By the time he has the future, few of them will be attractive to him anymore. This is THE biggest issue in all of the pairing analyses.
My sister is one of these women. She's early 30s. She's a full blown homosexual now and living with a butch lesbian (whom she inflicts 'lesbian battering' on). Hates the thought of children. Doesn't like men anymore. Blames all her relationship issues on them instead of taking accountability. She's starting to look old and her fertility window is closing. Life is about wine, food, and boisterous laughter.
She had a pretty good and smart man and was on the brink of marriage (I was encouraging it) but it got foiled, for one because she didn't like being led. She called this him "belittling" her and she labeled him a narcissist. This was all untrue. She was the crazy one. I'll vouch for the guy. You would think by how she talked about him that he was a psychopath. It's really concerning the lengths that these psychotic women will go to tarnish former male partners.
My father was telling her that he didn't make enough money. My dad failed to realize that he was a hustler, because, like my father, and like me, he finally made it in his early 30s and is doing very well for himself. My father should have encouraged him and advised him like a son but instead looked at him as a deadbeat because he needed help getting on his feet. Bad move. Now you've got a lesbo daughter. At first he resisted but eventually he caved because "Whatever makes her happy" is the motto now. He couldn't resist having bottles of wine with them.
My mother nurtures and encourages this whole lesbian fiasco by drinking, dining and whining with them frequently. She gives and recieves gifts from the butches mother, stays in constant girl chat group texts with all of them. "Whatever makes her happy" is the motto from her also. Pretends to be a Christian but exercises tolerance as a virtue. Her feminist values have infected both my sisters so I try to cut the head off of the snake by calling her out for her behavior. She's the reason my parents initially got divorced because she cheated on my father with a loser fresh out of prison.
My mother has the nerve to bad mouth this guy who never layed a finger on my sister when she herself is married to a drunk who has actually physically beat her and treats her like crap. When my sister actually met a decent guy my mother viciously attacked and projected all of her abuse on to him. She does the same to my brother in law. Constantly demeaning the men and giving the women a pass on everything. It's disgusting. Of course my step-dad just doesn't care what she lets her daughters do because they aren't his.
It's clear who is siding with evil when they sabotage the potential for future children and family in a traditional heterosexual relationship. God wants us to be fruitful and make new creatures. He doesn't say that our spouses need to be absolutely perfect people and that there shouldn't be a struggle. It's not supposed to all be easy and happy.
If my parents had stayed in Church they would have had the Christian love to mentor and support the relationship to help it blossom but all they did was poison it with their insane worldly actions. They support this lesbian nonsense because they don't want to hurt my sister's feelings. They can't set boundaries because that requires having a clear moral system yourself about what is right and wrong. Since they are relativistic, this is what happens.
I just think "Do you guys not realize I see myself in this guy?" "What if some girl's parents would have treated me this way?" "Look at yourselves! What kind of example have you even been able to set?" It's so frustrating. And there's no getting through to them because they are such stubborn boomers. All I can do is pray about the whole situation but honestly it's such a lost cause. If I want a traditional family I'll have to start my own. That's the hope of breaking this cycle. And it's sad but I don't want them to be a part of it. I don't want the virus infecting my future wife and kids.
Love from a distance is all I can do. This is only one aspect. There's so much more. It sucks that members in my family exemplify the types of people we complain about on this forum but like Jesus says he didn't come to bring peace, but a sword.
My family is in the Church.
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household” (Matthew 10:34-36).
"While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.” He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:46-50)