The Destruction of Modern Women

[Mrs TexasJenn]

hoe_math says in this comment that he's autistic. He also said the same thing in a video where he was being interviewed. It didn't sound like a joke to me. There are different types of autism, such as high-functioning Asperger's with milder symptoms and higher cognitive abilities. I suspect I may fall into that category myself, so I recognize it.

I also found his comment that when women say "be nice" what they mean is they want strong men to be nice, they aren't even referring to weak men or all men. That's been a big enlightening thing he's helped men to see that the red pill men weren't clear about, how a lot of women don't even see most men as people. I find it a useful heuristic to remind myself whenever women talk about men, you have to add the adjective "hot" to men to understand who they're talking about. That helps make sense of things like "men need to be nice" which is simply "hot strong men need to be less dangerous".

Another way of saying all that is that women care about characteristics X, Y and Z after they find you attractive, which they never say or admit. As such, of course that lip service isn't useful.

I really don't get the fixation on this point. Men are the exact same way. Most men aren't interested in women who aren't pretty/beautiful/hot and hardly pay them any attention at all. Men say they want a sweet, kind woman, but what they mean is they want a pretty woman who's also sweet and kind, not a sweet, kind, frumpy, plain woman.

Sure, more women got together with men they weren't that attracted to in the past (or even not attracted to at all) because they were dependent on them for money or they were more interested in a nice lifestyle than carnal attraction. But that didn't change their level of "genuine burning desire". I think my husband likes that I didn't need him for his money but have always had GBD for him.

Jenn, let me tell you something about men that perhaps you somewhat realize but can't fathom, and I'm especially aware of this because I'm both a man and realize that 85%+ of men don't realize many of these things either, or are incapable of this level of critical or abstract thinking: women are clueless as to how well men (the capable ones) both see and can analyze the big picture at a high level. It's like so many other things in life, and it occurs in the sexes - it's not necessarily that women are incapable of it, but they are not interested in this kind of thinking, so as a matter of fact they will never develop it even if theoretically they are a rare woman who actually can. When you understand that by nature men are expendable, and that both women and men are largely indifferent about other men, only a Saint is not going to be bitter (or come off that way) when analyzing how brutal human nature, and its indifferences, are.

I agree. I was just telling my husband the other day that most people aren't very interested in what's going on with you. They're very focused on their own stuff and would rather tell you about that than ask questions to get to know you. Even church people - they're more thoughtful and kind than most people, but still in most cases self-focused.

I've talked about this a lot, and the biggest problem is that women have power/leverage early in life, and apart from being young (knowing less), they have little interest in big picture analysis or long term assessment. Trading your youth to a good man is an unbelievably winning trade, given how long women live and the return on that (whole life protected and provided for by a guy who only gets a short window of your attractiveness?). What society does to men earlier in life is good for everyone too, which is fool them into this when they are adaptable and walking boners, for their future and for the families future, as they'll work for that and it gives them purpose. As I've said though, once you take women out of the youth and purity part of commitment, no man is going to be interested. At all. Because he gets nothing then, essentially.

It seems to me that most people are never guided toward long-term winning, even by their parents. And the powers that be have exploited that very well, by giving inverted guidance about life being all about "enjoying the moment".

 

[Read_Lives_of_Saints]

Women can be screened out quickly but only screened in slowly. Distrust may only take a second to feel, whereas trust takes months or even years to develop. A high notch count is a somewhat reliable indicator that a woman would be unsuitable as a wife; however it's absence is not a reliable indicator that she is suitable.

Regardless of her past experience, it's the responsibility of the man to ensure that she looks UP to him. A lower body count will, all else being equal, lower the chance of disrespect and dissatisfaction, but it is no guarantee. Instead, assessing patterns across multiple domains (appearance, personality, family, behavior, hobbies etc) is going to lead to better decision making and more opportunities to fulfill one's potential for experiencing all life has to offer, including children.

I hope this post was useful to some readers.

Thanks for all the great info. My dating years ended a looong time ago, so I'm probably prejudiced by old views and personal viewpoints formed ages before smartphones.

I am fascinated why their data showed that girls with 2 partners before marriage had divorce rates about the same as girls with 10 or more partners.

 

[analyst_green]

Thanks for all the great info. My dating years ended a looong time ago, so I'm probably prejudiced by old views and personal viewpoints formed ages before smartphones.

I am fascinated why their data showed that girls with 2 partners before marriage had divorce rates about the same as girls with 10 or more partners.

It said something about how women with two partners most likely had a serious relationship before their husband. And they're still thinking about that guy who they may actually have like more than the husband.

On the other hand, the more promiscuous women were just sleeping around and not taking any man seriously so they have fewer attachments and they have a greater sample size to compare the husband to. At least that's the theory.