Were you not born into a family? What kind of statement is that? A waifu is going to solve my problems? Is this the same forum that makes fun of roasties? Yeah it will solve my problems. Same way a job solves problems.
I would venture to say it depends largely on what types of problems we are talking about here.
Being a flat earther, it doesn't surprise me that you would be clueless. And it sounds snarky because I have a tendency to be that way. However, you are correct, I do do extraordinarily well on Reddit because I am a co-founder. My name is Aaron Hillel Swartz, and counter-semite to popular opinion I am not a usual suspect.
Context does matter, even if we are urging others on to do virtuous things. Sometimes I do feel people overdo the simpleton recommendation, but hey, that's just from being around a while.
I tend to agree with Sandalwood on a few things, as we mildly push back with the idea that one can't or should have some expectation for a wife, somehow or somewhere when one actually has objective qualities.
This goes back to our other arguments and feeds some suspicion that I brought up in the other thread about men not caring about other men, or it being a dog eat dog deep down, and mostly the other stuff is lip service (you see this through action or inaction in this case). If you're trying in general, or wouldn't like to fall into lust or temptation as much, I think having a wife definitely and quite clearly does solve problems. It might create others, but that's a different issue and can be treated elsewhere or at another time.
Yes, but many, and perhaps due to exhaustion or indifference, tend to just tell other people go be a eunuch, to put it shortly. I'm not being cynical but I suspect a lot of that competition and indifference that men have as a part of their nature has a lot to do with it, and we just aren't all that honest about it.
People need to return to reality. Especially this self-flogging people push.
To be fair, I don't think the others are saying one should even try to self actualize or manifest anything. I think they are actually earnest in encouraging people to be faithful. The problem you and I have with it, at times, is that they come off with this magic God sentiment or they seem to push it, and as I've said we clearly have to do a lot, especially regarding certain topics or areas of life. I've also said I find the retrospective analysis both lame and unhelpful. If we have free will, of course everything that happened wasn't supposed to happen. It could have happened in all sorts of ways, I'm guessing bothgood and bad. I think I'm one of the few that truly believes there is a randomness built into the world that is actually mysterious and beautiful. The natural world shows us that. It doesn't do us created beings any good to try to think that everything has "been decided" out of time because that also necessitates us thinking we're "saved" in ways we might not be.
Yes, along these same lines, what I'm getting at with the above statements and my thoughts on all of this, and yes they are just thoughts, is that we are severely lacking in many of our attempts (even really smart or holy people) to explain even remotely what is going on some of the time. I think this may be on purpose or designed, possibly because we can't handle it. Here is the point of things: there are some things in life that are so important and obvious, and yet so many of us humans just flat out whiff and mess up, and it literally can mean life and death - and in absurd ways to boot. Covid? Animal attacks? Machine deaths? Uncommon over a long period of time but sometimes just ridiculous stuff. But it's not even that natural world randomness, something we know that exists, that is all that bothersome. It's that we all, even Orthodox (I think) believe that there are truly good things in the world. Then we chase them, and seemingly for good reason: working out, winning a game, being great at your job, having kids that are a good reflection on us, wanting them and us to do well, etc. But then comes the whoa, whoa whoa now, don't take that too far. Oh, you want a decent looking wife who brings something to the table? You think you need to go to another country to do that? Wait a minute there, that sounds like you're taking things into your own hands, and that is questionable. Possibly, it's not being faithful! Don't you dare! Ha, I think you all get the point.
You absolute alpha edglelord definetly not acting like a triggered teenager on her period that can't handle reality.
You're sort of missing my point here is that we don't and shouldn't tell people to not pursue X or be good and work at Y because you "should just reject the world" as it seems when people get advanced they recommend. That is interestingly a luxury that the achieved person has and creates a sort of paradox, of course. Along those lines, why shouldn't we pursue a good or better woman? Why do many at the site think that certain topics are only "for God" to fatalistically determine for us? That's what is what is questioned here.
I agree with this. I don't want to speak for other people, but the woman thing is a lost cause for at least 1.5 generations. That's what is so stark. With opportunity for men (and all others) decreasing, it seems like it'll be even less likely that any pair bonding will occur. I hope I'm wrong.
I probably don't quite follow your point.
Yes. We have finally clarified things. Rich and poor (talented and not so talented) alike can chase "the world". What I'm getting at is that here the forum, or several members or types, conflate certain normal things in life - dedication, accomplishment, pursuing goals, etc as being worldly pursuits. That's the point we are making. I like the job analogy that Sandalwood brought up because it proves the point as to how ridiculous things can get at times, but yes, God still can be in "control." I know they are somewhat different, but no one would say in their right mind "If it is for your salvation, God will hook you up with a job." Rather, what I'm getting at is that there are some things that reducing them down don't make any sense to "just pray for" and be OK with it. If you don't go out and pound the pavement or try to get opportunities, by definition you won't get a job. As may be upcoming with the economy, perhaps there won't be many jobs left, like there aren't women, who knows. I just find it bizarre when older men (who are married to boot) talk about women and finding wives in this way. It seems utterly lacking for such an important part of life, and for the furthering of Orthodox people, let's say.
It depends. For most, probably whenever they look like they're "beyond half her age plus seven years," but the key part is 'look like'.
Exactly another reason not to rule out going abroad. When you make that move and see it coming for those treasured last few red states, too, you realize what you need as things get worse is connections. People you can rely on. A skill they can rely on you for. And some clean water nearby would probably help, too.
I agree, and appreciate the anecdote. The problem in general with these topics is that the unicorn or very small percentage girl™ is that over a population, it doesn't really help. Why? There are too many adjunct characteristics for a match to work. So if you have only a tiny percentage of women even interested in some type of age gap, then you need race, then you need slim, then you need to actually be around them, then you need to break the social barrier (as they say), then ... see my point? In normal cultures, you get several possibilities that make for the hard compatibility match it takes to actually get with someone long term or marry. I do think that you are correct about for those for whom it works though - looks younger, is youthful and has desirable characteristics.
