Somebody's got a homosexual stalker.What a winner, Urkle go fuck yourself, and stop trying to act like you’re some tough motherfucker.
Somebody's got a homosexual stalker.What a winner, Urkle go fuck yourself, and stop trying to act like you’re some tough motherfucker.
Sex addiction and drug/alcohol addiction are both apples that fall under the same tree of addiction.Your comparing apples to oranges.
Yes, and so is wanting to stop and eat at McDonald's when driving by and smelling the fake fries that they intentionally waft in the air for a 5 block radius. But that doesn't mean that you stop.Having sex with woman is a normal urge.
Wrong, the problem is that the OP is a newbie troll who came in hot by starting a junk thread in which "he" ignored all actionable advice and continued to drone on for 5 pages while well-known members argue amongst themselves as to the details of "Muh, whoring bad, marriage good."The problem is not that he wants to have sex. He is not being excessive about it. The problem is having sex with worthless whores. He should continue having sex as much as possible but with the right girl.
So does pedophilia, but priests are banging children anyway.As for marriage. I´m not going to post bilbical quotes. But what you are saying goes 100% against the catholic teachings I had when growing up.
Most modern women need a lot of material possessions and "experiences" (traveling, going to restaurants, etc.) to keep them entertained and happy. Whereas, a disciplined man living a simple, minimalist life can be happy sitting under a tree whittling a piece of wood with a good knife.
As a happily married guy with a gaggle of little kids who seem to be doing well, I have to say thanks. Me, wise? Maybe I am in a relative sense. That's a nice thought. Maybe the bar for what constitutes wisdom is low nowadays. I think of myself as average or below average in all the parental and spousal virtues you listed, yet here I am doing it.Parenting and marriage take a lot of commitment, wisdom, patience, faith, and discipline, skills that are severely lacking in 90% of the modern human population.
The OP doesn´t have a sex addiction problem. Wanting to have sex is again perfectly normal. What he needs is to find a good girl. And he needs to ask God for it.You ignored the main points and body of my post, which is that 90% of modern humans don't have the skill set to deal effectively and long-term with children and marriage.
Sex addiction and drug/alcohol addiction are both apples that fall under the same tree of addiction.
Yes, and so is wanting to stop and eat at McDonald's when driving by and smelling the fake fries that they intentionally waft in the air for a 5 block radius. But that doesn't mean that you stop.
Wrong, the problem is that the OP is a newbie troll who came in hot by starting a junk thread in which "he" ignored all actionable advice and continued to drone on for 5 pages while well-known members argue amongst themselves as to the details of "Muh, whoring bad, marriage good."
So does pedophilia, but priests are banging children anyway.
"Fed" isn't meant literally. It's synonymous with emotional trolling, where great solutions to a problem are presented by CiK members yet the OP refuses to act on said solutions and instead keeps belaboring an already moot point.
I have to disagree with you here. I think OP is genuine in asking for advice. You can see the progression from when he first started asking questions, to receiving advices from fellow members, and finally he started his journey towards stopping visiting his partner. All in a span of just a few days. Even when starting the thread OP knew that there is something wrong in his life decision.Wrong, the problem is that the OP is a newbie troll who came in hot by starting a junk thread in which "he" ignored all actionable advice and continued to drone on for 5 pages while well-known members argue amongst themselves as to the details of "Muh, whoring bad, marriage good."
This thread is helping me.But this thread is not just about him. It can be used for others.
Not only that, but there's also not a lot of difference between a "whore" and "typical girl you ask out on a date."with modern divorce laws the way they are now, why would a successful man choose to have a common law or regular marriage?
Therefore, to drop 1000dollars on a high end whore gives him a guaranteed result and everyone gets what they want, with no loss of time better spent elsewhere.
Thank you for this post. I don’t know what that posters problem is. Yes I have blocked her number and have begun praying a lot more, in addition to the Orthodox style prostrations. I am doing well. I don’t think the battle will be easy, but I have taken the advice of the people in this thread. This morning I saw an attractive woman walking into work and it triggered lust in me, but it totally passed.
So the positives are, cut off contact / blocked her number, a lot of prayer, confession, which I was doing even before registering here, no desire to visit the clubs, no pmo, no porn.
The physical act of prostrating while praying seems immensely helpful, even lots of physical activity. I have been working out every day, and being physically tired helps because my body simply doesn’t have the energy to dwell on lust.
Yes I need to find a good woman, how I don’t know, but I will keep praying for it.
Good. But I wasn't referring to you or most of the 675 guys on CiK.I think of myself as average or below average in all the parental and spousal virtues you listed, yet here I am doing it.
And so please pardon my suspicions which led to direct accusations in an attempt to get to the truth of the matter.Also thought he might be trolling.
Okay, Paternos. You know what I meant, it may be exaggerated, but it exists.Priests are not banging children.
Understood, I will reevaluate my position as it seems some are benefiting from this thread.I have to disagree with you here. I think OP is genuine in asking for advice.
Through the years we've had a lot of problems with newbies coming in hot, members being harassed, and attempted doxxings. Pardon my paranoia. It seems some high value posters here are vouching for you so I will go on my way. God Bless you.I don’t know what that posters problem is.
Okay, heard, I apologize for the interruption.This thread is helping me.
So everybody's contributions have been insincere? It's all BS? It doesn't seem that way to me.Calling BS on this entire thread is a very reasonable take. This is a slow pitch right down the center of the plate, ripe for all to contribute. Amazingly, by the newest member. One could not ask for better.
Again, that's what forms most of my responses to threads like this or topics like this. We all do, or most of us that ever bothered to come here, it's #1 issue or a top 3 issue while we also talk about and investigate other interesting things that red pill men do.What he needs is to find a good girl. And he needs to ask God for it.
Of course not, nobody stated that. I myself have defended troll threads that turn into gold. What was being questioned was not well-known members authentic responses to a possible troll thread, but the OP newbie coming in hot with a controversial single issue topic thread, instead of posting in an already existing relevant thread. That and the username is a bit suspect. We've seen this pattern before. But time will tell.Everybody's contributions have been insincere?
And so your take is respected and noted.It's all BS? It doesn't seem that way to me.
Not to toot my own horn here, but people gloss over how important this point I just made is. If I change my environment, for example (go overseas let's say), and find a wife, did God "give her to me"? It shows you that that is a really weird way of looking at things, at the very least. Do you owe everything to God? Yes. I think I've disproved the magical God thing with that point, though. For some reason the religious among us think that marriage is some other type of class of action that is distinct and separate from any other accomplishment in life, ie you have to put the work in. By the way, the way things stand here it's probably more likely that things don't work out in the west when compared to another country (where both can go wrong, I agree).You can't blame God for that, so you have to change your environment. It's not like God can force women into being good wives or wife prospects any more than he can force us to accept a fatty for marriage. Na'mean?
Not to toot my own horn here, but people gloss over how important this point I just made is. If I change my environment, for example (go overseas let's say), and find a wife, did God "give her to me"? It shows you that that is a really weird way of looking at things, at the very least. Do you owe everything to God? Yes. I think I've disproved the magical God thing with that point, though. For some reason the religious among us think that marriage is some other type of class of action that is distinct and separate from any other accomplishment in life, ie you have to put the work in. By the way, the way things stand here it's probably more likely that things don't work out in the west when compared to another country (where both can go wrong, I agree).
I keep going back to the fact, what I consider the reality, that marriage is just a form of being, like some of the monks state, just as they state that being celibate is a form. I fully admit that it is possible, even quite likely, that the evil spirits use my ego against me to make me think as though I "deserve" certain things. I've seen a lot of unreasonable people over time, and I think a lot about ego and self reflection. While I probably am unaware of a number of sins that I carry around, one thing I don't think is that I'm being unreasonable in my pursuit for a wife. I just think it's an unfortunate era (in ways), and it presents some good things, and some challenges.
The only ones I see who might fit that are old. Historically ancient, and I'm aware of it. I can't unsee it, like others who don't think very much about things who don't see. Maybe that's better, or maybe it's just the bliss of ignorance. Either way, it ain't me.Dude marriage is about having a home. The right wife is the woman who submits to you (but for real. Not because she is faking). Doesn´t challenge every shit you make. And passes the boner test. She also must bring joy.
I won't contest that that's the case for you, so I'll take your word for it. Not everyone is that lucky. I know, because I know what kind of kid I was and I see what kids are like - and I do see a lot that I like, but they are fewer in terms of being easy for parents. I had a constitution that was easy for my parents, literally a dream. I see parents who are either bad parents, have nightmare kids, or both. I'm sad for them.Kids will take away all boredom of your life. They are perfect. With children you don´t need nobody else in your life.
I hear this all the time, but I am calling BS on it, right or wrong. I think it's far more dependent on what your wife is like, and in America, it's always going to be harder due to egalitarian and "sharing" nonsense.It´s not the same. Having a kid when your 20 or 40. The first 3 years are really demanding. Until they take the diapers away. It´s really demanding. And the older you are worse it will be.
Partly true, but partly irrelevant in the way that I don't see more than 1-2% attractive women in the society, and few are young. I think your last sentence is a self shine, but it's true I don't know and we're both speculating.If you can´t find a woman its because your not looking for one. As simple as that. I believe God decides if you are ready and deserve the responsibility of creating a family.
Dude marriage is about having a home. The right wife is the woman who submits to you (but for real. Not because she is faking). Doesn´t challenge every shit you make. And passes the boner test. She also must bring joy.
There was a list on RVF of good women traits. No social media, good relationship with father, etc ,etc.
Some people have a calling. Had a friend who was an incredible goalkeeper. Who was studying to be a priest. BUT one thing is to have a calling. Other is to be a chicken shit who is afraid of putting the work. Try buying a ring and asking a girl to marry you. Or waiting for your kid to be born.
Kids will take away all boredom of your life. They are perfect. With children you don´t need nobody else in your life.
I can´t see my life without my kids. And maybe this year I will decide to have more.
It´s not the same. Having a kid when your 20 or 40. The first 3 years are really demanding. Until they take the diapers away. It´s really demanding. And the older you are worse it will be.
If you can´t find a woman its because your not looking for one. As simple as that. I believe God decides if you are ready and deserve the responsibility of creating a family.