So what do you do now adays between 6pm and bedtime?
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Vegging. Staring off into space, the ceiling, like I'm trying to rest my mind and avoid bringing things up. I'll chat with the wife, hang out with the kid. Not bad things, but I feel like a slug and I feel like I can't pursue hobbies and interests when I have the time and excuse (of it being evening and no other responsibilities). I'm highly active in the day with gig work and my business, I just wish I could wind down in the evening like I used to, but now I struggle to accept those moments. I recently finished submitting my taxes to an accountant so I could be having residual emotional and mental burnout from all the stress and focus that required, and now that I have legitimate time for interests I find I have no desire.
I think a lot of us get in a “funk” from time to time. Not sure if your like me but over the course of my life I find I have 1-2 hobbies that excite me for about a decade max and then they fade. I get in a funk in-between when my last hobby isn’t doing it for me and I haven’t found a replacement. I’m kinda there now myself and find minimal interest in doing things at the moment. I’m trying to start a side hussle business but been struggling to get those initial clients. Hopefully it starts to take off, I need something extra to do and hoping this fills the void for a few evenings and weekends.
It's almost like a Flowers of Algernon situation except I'm not going retard.
JK, mate! I can relate myself.
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The male brain often changes many long held preferences, interests, opinions, and moral principals after age 40, essentially transforming large parts of your lifelong habits and overall personalty.
Mental changes which are very normal from a purely scientific point of view, can be quite tough to get used to in the first few years it occurs, because it's not usually a conscious and deliberate decision any man makes.
The transitional phase (lasting at least a few years) can be very disorienting.
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Interesting. Can you expand on this and provide some evidence or links regarding this topic?
Where can I find out more about that?
Stupid and gay.
I've noticed that younger people never ask older guys like me questions about anything that could benefit them. If they did, they might learn something the easy way so they don't have to learn the hard way.
- Is it because they want to think they're too cool to learn from someone older than them?
- Or maybe it's because we live in a society where you are accused of being a creep for starting too long, showing too much interest, etc? Maybe they think they're prying too much into my life by asking me questions.
- Or is it because they think they can find all the answers they need on the Internet?
You usually can. You just need to sort through a bunch of retarded nonsense before you find something sensible. But yeah I definitely try my best to learn from older men. A solid 80% of my worldviews are really just me parroting an older man's words like gospel. It's about the best thing you can do as a young man. You just need to pick a wise and masculine old man. There's tons of old men with very little useful advice to give, and what little they do have is stuff on the level of fortune cookies. Especially when it comes to relationship advice.
I used to sometime walk with my hands in my front pockets. No idea why.
Anyway, I remember when I was a teenager walking through the mall one day, hands in pockets. Some older guy approached me and told me not to walk like that. Then he walked away. Lol. I felt like a goober at the time, having this older man telling me I was doing something wrong, but it was good advice. I could've used more advice like that from older men.
I used to do that a lot too. My father was the one who got me to stop doing that. Having your hands in your pockets does kind of make you look like a loser lol.
It's also because most people who attempt suicide change their minds at the last second, and in many cases that includes those who actually die.
Does Roosh Valideah count as an older guy?
Huh? I thought it was because putting your hands in your pockets is a form of closed body language.
Nobody can see what's in your hands, maybe you have a weapon or such, and it implies you are guarded, standoffish and unfriendly. I think I saw it in a video where a CIA employee was teaching body language appraisal on Big Think.
Older men are more susceptible to vainglory. It is not uncommon to see them engage in master/apprentice relationships with younger men. When it is obvious that you are trying to fill this role, younger guys will usually tune you out, though some will go with it. I find that if you approach them from a level position, even as a friend, then they'll be much more open to hearing what you have to say. The older guy who "knows everything" is a walking cliche. Older men also usually never ask questions, they only want to give answers. That is always off-putting and communicates that they're not really interested in the people they want to give advice/talk at.
Yeah, I think it's a body language signal of protecting thyself from others. Which would make sense seeing that I had no confidence back then.
Maybe. But there's also a lack of respect from Gen Z/Millennials towards older men these days that we didn't have growing up in the 80s. The whole "Ok, Boomer" retort just confirms this.
Yes, I remember reading most people who jump off the Golden Gate Bridge and survive later say they regretted their choice as soon as they jumped. I remember the case of one guy who jumped and broke his legs on the fall and struggled to stay afloat in the water when he decided he really wanted to survive. Thankfully he was rescued, but it's terrifying to think how many souls are lost to despair everyday.
"OK Boomer" was really just a lame leftist meme, and it died pretty fast many years ago. Kind of surprising that people still talk about it. I wouldn't interpret it as a sign that younger people as a whole have a lack of respect for their elders. Like in every generation ever, some people respect their elders and some don't.
How did you get confidence?