How to properly date / court as a Christian being formerly in "game"

[Mrs TexasJenn]

But for Orthodox Christians, isn’t it common for us to praise one another? I mean, just look at the Akathist hymns to the saints — they’re often several pages long, filled with words of praise and honor for a particular saint. When I compliment or honor someone on this forum, I’m inspired by those Akathists to the saints.


I’ve seen several of Mrs. TexasJenn’s posts in the past, and she seems to hold you in high regard. She’s mentioned multiple times that you’re strong, that she enjoys cooking and living with you, and that she loves doing activities together with you. And finally, she even explicitly called you a chad — though you probably didn’t realize it. To me, that was the final critical strike, and I decided to stoke the flame even further


I was triggered by the idea that even women in the Church are mostly attracted to tall and good-looking men. That story sounded like bad news to me, because even if we pray to God to grant us a woman, God isn’t a magician — He doesn’t make illogical things happen. Therefore, if we don’t look or act like the stereotypical “alpha,” it feels like we’ll never find a woman, since women tend to be drawn to that type of man.​

I'm sure on some level he appreciates the praise. When we first got together, he was sometimes what you might describe as "cocky". But he's taken the directive to humble yourself very seriously. Most of the time, he won't take a compliment directly anymore, and he rarely brags about himself. Most of the time, he says, "Praise God," recognizing that anything special he's been given comes from God. Now and then he does that cute man thing where he likes to take some amount of credit for how well I'm doing in life. I allow it because he's my man and I get that a man feels proud when he does anything to uplift and light up his lady, and he does a lot for me.

I'm sorry you were trigged by my post. I certainly didn't mean to offend or trigger anyone.

 

[Australia Sucks]

Therefore, if we don’t look or act like the stereotypical “alpha,” it feels like we’ll never find a woman, since women tend to be drawn to that type of man.

Outside of western countries women often rate a man’s looks much lower down their list of priorities. One time I asked a Ukrainian woman living in Australia “How come with Ukrainian and other Slavic couples I usually see an average looking man with a very beautiful girlfriend or wife?” She replied to me “in our culture it is important what a man does not what he looks like”. Not saying they don’t care about looks at all but in certain countries a man being handsome is seen as a bonus rather than a primary criteria and many ugly men have beautiful wives. Hence why Roosh talked about the busted dudes test.

 

[analyst_green]

Outside of western countries women often rate a man’s looks much lower down their list of priorities. One time I asked a Ukrainian woman living in Australia “How come with Ukrainian and other Slavic couples I usually see an average looking man with a very beautiful girlfriend or wife?” She replied to me “in our culture it is important what a man does not what he looks like”. Not saying they don’t care about looks at all but in certain countries a man being handsome is seen as a bonus rather than a primary criteria and many ugly men have beautiful wives. Hence why Roosh talked about the busted dudes test.

Also very simply the supply of good looking men is higher in Western countries compared to most Slavic countries. And there are more beautiful women in Slavic countries so women compete with each other more strongly.

 

[Mrs TexasJenn]

Also very simply the supply of good looking men is higher in Western countries compared to most Slavic countries. And there are more beautiful women in Slavic countries so women compete with each other more strongly.

Another factor is that Slavic men are expected to financially provide 100%. Western men often expect women to work and bring in income - so those women have more... buying power, choice. Most people, men and women, would rather have a hottie for a spouse. But if the man is going to provide all the material resources, lots of women will do without the genuine burning desire.

 

[Australia Sucks]

But if the man is going to provide all the material resources, lots of women will do without the genuine burning desire.

That is the thing though. Western countries are prosperous enough that a typical western woman (on average) would rather pick a broke but handsome artist or musician than an average looking millionaire. Of course when it gets to extreme levels of wealth (tens of millions of dollars) then it doesn’t always hold true but in general for western women they prioritise a good looking man over a man with money.