Voluntary DINKs were a thing in the 80s, maybe even late 70s, when boomers were reaching post-hippie adulthood but didn't want the burden of kids. The memes are real. There's nothing new to it, but maybe it is accelerating now.
A urologist I know admitted he does vasectomies for young, single men. I gently encouraged him to decline. His own son wants one. Doc is a Chinese immigrant who was born there in the Mao era. His family made it through all that, to have a son that doesn't want kids - because life is so hard. The son hasn't lived a day without central air/heat. We both just shook our heads.
As an old guy, kids are the only reason I keep working. A legacy is good and can help for decades after I'm gone. Part of this is guilt-driven and desire to amend my failings. Part is a biblical instruction to procreate and leave something of benefit to your kids.
I really hope all the men here that want kids will find success. I'm cheering you guys on.
A urologist I know admitted he does vasectomies for young, single men. I gently encouraged him to decline. His own son wants one. Doc is a Chinese immigrant who was born there in the Mao era. His family made it through all that, to have a son that doesn't want kids - because life is so hard. The son hasn't lived a day without central air/heat. We both just shook our heads.
As an old guy, kids are the only reason I keep working. A legacy is good and can help for decades after I'm gone. Part of this is guilt-driven and desire to amend my failings. Part is a biblical instruction to procreate and leave something of benefit to your kids.
I really hope all the men here that want kids will find success. I'm cheering you guys on.