I used to look down on fat people with disdain. When I would see a morbidly obese person I immediately felt that that person had no discipline and no self respect. My thoughts on that have softened because I am now very overweight.
I grew up in the Arnie and Stallone era and got into weight lifting big time in high school and college. After I was discharged from the Marine Corps I got on with a big city fire department. We have workout time written into our contract. I have been in excellent physical shape my entire adult life. Up until the past few years.
I gained over 50 pounds during the Rona. I did not get to see my kids for months and I started drinking too much. One or two beers a night became a six pack. I currently weigh 263 lbs. I should be in the 195-205 range. At my last physical the doc expressed some concern. Going over years of my physical evals he pointed out how I used to be in really good shape and wondered what was up. I think it is a few things- I think I was suffering from depression and self medicating with food and alcohol.
After I gained all of the weight I finally received word from my local archdiocese that my annulment was granted and my previous marriage was considered null. As bad as it is to say, pussy was always a motivating factor in my working out. The better shape I was in the more attention I got from women. But we have all seen what women have become.
During the Rona I really started looking hard for a "virtuous" woman who was also attractive. After looking for more than a year I found two. One of whom is now married. Even if I get back in shape the pickings are extraordinarily slim. I am never going to put myself into the position that the state and the family courts can crucify me again so what am I to do? What is my motivation to work out and get slimmer? I know all of the feel good reasons, e.g., you'll feel better, you'll live longer, etc. but if I am not going to have a spouse and family what is the point?
God bless my niece. She told me "you're not fat. You just have a big tummy!" lol
This is exactly what I struggle with. Granted, I'm only a bit overweight, I am generally out of shape, have lost tons of muscle, cardio is non-existent, and I don't care to work out anymore. After all, when you lose interest in women, the "self-improvement" thing goes out the window. I'm not sure that lack of motivation is the same thing as depression or even a symptom of it. Maybe our focus and priorities just change. Besides, "just do it for yourself" is a weak motivator, as well. Perhaps just taking long walks is a good start and will get the mind on other things.
The key to losing weight, and staying fit is very simple. Do NOT eat sucrose! That is, white sugar, sugar that comes from sugar cane or beet sugar.
Sucrose degrades your metabolism, which then makes it impossible if not difficult to break down foods. This causes weight gain. Eventually, sucrose degrades your metabolism to the point where it fails, which then results in becoming diabetic. Eventually, sucrose consumption destroys the metabolism completely, which means destroying the largest metabolic organ in the body - the heart.
What's the number #1 killer of Americans today? Heart disease. Has been for over 50 years. All because of sucrose. 100,000x more dangerous than a joke like COVID.
If America stopped eating sucrose, they would lose a collective 50 pounds off the national weight average. Sucrose is the greatest evil in the world.
Our bodies do have an effect on the real us - our mood, emotions, etc - but no, they are not in any way the real us. Our souls are the real us. We dwell inside our bodies/temples and one day will leave these behind, at least in present form.
We are resurrected with the heavily bodies that match how we treat our earthly bodies - the scripture tells us this when Jesus speaks about the parable of inviting the strangers to the Wedding. Some of the strangers show up, and everyone looks at them: "Where are your clothes?" Because they are dressed in rags or appear totally naked. And they are thrown into hell. The clothes are metaphors for our virtue.
So your body on earth is being judged by the Lord - it is a gift to you from God. Trash it, and when we are resurrected, you get the same trashed appearance. It could severely impact your chances of salvation.
Do not underestimate gluttony, probably the main way people are going to hell today in America.