Very good point. I didn't think of that. Another reason why he needs definitive proof before proceeding with a more risky and radical plan of action.
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Me too, but she already read your post. It's still funny to me, though.
Im having lunch with my oldest. Were waiting for the soup. WTF? Its like a bad criminal movie.
More. Please more.
Theres too much noise. Basics. Never forget basics. Women are emocional not racional. And thats what gives spice to life. For better or worse.
I started to call my wife wagyu yesterday. She has no idea why.
Going sleepwalking into the divorce grinder industry is retarded. Following the script. Dude needs to make a plan.
Solution is simple: hire a maid. Spend more with her. 3 kids is very demanding.
No my friends. My wife barely passed highschool. She thinks shes being clever and doesnt know she is transparent. It is what it seems.
I do like imagining a life of not financially rewarding this woman for stealing my livelihood, children, home and most productive years of my life.. also all the distress she'll put my children through.. but I don't know if I could go totally off like that, reselling things and such.
You can get a shared values visa and live in russia as a temporary resident right now, and after 5 years apply for citizen ship, but the thing is, my passport would be cancelled by then and id be deported and sent to jail for arrears. Some people join their army to get citizenship in 12 months if they survive that long. Even of I got this, I'd simply be away from my children, and aging parents.
I could join the military as a construction tech, you learn masonry, carpentry, roofing, and framing in the first 11 months, your final project is building a shack sized house. If I went there I could learn to build my own house, build one on a relatives property and live out my days very simply. The military would garnish my wages, 60/40 for her though. I'd never see my kids and she'd have successfully stolen the majority of my life's work and eaten it for free.
I just don't know. My priest tells me "dad's are leaders" but if the problem is the radical wife who just sees money and won't follow, what can I do? Shes talking about getting tattoos and implants. Shes got it all planned out boys
Off topic and digging a bit more into personal issue, but would you be comfortable with deserving what your thought process was then you decided to marry her? I would have thought barely getting through high school would have raised an alarm and it seems like she wouldn't have been smart/conscientious enough to hide her negative personality traits for an extended time.
She used to talk like "God is calling me to be your wife, to cook nutritious meals and be the heart of the family". She'd come to church with me, wearing the head covering, try to match my values. It was all kinda surface level though, she was forged in an atheist home and when the economy got bad and she wouldn't work and wanted more money she got bitter
There’s a thread I have contributed to discussing this topic here. TLDR: if you are not fluent in Russian with a heavy dose of common sense and savings, this will be a fool’s errand. I have watched many people fail and return to their home countries over the past 4 year. Military could be an option, but, it’s a very different mentality than what one would experience in US, and most men from here are not prepared for that.
I second the suggestion of hiring a PI. If she is cheating, evidence of it will give you a fighting chance when she tries to take it all.
Did you meet her in your own home country or is she someone you met abroad?
Home country. White Canadian girl
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You have mentioned some very radical and seemingly contradictory ideas. Everything from running away to Argentina, then Russia, to becoming a monk, to joining the military (at 40 years old?). Yet you are saying that your children are the most important things in your life and you want nothing more than to spend as much time as possible with them. However, all four of your plans basically involve seeing your children very rarely (if ever).
On the other hand, I proposed an idea that within a year could have you making 80K to 100K a year in mostly cash, under the table revenue that cannot be traced to your personal Social Insurance Number, while living a simple monk-like life in a vehicle in close proximity to your children where you could see them often without having to pay your wife 60% of your income (because on the books you'd have none), and your response is:
If you're not selling, then all you're doing is buying which means you need a J.O.B. You'd rather sign your life over to the military and the Canadian State than become a self-made entrepreneur? Well, then you're going to have to reap the destiny that you have sewn for yourself:
In no way am I trying to be hard on you but we must analyze this situation correctly and hence honestly, and brother it seems like there is a continual flow of "problems" in your life. Your wife sleeps until noon, she gets a "headache" before church and cancels, you have 3 jobs and still are in a bad financial position, you have a disabled child, a daughter playing a masculine sport (hockey), you bought a house only to have your wife say she tricked you into buying it so she could steal it from you, your wife is cheating on you, you're getting a divorce, and list goes on. Do you see a pattern here? At 40 years old you seem to be making a series of bad decisions. And I don't see that you're really willing to address that because the solutions you are entertaining seem to be worse than the problems you are currently experiencing. It's what we call "jumping from the frying pan into the fire."
The only further advice I can offer you is to quit drinking if you are doing so. Other than that, may God bless you on your journey and lead you to a peaceful and healthy resolution to your struggles.
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You have mentioned some very radical and seemingly contradictory ideas. Everything from running away to Argentina, then Russia, to becoming a monk, to joining the military (at 40 years old?). Yet you are saying that your children are the most important things in your life and you want nothing more than to spend as much time as possible with them. However, all four of your plans basically involve seeing your children very rarely (if ever).
On the other hand, I proposed an idea that within a year could have you making 80K to 100K a year in mostly cash, under the table revenue that cannot be traced to your personal Social Insurance Number, while living a simple monk-like life in a vehicle in close proximity to your children where you could see them often without having to pay your wife 60% of your income (because on the books you'd have none), and your response is:
If you're not selling, then all you're doing is buying which means you need a J.O.B. You'd rather sign your life over to the military and the Canadian State than become a self-made entrepreneur? Well, then you're going to have to reap the destiny that you have sewn for yourself:
In no way am I trying to be hard on you but we must analyze this situation correctly and hence honestly, and brother it seems like there is a continual flow of "problems" in your life. Your wife sleeps until noon, she gets a "headache" before church and cancels, you have 3 jobs and still are in a bad financial position, you have a disabled child, a daughter playing a masculine sport (hockey), you bought a house only to have your wife say she tricked you into buying it so she could steal it from you, your wife is cheating on you, you're getting a divorce, and list goes on. Do you see a pattern here? At 40 years old you seem to be making a series of bad decisions. And I don't see that you're really willing to address that because the solutions you are entertaining seem to be worse than the problems you are currently experiencing. It's what we call "jumping from the frying pan into the fire."
The only further advice I can offer you is to quit drinking if you are doing so. Other than that, may God bless you on your journey and lead you to a peaceful and healthy resolution to your struggles.
Dude needs answers and he needs them now. Nothing happens for a chance.
Dont runaway from problems. Ask for more. And ask for strenght to deal with them. This is an easy test. its how you react.
Hard problems are health issues. Cancer. Deaths. Kennedy said problems created by man can be solved by man. This is one of them.
Someone is feeding her tiny brain shit. And you need to find out exactly who that person is and neutralize it. But without any second thought or hesitation.
Without children I would say dump her. Tatoos?
Implants seem to hint at a third party. Or that she will start looking for casual sex.
With children involved someone is playing with your household. Your castle. With fire. And they need to find out not to f around. Not going to write in public forums. But that person needs to learn a lesson. Her parents her lover. Whoever is involved. Needs to understand not to mess with someone family.
As for anyone reading this thread. ALWAYS SIGN A PRENUP. What is yours is yours. What is together you decide.
A prenup is not just for divorce. Its for the balance of power never to be messed around during marriage. You not her decide the weight on each scale. A prenup is for during marriage. Not just divorce. Its a deterrent. Prenups should be mandatory.
We are living in a time when the mental patients are running the asylum.
And go for southern europeans girls. I dont know what the statistics are but personally but nobody is in this situation in my circle. I know of some couple divorced. But I dont like to be around those kind of people. One divorced told me he had a new girlfriend. I though to myself what is this retard talking about? His in highschool? What is this? He could say Im seeing someone. But girlfriend?
Always remember that conmans believe they are the only ones who can take advantage of others. They arent.
Shes toast. High probability of she ending up really bad. See boarding schools for kids. If you end up divorcing put them in good boarding schools.
Theres some contradictions on the money subject. Theres no money now. But if she divorces than theres money for implants? How come?. When your in front of a judge the bullshit will walk.
Dont runaway from problems. Ask for more. And ask for strenght to deal with them. This is an easy test. its how you react.
Hard problems are health issues. Cancer. Deaths. Kennedy said problems created by man can be solved by man. This is one of them.
Someone is feeding her tiny brain shit. And you need to find out exactly who that person is and neutralize it. But without any second thought or hesitation.
Without children I would say dump her. Tatoos?
Implants seem to hint at a third party. Or that she will start looking for casual sex.
With children involved someone is playing with your household. Your castle. With fire. And they need to find out not to f around. Not going to write in public forums. But that person needs to learn a lesson. Her parents her lover. Whoever is involved. Needs to understand not to mess with someone family.
As for anyone reading this thread. ALWAYS SIGN A PRENUP. What is yours is yours. What is together you decide.
A prenup is not just for divorce. Its for the balance of power never to be messed around during marriage. You not her decide the weight on each scale. A prenup is for during marriage. Not just divorce. Its a deterrent. Prenups should be mandatory.
We are living in a time when the mental patients are running the asylum.
And go for southern europeans girls. I dont know what the statistics are but personally but nobody is in this situation in my circle. I know of some couple divorced. But I dont like to be around those kind of people. One divorced told me he had a new girlfriend. I though to myself what is this retard talking about? His in highschool? What is this? He could say Im seeing someone. But girlfriend?
Always remember that conmans believe they are the only ones who can take advantage of others. They arent.
Shes toast. High probability of she ending up really bad. See boarding schools for kids. If you end up divorcing put them in good boarding schools.
Theres some contradictions on the money subject. Theres no money now. But if she divorces than theres money for implants? How come?. When your in front of a judge the bullshit will walk.
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Yes this is the perfect way to show to the court that you cannot handle three jobs and the high income that comes with it. They can't go completely against legitimate medical advice so they would have to lower the expectations for alimony and child support. If you have to you mention suicidal thoughts to your psychologist. Which is actually very common for men going through this.
Right now this is war, and you have to use all the resources available to you. Your wife is not acting in good faith, so take up arms and defend yourself.