The terminology has been warped and twisted. Looking back, redpill thinking had a net negative effect on my life.
Younger men attach way too much meaning to sexual ‘success’ when engaging in that behavior in the long run leads to soul ruin. Nothing tangible came out of my hook up or plate spinning stage. I consider it a gigantic waste of time now, and instead tell men they should avoid it and focus on finding a good woman to marry. Of course many will disregard that advice completely like I did.
I remember watching a documentary of a rock star many years ago. He broke down in tears from massive depression because he couldn’t find a long term relationship. Back then I thought yeah right, but now I know it was genuine. I never had the extreme experience like that rockstar or Roosh did with women, but the experiences I did have left my soul more empty and jaded.
The problem with the mentality is that men will continue to always look for something better. They never accept the woman as she is and think that they should dump her for someone more beautiful or whatever. Then they get bored and move on. Not only does it damage the man’s soul, but if you do this to a good woman it damages her greatly as well (the sluts are acting this way themselves so it doesn’t matter much)
We have to be practical and for most it isn’t practical to marry the first woman you date or court. Maybe in old times with strong family structure, and society forcing it. So a few real relationships and then seriously court for a wife. But hookups, casual sex? No way. It totally degrades you.
People can call me a hypocrite for stating this while at the same time admitting I did engage in hookups in the past, but I don’t care.
The path to self knowledge isn’t always easy. Sometimes it’s a difficult and dirty path that leads you to the truth.
Let me spoil the surprise for you.
I did throw away any women, but after two years in the game I realized how self-destructive the player lifestyle was. I instead focused on trying to keep girls, especially any pretty ones, with the hope that I could make something work long-term with them.
10 years later what I learned was that it made no difference. Women broke up me all the same. Didn't matter how good or bad I was, didn't matter how much I spent, didn't matter how much time I gave them. Each girl had their time with me and that was that.
I slept with dozens of women, I never used alcohol with 98% of them, and I only had to break it off with 2 of them, the rest I tried to keep, Tom Brady style, but women today are completely broken and WILL dump the man no matter what. There does not seem to be any way to stop women from being self-destructive retards.
About 25% of women are good women, they get snatched up quickly (usually by age 22) and are the reason our birthrates aren't 0. The other 75% are only good for sex, and there is nothing anyone here can do about it. Only a strong conversion from God can save them.
So Josephus, unless you had one of the rare 25% of girls who are actually good wife material, chances are those girls you threw away didn't matter much at all. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's good you've come to your realization now, but let's be real. Even if you did everything right you'd probably be in the exact same position you are now.
However, I will say I have a completely clean conscious - I do not carry heavy guilt or shame, because I kept pure intentions in the dating game. The only regret I have was not spending more time trying to date women in the Church, but even in the few times I tried, I got rejected hard and fast so it was very discouraging.
So, not throwing away women comes with at least one major benefit - you won't feel the heavy shame of sin that comes with using and throwing away women. You'll have the regular shame of debauchery, which is easily forgiven and forgotten. Being a good man gets no respect from women, but it does from God.
