Great write up @canuckj with an inspiring message and some actionable advice for others.
CIK needs more
success stories like this! Seeing others from a similar background succeed offers hope and motivation. Practical tactics and strategies are also important to share because that enables more specific action planning, which men need especially.
Posts like this are also useful in challenging the seemingly dominant narrative among conservative circles that "online is useless". As discussed in the following link, online chatting is a risky crutch to avoid real-life rejection; you will get filtered by age; the vast majority of women online will be unsuitable; and a
stronger approach is to be social at church, to meet women incidentally etc. Nonetheless, meeting a great woman online is still
possible and there are specific approaches that can greatly increase this possibility. This post documents a framework for such success:
It is acknowledged that ethnic/cultural homogeneity is a great
ideal to aim for. Being with "your own" is much easier and sustainable for many reasons as noted here due to shared genetics, culture, language, location etc. That said, many readers recognise the huge barriers, especially for "older" men, in finding a trad Anglo or heritage European wife. This has been documented in
very extensive detail here.
Thus, there is ongoing interest in meeting conversative non-Anglo women either in our own countries or in their countries. Given the challenges of language, culture and distance, it's useful to understand how these can be overcome, managed or accepted. I can say very confidently from my own, rather extensive experience with foriegn women, including my wife, that there WILL be difficult trade-offs and
it's essential to be realistic about them.
That said, if a man sees a woman and children as a preference to have by his side in his lifetime, I strongly believe it is worthwhile to put in the effort to achieve one's potential with such women,
given the potential benefits such as conservative beliefs, family duty, feminine nurturing, interest in children, respect for the man, respect for elders, openness to age gaps etc. All these things can make the effort worthwhile in the end.
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@canuckj now - It seems like things are still developing so it can be useful to take things one day at a time for now, so to speak, and not to rush anything, avoid being needy or demanding, etc... while confidently leading the way; having faith and trust in yourself, the process and God's favour; and remaining as the positive, value-giving man with a plan.
I'm sure many readers (even if they are lurking) are rooting for you and looking forward to hearing about the progress of your relationship. All the best and do keep us updated.
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