off and masturbate if we are having a pleasant time with others.
Confess regularly.
Do prostrations.
Reflect on your past sins, take sole responsibility for them. Reflect on death and judgment. Do you really want to be like one of the unwise virgins who isn't able to find any oil for their lamp?
Bring forth fruits worthy of repentance.
Reflect deeply and often on the joys of paradise and the sheer agony of hell.
Realise that it is worth enduring anything, and forgoing anything to attain the Grace of God and the joys of paradise.
If you fall get back up immediately. Don't despair of your salvation but seek the infinite mercy and abundant longsuffering of our Lord.
Do not put off repentance.
Pray fervently every day that you be rid of your shameful passions.
Edit to add:
Keep off dating apps.
Give up using foul language and making filthy jokes.
Fast regularly.
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NPR actually wrote a piece saying “it’s dangerous that men are abstaining from wanking it to pr0n because that could lead to ExTrEmE cOnSpIrAcY cUlTuRe”. The lispy effeminate voice the speaker has just making it all the funnier. This is what winning looks like.
I should talk to NPR; I've masturbated less in the last week than I have in months. I've observed the following:
I feel less tempted to watch porn or stare at women.
I'm more vigilant to guard my eyes. I feel a stronger sense of the beauty of inward purity.
It's easier for me to get turned on simply by the beauty of a woman's face or the warmth of her smile, so my mind doesn't gravitate as quickly to the types of fetishes and obsessions that used to draw me to pornography.
If you ever feel tempted to masturbate, just think about how terrified the Jews are of you abstaining and this will give you motivation to stop
Also, by not clicking or giving money, you are also in a small way helping to get these girls out of a life of destruction, either physically, spiritually, or both. Every lost click is another lost shekel.If you ever feel tempted to masturbate, just think about how terrified the Jews are of you abstaining and this will give you motivation to stop
Every time you masturbate a Jew gets a shekel
Depends on what kind of marriage, Iv been married for over a decade and my sex life was really good, sorry to sound but for the last 2 months my wife has refused to have sex with me and says shes never having sex with me again, so I havent ejaculated for over 2 months, the worst part is I still sleep next to her and was still seeing her naked getting out the shower and dressing so I asked her not to do that anymore if she not having sex with me, so I hadnt really watched porn of anything for like a year or 2 but have been tempted lately and watched once or twice for a short time but didnt act on it just went to bed no masterbation or anything, I think this is just a spiritual things as Im a catechumen almost being baptised, I do think after baptism things will change some time, because one of the many reasons my wife wont even hold my hand or kiss me (according to her) is because she saw a youtube video of the holy communion of everyone taking it from the same spoon, thats why I say its spiritual, so just letting you know that marriage might not always be the answer but I think if you in the right marriage it will be. Mine is still healing so maybe a bad example.