You have distilled my point from the prior post well.I can't recall a single sermon addressing women. If pastors and clergymen cannot address half their congregation about their sins then who is keeping Christian women accountable (I have no hope for secular women). It's like if a guy can find a low-fat woman who loves him, keeps him from fornicating or adultery and can competently raise kids and run a household she's a unicorn. I think male clergy are often too weak to address women or people feel like they don't want to be mansplained. Isn't it up to the elder females in households to hold women accountable and teach them? All it took was for the Silents and the Boomers to become feminists and then you have the problem we have where wise women counselors have disappeared and will probably be gone for generations.
Some call me callous but I'm not really worried about it. If above average dudes can barely find suitable wives that result in a family in the modern day, as I've stated many times, the average to below average guys never had a chance.What is the bloodless eucharist of the infertility cult doing to the water supply, men, not to mention to gay frogs?
Some call me callous but I'm not really worried about it. If above average dudes can barely find suitable wives that result in a family in the modern day, as I've stated many times, the average to below average guys never had a chance.
It's funny to me that people therefore find it odd that a group that is unrealistic and irrational (again, not an accusation, a population level reality) is restricted to some degree. Or that some people are, or behave, better under particular circumstances. Yes, we have to live in clown world, alas.I wish I saved this chart when I saw it. It showed a normal distribution curve reflecting that men rate the average woman as a 5. This was compared with a bell curve showing that women rate the average man as a 2.5.
I have declined the majority of wedding invitations I have received.Do you guys think or have you thought this about the headache of marriage? It's funny that it's a harbinger, and quite clear.
Yes, as it has gotten away from an important religious ceremony and serious part of life, beginning a journey with the head of the family under God, we have seen greater and greater "industrialization" of weddings. You picked up on what I was putting down, which I didn't do as clearly as I should have, so thanks. It isn't that the marriage is a headache, it's that the formality around the celebration and the nonsense size and pomp/circumstance is off putting - especially for a man who just wants a solid, meaningful (and not so costly) experience that is doing its best to be rightly guided and holy. As people have pointed out, it's no wonder that there has been a "big" correlation between wedding size and how long lasting the marriage is (inverse relationship, yet again).Realistically, the only “extra”, superfluous people who should be invited to weddings are the partners of people who should have been invited and certain categories of children, whose parent/parents deserved to be invited.
There’s also a significant question mark about the value brought to the wedding/marriage by both parties.It isn't that the marriage is a headache, it's that the formality around the celebration and the nonsense size and pomp/circumstance is off putting - especially for a man who just wants a solid, meaningful (and not so costly) experience that is doing its best to be rightly guided and holy. As people have pointed out, it's no wonder that there has been a "big" correlation between wedding size and how long lasting the marriage is (inverse relationship, yet again).
The ROI isn't low, it's obscene. When you can make the argument (Pearl does) that men don't really get all that much out of marriage in general, you really see how low we've gone. As I always point out, there used to be things called dowries for a reason. Imagine that ... you got literally money AND all of the historical things you include in your post (purity, making the home, conveniences, etc) that modern men don't. The real tragedy is that no one will even talk about a small % of this, let alone the full picture.Nietzsche’s quote about measuring things by what they cost you comes to mind. Men are paying (higher) costs for a ceremony and then marriage, both financially and figuratively/socially, than what they are getting in return.
I remember it well.I wish I saved this chart when I saw it. It showed a normal distribution curve reflecting that men rate the average woman as a 5. This was compared with a bell curve showing that women rate the average man as a 2.5.