A difficult decision to make...

[magoo]

Australia sucks you haven´t actually met albanians in Albania. You just mixed with albanians diaspora in North Macedonia and Kosovo. There´s a difference. Maybe not. But it´s not the same.

You are southern european looking. The way you were treated is totally different on how a north european looking type would be treated. Nordics=money. Perception in shitholes.

Albania is not the country I would look for.

What Albanian women probably love is money. Financial stability. Because in poor places like Albania there´s no safety net. It´s all about your social circles and what advantages they can bring. The thug has a wide social circle. Hes a hustler. There´s probably two prices. One for general population and one for people with contacts. When you said 50k near a lake. That´s not the price. It will probably be 20k. If not less. Those countries are not transparent.

But like in all countries in the world. There´s upper middle class. Who lives by. With the best they can. They are almost everywhere in the world.

I don´t think polish woman to be intelligent. They are more cultured. Beautiful. Easy lays. But really really cold. Talked with some guys living for 6 months in Czech republic. They had a lot of sex. But they seemed worn out soldiers. Woman don´t have empathy there. Southern woman the best. But they drive you crazy with jealousy.

You need to have an activity which brings you quality girls organically. This is crazy. Looking for girlfriends in shitholes. One thing is sex. Other is quality woman. You won´t live there. If you bring her out she will become corrupted.

Lastly for the OP go to a church sit there and ask for guidance. Quietly alone. Not in mass. And ask for guidance.

 

[chance vought]

If you already can’t relax, and feel isolated, a woman is not going to change that.

What do you want, 5 years from now, or 10? Not “what do you think you can get…”what do you REALLY want. Do what you need to do, to make that happen…don’t just make a plan. Take some action.

Take it from an old guy. Having a woman around will only delay you getting to the place you want to be, if you haven’t made it yet. Once you have what you want, you know who you are, and what your purpose is, and you have resources that quality women are starving for, there will be a woman for you.

If you feel like you are on a hamster wheel, going to work, sleeping, and going to work again, without living the life you want to live, only you can make the change that fixes things. A woman is going to be a distraction at best, and likely an obstacle.

Once your “house” is built, and you attract a good woman, she will help you preserve that house, and grow your life even more…add kids and there is yet another reason to excel.

 

[Sandalwood Peak]

She lived with me for 3 months in Poland.

She also came for 2 weeks another time and 3 days another times.

I went to Albania for 4 weeks
And 2 weeks and random shorter trips.

So over 2 years I guess it is about 5 months.

Huh?

You need to be a man. This is crazy. Men just do things. Was Poland the perfect choice for you? No, but you did it anyway. Whose approval are you waiting for? You got a little girlfriend you're just stringing along. I don't care if you suspect she's a whore. Are you retarded? You think God is going to say "wow, you really held out my 50 year old son, here's all riches of the world"? How about you you start living your life?

 

[Tippy]

Huh?

You need to be a man. This is crazy. Men just do things. Was Poland the perfect choice for you? No, but you did it anyway. Whose approval are you waiting for? You got a little girlfriend you're just stringing along. I don't care if you suspect she's a whore. Are you retarded? You think God is going to say "wow, you really held out my 50 year old son, here's all riches of the world"? How about you you start living your life?

What's the meaning of this post? I'm not sure I understand it. I don't think I am stringing her along

 

[Tippy]

If you already can’t relax, and feel isolated, a woman is not going to change that.

What do you want, 5 years from now, or 10? Not “what do you think you can get…”what do you REALLY want. Do what you need to do, to make that happen…don’t just make a plan. Take some action.

Take it from an old guy. Having a woman around will only delay you getting to the place you want to be, if you haven’t made it yet. Once you have what you want, you know who you are, and what your purpose is, and you have resources that quality women are starving for, there will be a woman for you.

If you feel like you are on a hamster wheel, going to work, sleeping, and going to work again, without living the life you want to live, only you can make the change that fixes things. A woman is going to be a distraction at best, and likely an obstacle.

Once your “house” is built, and you attract a good woman, she will help you preserve that house, and grow your life even more…add kids and there is yet another reason to excel.

I agree with you to an extent but then I also disagree with you as well. Having a woman around and a baseline of security/comfort as the bedrock of your life can then lead you to having more time/energy to focus on what you want to and can serve as an anchor from various vices. There are lots of stories of women helping/supporting men to achieve things in the world. Leo Tolstoy's wife being an example. Is he writing War and Peace if he's doing daygame all day long to try and get laid? I doubt it.

To give you some context, I've lived alone in various countries now for nearly 12 years. I'm in my mid 30's. I know how it is to live alone/be an eternal bacholer and have time to myself and I'm getting kind of tired of it. I tend to think having comfort/security is an important part of life and being some sort of loner maverick is getting old.

 

[magoo]

I agree with you to an extent but then I also disagree with you as well. Having a woman around and a baseline of security/comfort as the bedrock of your life can then lead you to having more time/energy to focus on what you want to and can serve as an anchor from various vices. There are lots of stories of women helping/supporting men to achieve things in the world. Leo Tolstoy's wife being an example. Is he writing War and Peace if he's doing daygame all day long to try and get laid? I doubt it.

To give you some context, I've lived alone in various countries now for nearly 12 years. I'm in my mid 30's. I know how it is to live alone/be an eternal bacholer and have time to myself and I'm getting kind of tired of it. I tend to think having comfort/security is an important part of life and being some sort of loner maverick is getting old.

Go to a church. Sit there for 10-20 mnts. And ask guidance. In Poland there are plenty of churches. Sit there, relax and talk to God.

If you are ready for a quality woman God will send her to you. If it´s the albanian girl. He will give you a sign.

There´s too little info to know the best course of action.

If this albanian girl took care of your place. While she lived with you in Poland. You like to be around her. And she passes the boner test. Stop wasting time on what it could be. And test it. Live there. If it doesn´t work you will at least know. It didn´t work. And move on. It´s been two years already. Sooner or later she will get tired of waiting. If you don´t make the decision the decision will be made for you.

She likes some stability. She will follow you everywhere. But first she needs a higher level of commitment from your part. And feel some safety. She is a woman not a man.

There are things which come with the pressure. Children have unconditional love for you. There´s no more groups you need to fit in.

Even if Albania is a shithole. It doesn´t matter. Because in the end. It´s the people who make the place.

 

[chance vought]

To give you some context, I've lived alone in various countries now for nearly 12 years. I'm in my mid 30's. I know how it is to live alone/be an eternal bacholer and have time to myself and I'm getting kind of tired of it. I tend to think having comfort/security is an important part of life and being some sort of loner maverick is getting old.

That is what a woman wants: comfort and security. If it is obvious to most people, that the life you have established for yourself can provide that, there are quality women who want to be in that life with you.

Can you get married out of high school, and figure things out together? Yes, but imho that is the exception.

Build it, and they will come.

 

[Sandalwood Peak]

What's the meaning of this post? I'm not sure I understand it. I don't think I am stringing her along

You want to play hardball? Okay.

Does your Albanian girlfriend love the conversations she has with you online? Does she go to sleep thinking "I wonder when that guy who can't get laid in Poland is going to come here”? I am biased but it doesn’t sound like any woman I’ve met. The point I was trying to make is women do not “wait”, and I don’t know why a man would even want his wife-to-be to wait until, checks notes, he chooses which country to live? What is even the dilemma here? Should I leave Poland to be closer to my pen pal?

 

[Joost]

I'm sorry but the post is too long and the title is clickbait. I'm going to block OP. Nothing personal.

 

[Chiosboy90]

Warsaw is basically a Euro version of NYC lite with rampant consumerism, pleasure seeking, grindset lifestyles. I am sure there are decent Polish women out there in Warsaw. Yet even more based women are still obsessed with this 24/7 grind type of lifestyle of meeting your music group, then going to work, then going on vacation, then going to the gym. Just non stop activity. Non-stop priority of hobbies and experiences. They don't look like people wanting to settle down and raise kids for the most part.

Did you try to approach Polish women in different parts of Poland? My wife is from Poland, and I moved her to my home country. She has some Polish friends here with kids, etc; and what I hear and sometimes see myself is that Polish women who lived in Warsaw are unable to be happy with being married, having kids, and waiting for their husband to come home. They just can't. Like you said, they are pleasure-seeking all the time. Any chance they get, they give their kids away to go party, etc. My wife has told me a couple of times how unhappy they are with "just waiting for the husband and cooking."

In my limited experience with Poland, I think in smaller cities, Polish women tend to like having a simple, stable family life and are easy to talk to. They all have children before 30 and its still "cool" to have a nice family life unlike in Warsaw. I think you are in the right country, just not in the right city.

 

[Blade Runner]

Take it from an old guy. Having a woman around will only delay you getting to the place you want to be, if you haven’t made it yet. Once you have what you want, you know who you are, and what your purpose is, and you have resources that quality women are starving for, there will be a woman for you.

This is good advice. Depending on where you are, the age that we inherited wasn't all that good for even a lot of the guys that ultimately were successful or clearly had a path to success. Women largely didn't look, or care. That is different in different countries, but it turns out the key is to build like chance says and what happens, happens. If it doesn't, it's really more of a comment on clown world than anything, to be honest.

 

[fortyfive]

Asking Tippy to be a decisive, tough-looking Alpha Chad is like asking the antelope to be a grizzly bear.
It's clear, he is not capable or willing to even play that role.

If his qualities are more on the intellectual side, as they seem to be the case, then he should be looking for women in these circles.

In Warsaw, there must be thousands of conservative, catholic, intellectually leaning women.

Go to libraries, study courses, and poetry clubs, there have to be tons of women who appreciate your perfect English, thoughts, and articulation.

Find like-minded people, enroll in classes, volunteer, etc.
Mainly, start stepping little by little out of your comfort zone, and your apartment. Don't sit all day long at home with your thoughts.

 

[Острог]

No wonder you feel the way you do, if I stayed in Warsaw for more than 3 days I'd go insane. That place is not conductive with normal life. It's a roach nest like any big city. Albania is a hard country for a stranger and don't be surprised to be screwed over on a regular basis there unless you know the language perfectly. Your girl has probably 10+ local orbiters. Why not look for a job and chic in Croatia?

 

[Australia Sucks]

I have met women from all different countries and fairly consistently I have gotten compliments from Polish, Ukrainian and Russian women, etc about my intelligence and knowledge of various topics etc. In no other cultures do women appreciate intelligence/knowledge/wisdom as much.

Even if you marry an Albanian woman (I do not recommend it) there will always be tension as Albanians are the most racist and nationalistic people there will always be her friends and family members giving her a hard time about why she married a non-Albanian and some may even suggest she divorce you and marry an Albanian instead (there is a 99% chance the Albanian guy will be an inferior loser or a degenerate). Not to mention a lot of people she associates with be trying to hustle you because you are foreigner. Most Albanians are scum bags. The Polish are much more decent people. I strongly advise you to reconsider marrying a Albanian girl. And if you still decide to marry her make sure to cut her off from all other Albanians.

 

[Tippy]

You want to play hardball? Okay.

Does your Albanian girlfriend love the conversations she has with you online? Does she go to sleep thinking "I wonder when that guy who can't get laid in Poland is going to come here”? I am biased but it doesn’t sound like any woman I’ve met. The point I was trying to make is women do not “wait”, and I don’t know why a man would even want his wife-to-be to wait until, checks notes, he chooses which country to live? What is even the dilemma here? Should I leave Poland to be closer to my pen pal?

So what is the point of your post? Are you just writing to say she doesn't seem like a decent woman because she is waiting?

 

[Sandalwood Peak]

So what is the point of your post? Are you just writing to say she doesn't seem like a decent woman because she is waiting?

How would I know? My previous posts can be disregarded. I got a little gay. Your situation confuses me, what is the difficulty of your situation? You don’t know if you should abandon your career to be with your girlfriend? Or you want to go to another country where people will be more friendly with you? That’s a big spectrum of choices. So in a way you’re asking for various rationalizations which you implied you will only consider. That’s a little bit aggravating. It’s like me making a post, hey guys which career will make me happy? So you got some rationalizations from me. First I implied she’s a whore. Then I implied you should start being proactive with your life if you long for female companionship and make the jump. So neither of those things appeal to you? Okay. I could have been nicer I guess.

 

[Tippy]

That is what a woman wants: comfort and security. If it is obvious to most people, that the life you have established for yourself can provide that, there are quality women who want to be in that life with you.

Can you get married out of high school, and figure things out together? Yes, but imho that is the exception.

Build it, and they will come.

You aren't wrong. Life is hard either way. I'm not talking about shacking up with a broad and giving up on life entirely. I would have numerous difficulties and discomforts and insecurities in Albania. Possibly even more than in Poland, just of a different kind.

It's more just the specifics of living alone in a major city, which I have become tired of.

The quote from Field of Dreams can be read like that out of context but in the film I think it was more about following your intuition even if it seems completely crazy.

 

[san26]

My opinion, move on. After two years, if she was the one for you, you would have already married her. If you have to think about it, it's a no. It sounds like one big rationalization to not be alone.

 

[Tippy]

My opinion, move on. After two years, if she was the one for you, you would have already married her. If you have to think about it, it's a no. It sounds like one big rationalization to not be alone.

To an extent you are right. Not sure if there is a 'one' for me. She ticks...enough boxes. Most of the insanely long time apart is due to the fact I had to finish my studies in the UK, I had work in Poland. And part of it was my own indecision if I ever wanted to settle down due to the fact I only started travelling/talking to girls due to PUA ideology complete at odds with settling down with one woman.

'If you have to think about it...it's a no' hmm...I'm pretty sure I would have to think about it. I'm still thinking about it. But that just means I have reservations which I think I would have with almost anyone. Maybe there is an ideal where I would have zero doubts and I haven't met that person. I guess I'm trying to be pragmatic.

 

[san26]

To an extent you are right. Not sure if there is a 'one' for me. She ticks...enough boxes. Most of the insanely long time apart is due to the fact I had to finish my studies in the UK, I had work in Poland. And part of it was my own indecision if I ever wanted to settle down due to the fact I only started travelling/talking to girls due to PUA ideology complete at odds with settling down with one woman.

'If you have to think about it...it's a no' hmm...I'm pretty sure I would have to think about it. I'm still thinking about it. But that just means I have reservations which I think I would have with almost anyone. Maybe there is an ideal where I would have zero doubts and I haven't met that person. I guess I'm trying to be pragmatic.

Don't waste time, if you decide to marry her be at peace with any shortcomings she may have , make sure it's for life , marriage will always be a sacrifice and struggle