Relocating to Southeast Asia

[Blade Runner]

This sounds pretty obvious until you realize our mind is probably resisting such ideas. I'd wager lots of men want a place to give them a purpose. They want a new start, be a blank slate. Maybe they think they need drop the anchor first before they start overthinking things. All this hobby BS is unromantic. What's going to be truly unromantic is asking people at the hotel what there's to do.

If you are a single man going to a country that has women that you like (and where you also have appeal to the local women) is an order of magnitude more important than any other factor. In fact as a single man you could probably go to Siberia and be happier than living in the west if you get a young, virgin, beautiful Russian girlfriend there. The awful weather, desolate Siberian landscape, difficult to learn language, ugly communist buildings, bland food, bureaucracy, lack of transportation and remoteness, etc will seem like minor inconveniences when you have the right woman by your side.

Conversely you could be in a country/city that is objectively great in terms of most other factors but if the women suck and you are lonely then the best beaches, the most delicious food, the great climate, low crime, etc will seem pretty meaningless.

Essentially for most men living in a shithole with a young, devout, beautiful virgin by your side beats being alone in paradise.

I think Aussie and I have spoken on this before, and he's right. When you really break it down and just go back to the basics, you realize that all that you do and accomplish in life has women as the goal and purpose (meaning family and legacy by extension, so it's not women in themselves, but you get it). That's why he's right, you'll be far more satisfied with a good woman and family than worrying about anything else. It's also why guys who have a lot are still minimalists, they know the purpose of all of this achievement and material is not to purely consume, but to prepare and adapt, make a future possible for yourself, a woman and family. Everything else is not only secondary, it's both transient and mostly just distraction from what life is all about. We're here because the whole deal with women and family was largely subverted by modernity. So we have to remind ourselves of this and look to the past, and to nature, and to God.

 

[Tippy]

I think Aussie and I have spoken on this before, and he's right. When you really break it down and just go back to the basics, you realize that all that you do and accomplish in life has women as the goal and purpose (meaning family and legacy by extension, so it's not women in themselves, but you get it). That's why he's right, you'll be far more satisfied with a good woman and family than worrying about anything else. It's also why guys who have a lot are still minimalists, they know the purpose of all of this achievement and material is not to purely consume, but to prepare and adapt, make a future possible for yourself, a woman and family. Everything else is not only secondary, it's both transient and mostly just distraction from what life is all about. We're here because the whole deal with women and family was largely subverted by modernity. So we have to remind ourselves of this and look to the past, and to nature, and to God.

Didn't you say you were older (like 40s?) and have golden handcuffs keeping you in the US? Do you have a plan to leave at this point?

There are no 'top 3 regions' that's a silly question that is like asking "what are the top 3 jobs?" Its going to come down to personal preference and where you as an individual thrive.

 

[Blade Runner]

There are no 'top 3 regions' that's a silly question that is like asking "what are the top 3 jobs?" Its going to come down to personal preference and where you as an individual thrive.

Each person is capable of responding to the question, and that will be taken into consideration. It's sorta how questions and answers work with people, Tippy.

 

[Northern Pilgrim]

Different strokes for different folks. That's why I asked which type of environment guys would prefer a few posts ago. What YOU like to do, see, be, have will largely dictate where you can/should live.
Guys who are going all in on a foreign spouse will probably have to make a lot more adjustments then the guys who are relocating simply for financial reasons and fun.

Knowing, or at least having a rough idea, what you are looking for, as was explained previously by @Sandalwood Peak, is very key.
I recommend at least having some ideas of different places and hitting a bunch all in one trip and then comparing. Seeing the expats on YouTube who just sell everything on a whim and move to XYZ nation, sight unseen is bonkers in my opinion. You need a solid network and have to have a decent to good idea what you are getting yourself into before just diving in the deep end.

 

[Northern Pilgrim]

I would go with option B/C as you get an opportunity to be part of the community, and it being a gated community of relatively wealthy locals, the type of community you’d want to integrate with.

I lived in a townhouse in a gated community for a couple years in the Philippines, and have also spent considerable time living in big condo buildings in the middle of several big SEA cities. The condos are great when you are single and want access to all the city has to offer. The house in the gated community became ideal when we had a child.

Ultimately, I made the decision to move back to the US full time. I love Asia, truly it feels like another home to me, but the pros/cons list made the US the clear choice. I’ll give the major sticking points.

1. Earning potential. It isn’t difficult to string a few hustles together and make a modest living in Asia but the real earning potential, for me at least, is the US.

2. Climate. I am not cut out for the tropical climate. It’s fine for a vacation but I do not want to live in it. I enjoy the climate of the northern US with the 4 seasons.

3. Race. I don’t need to live amongst only whites, but being white and living amongst only Asians, it gets old after a while. On top of that, there is the potential for that to really go south in the event of war or collapse. The local men may turn against you. Who knows, it’s not a scenario I want to live through.

4. Disaster potential, infrastructure & safety. Even in the nice built up parts of SEA, torrential rains will shut the city down. I’ve been through half a dozen major earthquakes where I’ve had to evacuate buildings. Seriously scary stuff. God forbid there is major earthquake, major flooding, tsunamis or what have you that destroys a city. I’ve had a taste of all of that and wouldn’t want to live through a major event. Those things happen in the US as well but in my opinion it is easier to prepare and safeguard yourself from disaster.

5. Firearms and self defense. Plain and simple, the access to those items and ability to train and ultimately defend yourself is currently the best in the US and that’s a major factor for me.

6. Overall quality of life. Although things are getting worse in the US, especially in the cities (many of our cities have become very dystopic hellholes) there are still huge chunks of the US where life is great. You have access to almost anything you can imagine in the US. If there is something you want to pursue, or you want your children to have the opportunity to pursue, it can be done in the US at the highest levels. I personally want to live a small town/rural life, and the US is still a great place for that.

7. The cost of living is obviously much cheaper in SEA, I was able to fully support myself, my fiance and child, and a house helper on around $1400-$1600 a month. Living in a nice spacious 2 bedroom town house, in a gated community in a prime location of the 2nd tier city we lived in at the time. I didn’t spend money like a fool but we wanted for nothing and lived very comfortably. Everything is much cheaper. Housing, food, transportation, healthcare… anywhere from 50-25% of what it is in the US. All that said, I’d rather earn a western income and deal with the higher cost of living in the US.

I’ll say a final piece on the current atmosphere in the US. It’s obviously incredibly divided and very likely heading towards some sort of conflict, civil war, Balkanization or what have you. Even with that looming, it’s where I want to be. The US is huge, and parts of the US in my opinion will be fine. A lot of it is going to come down to ones ability to prepare, to batten down the hatches for the coming storm, be valuable to a community. I also think what could come after, could be a period of true greatness. I see the US as the safest bet for a white American should things get ugly, and I think if things get ugly here they are going to get ugly in a lot of places. I’d rather take my chances on US soil.

I can see where you're coming from and the logic behind your decisions.
My only question is: do you think rural SEA or rural USA is going to fall under the control grid first?
In my mind, if you are well equipped financially or have an excellent remote job, all but 2 & 3 are easily solved, and even in most countries in Asia, there are cooler mountain places that are easier on cold weather adjusted folks.
Of course #3 is a major point of concern, but being extremely fluent in the local language & culture, as well as being a valued member of your immediate community is going to do a lot to mitigate that threat. Simply contributing and making friends through doing useful to the community activities can go a long ways.

Have you looked at spending several months each year in both places of you would rather just have one home location?

 

[Sandalwood Peak]

Came across this video. An interesting twilight zone video from Thailand, where you have this creator and the comments talking about how Thailand is a paradise as he documents his life roaming around with a man in a dress. There's some kind of surreal black humor in that. Imagine how retarded this white dork looks to the regular locals. Travelling thousands of miles to be pretend straight in their country. Transformers date foreigners because they're not truly accepted among their own. What other reason is there?

If anyone wants my personal theory why this happens, it's because these transformers give you the "GF experience" off the bat and aggressively seek out their white "victims". This is just your liberal white male taking the path of least resistance. Real women might end up playing the usual games and will require good SMV.

So be careful with these expats selling you a dream about 3-dollar grocery trips and other nonsense on YouTube. How can they tell you the truth when they're living a lie?