Brother I have met many seminarians who are bitterly single. Some Orthodox ones refuse to be ordained until they find a wife.
But Catholics require celibacy so I have no idea why you believe being a Catholic seminarian is good for finding a wife. You'd spend years at Seminary, only to get married and be stuck with a degree with no economic value and a wife to provide for (if she doesn't outright dump you for being broke)?
Let me be clear: I am neither drunk nor high when I say that Catholic priests and seminarians are irresistible to women. I know this might sound as unbelievable as claiming Bigfoot is real, but I have seen it with my own eyes. Even from minor seminary, they are perceived as more attractive by female students of their age.
Father, I did not recommend that anyone purposefully become a Catholic priest or seminarian to find a wife. I merely suggested that we deconstruct the mechanisms that make them attractive to women. It seems that praying a lot and becoming close to God fills us with powerful positive energy. This same energy enables saints to predict the future, heal the sick, and speak with animals. It is not surprising if this same energy enables women to be attracted to men of God.
Interestingly, in Orthodoxy, this attractiveness often does not manifest itself. I agree with you. Here’s a real-world story: Late last year, a visiting priest from Palembang came to my parish. Despite not being a hieromonk and having a stable job at a state-owned oil company, he chose to remain celibate. I asked him why he made such a strong decision. He said that during his high school years, he had a girlfriend who told him she didn't want to compete with God, leading them to break up. Much later, when he was nearing ordination, he had another girlfriend, but that relationship also did not work out, and he was left alone. With no other choice, he continued to be ordained without a wife and became celibate.
This is the important part here. Any man can get married if his standards are low enough. And many men have no standards at all. Guys like Roosh, Samseau and Scorpion and myself have much higher standards of a potential wife than most normies.
It seems we need to compromise on our standards, as we can't have it all. Like the "fast, cheap, good" triangle, we can only pick two, and there are no perfect options. Perhaps in regard to relationships, we need to prioritize what we want in a partner and be prepared to sacrifice other traits.
I only wish God would take away my libido as I still catch myself swivel necking when a hot woman enters the room. What a cruel trick. Women truly are kryptonite.
I respect your decision, but I think it is not that simple. I once succeeded in eliminating my lust through consistent prayer and fasting. However, I had an epiphany: my lust and I are inseparable; it is a part of who I am, just as Georges Bizet is inseparable from his music. From that time onward, despite being deeply addicted to my lust and always feeling aroused, I feel in control of myself. Being lustful drives me to self-improve and become a better man.
If I look around me, almost no one is marrying, and when it does happen, those women aren't good, let's just be real here.
I have yet to meet a young (under 50) married man who is happy. They are not happy, because their women treat them like shit and their lives are full of bitter bickering. Their women are unwilling to do anything for them, and yet keep asking more and more of them. Women behave this way today because they know they can get away with it, and the entire society strongly encourages it.
Hmm, then your experience is the opposite of mine. When I look around, I see uneducated truck drivers, who are lucky if they even earn minimum wage, having loyal wives. Instead of leaving them for men of higher standing, their wives get jobs to help support their families. I also see school security guards with loyal wives.
Strangely, from the middle class and above, the women at these levels offer very little return on investment. They are very demanding with little to offer themselves, and they overprice themselves.
