Help with an ex issue, not a joke or troll

[KulturedKaveman]

It’s been two months since that conversation with the friend. I have tried to revamp my diet and started working out again. Although I had some existential dread last night.

I’m 34 and have a no single moms rule. I’m going to croak alone. I’m considering overseas but it’s not viable unless I can break into the digital nomad world. Plus some posts took the wind out of my sails on another thread.

Would moving, redoing my wardrobe to come off more Zoomer, and lying about my age be an option? Women do it all the time. It could get me fates with child free women and treat age as don’t ask don’t tell.

Or would accepting a single mom but under the following conditions - she has to be young enough and willing to have more, baby daddy goes on child support, and conversion to orthodoxy is non negotiable if single mom. Would that work? Women go Muslim all the time for their men.

-edit- this isn’t a woe is me thing. I’m exploring my options.

 

[Douglas Quaid]

Do not lie about your age. It's not weird to be with a younger women at all, but it would be weird to lie about it. A lot of women in their 20s do not care if you're older anyway.

What really helps if women already know who you are. So going to events and places around the same people, and building a community. I am going through this right now and my confidence increases every day.

I also think it's wise to continue staying away from single moms.

 

[FrancisK]

It’s been two months since that conversation with the friend. I have tried to revamp my diet and started working out again. Although I had some existential dread last night.

I’m 34 and have a no single moms rule. I’m going to croak alone. I’m considering overseas but it’s not viable unless I can break into the digital nomad world. Plus some posts took the wind out of my sails on another thread.

Would moving, redoing my wardrobe to come off more Zoomer, and lying about my age be an option? Women do it all the time. It could get me fates with child free women and treat age as don’t ask don’t tell.

Or would accepting a single mom but under the following conditions - she has to be young enough and willing to have more, baby daddy goes on child support, and conversion to orthodoxy is non negotiable if single mom. Would that work? Women go Muslim all the time for their men.

-edit- this isn’t a woe is me thing. I’m exploring my options.

No, don't change who you are or change your convictions. You won't fine happiness or peace that way. I'm not a fan of the overseas route not because I don't think it works, to an extent, but because I don't think you need to do it.

Have you been going out and meeting people? Joining groups and being social? Are you taking care of yourself and presenting yourself in the best way you can for yourself and people you may meet?

 

[PurpleUrkel]

Do not lie about your age.

... continue staying away from single moms.

... don't change who you are...

Solid advice.

As for traveling overseas to meet a women I think that could work. At least for me it could, as I've done it before and enjoyed it. However, contrary to old RVF advice I would bring her back to the US. For me this might work because my future home will be in the wilderness with no cell phone reception or internet and it would be very difficult for alpha chad's to track her down and prey on her hypergamous nature (and conversely, for her to reach out to such foes).

For me, the only reason to do this would be for breeding purposes (not for companionship). And to keep my lower IQ, beautiful foreign woman with non-fluent English skills on an even tighter leash I wouldn't legally marry her until she popped out a couple of kids and proved her value and loyalty to the process of my life.

 

[Wutang]

Would moving, redoing my wardrobe to come off more Zoomer, and lying about my age be an option? Women do it all the time. It could get me fates with child free women and treat age as don’t ask don’t tell.

...conversion to orthodoxy is non negotiable

You're willing to lie to a potential wife's face while at the same insisting that she converts to Orthodoxy? You haven't thought through how by doing the former you aren't witnessing to her in a way where she'll find Orthodoxy and it's moral standards appealing?

 

[KulturedKaveman]

You're willing to lie to a potential wife's face while at the same insisting that she converts to Orthodoxy? You haven't thought through how by doing the former you aren't witnessing to her in a way where she'll find Orthodoxy and it's moral standards appealing?

This wouldn’t be in regards to the same individual. You’re acting like number 2 and 3 are the same individual. The only reason with option 2 I’d ever even consider lying is I really wouldn’t like to be involved with a single mom. It seems like everyone’s got kids post 30. Option 2 she wouldn’t have to convert to orthodoxy. I’d just be honest if it wasn’t such a big deal in our society but older women will be mean about it.

The reason 3 would have to is to shows she’s truly atoned for what she did. I hate to say this, 90% of the time if you’re a single mom, you’re a screw up. You got too concerned about looks and now he’s gone or you got bored. Abuse and widowhood are a minority. She got bored with the father of her kids, what chance do you stand unless she atoned?

To be fair - I get your point. Dishonesty is a fools game but I feel like I’m trying to navigate a landmine field… thought number 2 has crossed my mind. Anyway, a lot of guys on here said my no single moms policy I should stick with. I probably will do this is a moot point.

 

[KulturedKaveman]

Solid advice.

As for traveling overseas to meet a women I think that could work. At least for me it could, as I've done it before and enjoyed it. However, contrary to old RVF advice I would bring her back to the US. For me this might work because my future home will be in the wilderness with no cell phone reception or internet and it would be very difficult for alpha chad's to track her down and prey on her hypergamous nature (and conversely, for her to reach out to such foes).

For me, the only reason to do this would be for breeding purposes (not for companionship). And to keep my lower IQ, beautiful foreign woman with non-fluent English skills on an even tighter leash I wouldn't legally marry her until she popped out a couple of kids and proved her value and loyalty to the process of my life.

There’s a lot of guys out there who are still married though. Not everyone is a complete cheater. I feel like the same applies to foreign women. I feel like not a boomer she might be more loyal to you and let’s be honest, if she was going to cheat she’d do it in her country. Everyone has phones and Instagram now. Don’t move her over until you can discern she’s not after residency or a green card.

There is a plus of America going to shit, there’s less of an incentive for this kind of this stuff. Do you REALLY want get a work permit and residency in a country that’s cold (well parts), expensive, factory produced bland food, insane work culture and pace of life… it just feels like foreign women playing that game the juice might not be worth the squeeze anymore.