Ah to be 21 again and go to my first bars. Start chatting up a gal my age and then a guy like 10 15 years elder pulls up and gives me the stink eye. “Oh hey Kaveman, this is my boyfriend, Chad, this is my new friend Kaveman”
it’s funny how he will have no problem with college Chad sleeping around with girls his age but if an older man wants a relationship it’s awful
They’re both chads. If an older man can pull up on a woman and her not get grossed out and go “old bag” I’m sorry, he’s a chad too.
I've mentioned this at least a dozen times on the forum and I'm sure multiple times on this thread. A lot of women are backstopped in every way, especially if you are upper middle class, like you say, it comes out again in this generation. Amazing.
You are correct, but they aren't even aware of it (it's just visceral/subconcious), and the funnier part is that women their age won't give most of them the time of day anyway, nullifying any point if he even made it.
Absolutely. My dad left me and my mom when I was two years old and was intermittently absent throughout my entire childhood and adolescence (though he loved me I think he was embarrassed to have bred with my mom and so he often disappeared). When I was around 17 he got remarried to a woman 15 years his junior and they had a girl together when I was 20. Fast forward to today and my Boomer male feminist father built my 30 year old half sister a custom house, pays her dog's vet bills and helps take care of them, bought her a car, paid for her college, and attended all her high school games (even moving her to another state for her senior year to play for a nationally recognized high school program in hopes of obtaining a college scholarship to play sports ball). In contrast, my dad never attended one of my high school football games, never paid a dime of child support (my mother refused to ask for his help), did not pay for my college, and refused to give me a 20K 90-day bridge loan to buy my first house.
Unless you’re hooking up on tinder or into the poly thing, an allowance is just kind of expected in monogamy these days. I don’t even see this as a bad thing. If you passport bro out this is EXACTLY what those kind of relationships are.
Im just curious as to what her parents did that allowed this kind of consumption? Best thing that can happen is all these people get wiped out in something like a super ‘08. It’s why I don’t see financial collapse or hyperinflation necessarily a bad thing.
In other places it's more of an understood thing, I think you are correct in this. The difference is that you actually get some benefits from it, vs what in the west is closer to what (I haven't heard this in a while) a pay piggy was.
They can be hotter and more traditional which is awesome if you’re going into this for Orthodox marriage, but that’s about it. I am going to try Texas Jenn’s line when my single-tude ends and it inevitably gets bought up and say “ewww, an allowance, isn’t that for children? I see you more as a partner” and let’s see how long it takes for her to find someone else.
In an Orthodox marriage what's yours is hers and what's hers is yours. Because you both recognize your roles in relation to each other and to God. Totally different to this "allowance" nonsense which is nothing more than prostitution.
So when people say “modern women are whores” they’re not being insulting. They’re kind of on the nose. “I’ll be with you and only you and in exchange be a man and help me with my bills.” It’s literally prostitution veiled as a relationship by that logic.
The old saying is women only have two choices in profession.. That of a mother or that of a whore. Choose wisely. And no, a woman does not need to give birth to be a motherly figure.
