Forum rules discussion thread

We already know the political news about them will be negative
This is a bit of a problem of mindset, one day it may not be, but then you say -
If and when things turn around, we can rename the thread titles.
This still bothers me, you're sort of discouraging good news with the titles but it's probably not worth making too big deal about it, as you say "spruced up the thread titles". There is also "South Africa becoming the next Zimbabwe", not neutral either
 
This is a bit of a problem of mindset, one day it may not be, but then you say -

This still bothers me, you're sort of discouraging good news with the titles but it's probably not worth making too big deal about it, as you say "spruced up the thread titles". There is also "South Africa becoming the next Zimbabwe", not neutral either

It's not black pilling if it's true. The thread titles are accurate and describe countries that are becoming hell holes. It's not black pill to point this out. It's black pill to say there's nothing that can be done, or that God has forsaken us. Countries have died many times in the past and we shouldn't be surprised when it happens in our lifetimes.
 
@Samseau it is uncanny that you renamed my thread to "French Political Folly" just hours before this news broke about Marine Le Pen being declared ineligible to run for office and being sent to jail for a few years. French political madness.

It's not black pilling if it's true.
Reminds me of something I heard and say from time to time It's not racist if it's true.
 
For most readers, I imagine that they either don't know or can't remember or don't care about all the different reaction scores.

For instance, many posters will continue to be digitally punished for posting content about leftist soyboys, despite being far from soy themselves.

My suggestion is to simplify this list to reduce confusion about reacting to the content vs the poster. So, I would recommend associating all the above reactions with a neutral score, except for the following, which would result in a negative score:

Dislike -1
Ban -5

That said, I believe these negative reactions should only be used sparingly. I don't think that disagreeing with someone means that they deserve a thumbs down, as this can exacerbate tension and unnecessarily lead to resentment. I would save it for really poor takes or blatant trolling.

As always @δούλος του Χριστού - thanks for your time and efforts 🤜🤛

I really believe negative reaction points are counterproductive. I've received some recently for my views on Donald Trump. Discouraging diverse viewpoints is just going to lead to an echo chamber.

Exactly. We should be encouraging good posts. And we should reward good posts with positive points (not neutral). They should all be positive points or negative. Otherwise why have them?

I haven't been using the newer ones becuase I don't know if it helps the poster or not. And if not, why use it? I want to encourage good posts and posters.

I look at @Bizet and I sort of remember his handle. Then I hover over his name and see 1100 points and think "Oh, he's a good contributer, so I'll value his posts more." Then I see it's on ~200 posts so he doesn't post often but when he does, each of his posts are being well rec'd and contributing to the forum so I'll know to value him more. He's not just spamming the board. He's selective about posting quality content.

The neutral points don't account for this so it's not a true representation of his contributions. We should be using the scoring system to reward good posts and contributions.

I didn't even realize there were "negative points" due to reactions. What is the purpose of this? I get some of these reactions due to sharing news here, and I agree with the reactions. I don't post the news because I agree with it, I post it so men here know what the approved talking points are, and if they give a response that is a "negative value" I often agree with their assessment. This is very counter-productive to the forum in sharing information.

From my own testing, now the results are as follows:

POSITIVE POINTS
Orthodox Cross = 3
Latin Cross = 3
Prayer = 2
Red Pill = 2
Seal (of Approval) = 2
Love = 2
Like = 1
Distinction = 1
Gentleman = 1
Haha = 1
Wow = 1
Chad = 1
Salute = 1
Smile = 1
Thinking = 1
Toast = 1
Wink = 1

NEGATIVE POINTS
Ban = -3
Dislike = -1
Lie = -1
Soy Boy! = -1
Limp = -1
Glowie = -1
Bait = -1
Bot = -1
Troll = -1
Irrational = -1

Any reactions other than these are neutral.

But again the reactions miscommunication strikes again, for example in this post many member give the limp reactions which reduced the poster's points.

@Servant of Christ
@Samseau
@scorpion

May I bring your attention to the above posts and then the following issues. Please keep in mind that your help behind the scenes at CIK is always appreciated. 👏




1. Unintentional down-voting

Members continue to use negative reactions in response to content uploaded by a poster (e.g., a tweet advocating war against Iran) without necessarily wanting to respond negatively to the poster themselves. However, the poster is digitally and socially punished, because the click of unfavourable emoticons/reaction buttons on posts deducts points for the poster.

A remedy to this problem would be:

> Swap all allocations of negative scores with neutral scores, except for the ban reaction <

The 'ban' can stay negative in case of unambiguous fed-posting, trolling, or other garbage posts.

Current negative points:
  • Ban = -3
  • Dislike = -1
  • Lie = -1
  • Soy Boy! = -1
  • Limp = -1
  • Glowie = -1
  • Bait = -1
  • Bot = -1
  • Troll = -1
  • Irrational = -1
Suggested negative points:
  • Ban = -3



2. Overuse of the 'dislike' reaction (and insulting language).

Please note: the following is intended for both members and mods/admin to think about.

Some posters seem to have become increasingly accustomed to using and/or receiving the downvote 'dislike' button and other negative reactions as a representation of disagreement. More often than not, the dislike reaction is used and no further explanation is given for the underlying reason behind the downvote (example).

I understand that members want to be able share their disapproval, and hitting 'dislike' or another negative reaction is the easiest way to express this emotion/thought. However, what do you think is the end outcome when dislike after dislike is received, especially on matters of informational or theoretical opinion? Do you think it influences someone to change their mind, or makes them irritated, or something else?

Based on my knowledge of human behaviour and my direct observation of members' actions at CIK, it's clear that dishing out downvotes (and text-based insults) alienates members, pushes them away, and encourages them to downvote and insult others. Moreover, it can't show others how to behave or think better.

It can also create an echochamber where members avoid posting, rather than sharing a minority opinion that will lead to social punishment. If it gets to the point where members are making memes about a mod's pattern of downvoting, IMO this should be sign for everyone to consider if there is a better way to engage in disagreement. So, what's the takeaway?

> Reacting is not a necessity. If you can't disagree respectfully through text, consider moving on, without responding at all <

What's even worse is when someone gets particularly irritated and starts revenge-reacting. This is less common, but continues to occur.

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Personally I recommend removing the dislike emoticon altogether until members stop using negative reactions so frequently to disagree with each other. However as that may be less palatable to the group, I'll offer the following comments to wrap up.

-> If a member disagrees with someone on a topic or doesn't like their general style, downvoting their posts won't teach anyone a lesson or improve the quality of the forum.

-> Remember what Roosh said about forum behaviour (paraphrased) - it's OK to be beta online. This means being nicer than you think is necessary, letting go of the need to 'one up' the next guy, and giving people the benefit of doubt. Above all, taking a breath and letting something go is a great way to maintain a sense of inner peace.

Relax Self Care GIF by Razer


-> Instead of neg-reacting without explanation, consider outlining your position in a calm way once or twice... and if you feel there is no intellectual or conversational progression, this may be a reasonable sign to move on. (Unless, that is, you derive intrinsic satisfaction from getting drawn into lengthy tit-for-tats with other members who show no interest in considering your position). Or don't respond at all. One always has the choice to simply let things slide.

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Conclusion

Unintentional negative scoring -- and in particular deliberate downvoting and insults -- foster a culture of unnecessary antagonism. I hope that by resolving these two issues, or at least reducing the prevalence of the second, the vibe of the forum can be enhanced, leading to greater engagement among members.
 
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Honestly man, if downvoting causes that much stress for someone, it's a good sign they should take a break from the interweb.

Downvotes don't mean anything to me at all, except that a person might not like a view for (insert reason here). Sometimes people don't have time to write a full response, or don't want to, but they still want to say, "hey, your post makes no sense/is weak/is bad."

Pretty much all of of the most popular forums on the internet have some kind of upvote or downvote.

However, I agree that the scoring system has problems and can encourage bad behavior. I think we can get rid of it, and it might help out some people relax.
 
What's even worse is when someone gets particularly irritated and starts revenge-reacting. This is less common, but continues to occur.
Yes, I said the same thing back then in this thread. Once, I gave FrancisK the fedora and cope reactions in quick succession, and shortly afterward, he responded with reactions like soy boy and Kumar Reddy.

I have personally removed reactions I’ve given to certain members if, later on, they give me reactions that lower my score. For example, if some posters react to my posts with dislikes, I may consider undoing the positive reactions I had given them, such as likes or smiles. This isn't about being petty; it's what I call "reciprocal reactions."

Additionally, giving reactions to a member involved in a heated debate can be seen as taking sides. In discussions like the Trump thread, the flat Earth thread, or the Hitler thread, it's possible to determine who supports whom by looking at the posters and the users who liked or disliked their posts.​

Based on my knowledge of human behaviour and my direct observation of members' actions at CIK, it's clear that dishing out downvotes (and text-based insults) alienates members, pushes them away, and encourages them to downvote and insult others. Moreover, it can't show others how to behave or think better.

It can also create an echochamber where members avoid posting, rather than sharing a minority opinion that will lead to social punishment. If it gets to the point where members are making memes about a mod's pattern of downvoting, IMO this should be sign for everyone to consider if there is a better way to engage in disagreement. So, what's the takeaway?
This has been my experience as well. I would like to post more often in this forum, but I know that if I say the wrong things, my posts will be disliked into oblivion. That’s why I only share opinions that align with the majority viewpoint here.

For example, I’m a huge fan of Andrew and Tristan Tate. I believe they do meaningful work by motivating people to reach their full potential and achieve success. I often watch and listen to Tate’s motivational clips.

However, most people in this forum seem to hate Tate, and by supporting Andrew Tate, I inevitably receive some of that hostility. The screenshot below is just one example of the dislikes my post received after I defended Andrew Tate’s decision to convert to Islam so he could continue living his preferred lifestyle.​
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This is just one example. I’ve made posts before that supported Tate, and those were also disliked. Additionally, Valentin Pearson, the thread’s creator, regretted starting it because of the negative reactions it received.

Last but not least, I’ve received my share of negative reactions, such as dislikes, but none hurts more than being disliked by Samseau. While his dislike deducts the same -1 point from my score as any other, the psychological impact feels equivalent to being disliked by ten people. Samseau is a compassionate and merciful man, but if he dislikes my post, it means I’ve completely messed up by making a low-quality post—one so poor that even he lost his patience and expressed his wrath.​
 
I don't really get involved in forum drama or politics so I don't really have a strong feeling one way or another on this topic. I wish people would spend more time focusing on Christ and less on arguments about wordly things. Aside from that, I just hope they treat each other with respect, humility, and kindness. I don't think imaginary Internet points are very important. Unless it is preventing you from being able to use the site, which I don't think it is, then I suggest you relax and try to move on your with life. That is just my 2 cents, since you asked. :)
 
Yes, I said the same thing back then in this thread. Once, I gave FrancisK the fedora and cope reactions in quick succession, and shortly afterward, he responded with reactions like soy boy and Kumar Reddy.

I have personally removed reactions I’ve given to certain members if, later on, they give me reactions that lower my score. For example, if some posters react to my posts with dislikes, I may consider undoing the positive reactions I had given them, such as likes or smiles. This isn't about being petty; it's what I call "reciprocal reactions."

Additionally, giving reactions to a member involved in a heated debate can be seen as taking sides. In discussions like the Trump thread, the flat Earth thread, or the Hitler thread, it's possible to determine who supports whom by looking at the posters and the users who liked or disliked their posts.


This has been my experience as well. I would like to post more often in this forum, but I know that if I say the wrong things, my posts will be disliked into oblivion. That’s why I only share opinions that align with the majority viewpoint here.

For example, I’m a huge fan of Andrew and Tristan Tate. I believe they do meaningful work by motivating people to reach their full potential and achieve success. I often watch and listen to Tate’s motivational clips.

However, most people in this forum seem to hate Tate, and by supporting Andrew Tate, I inevitably receive some of that hostility. The screenshot below is just one example of the dislikes my post received after I defended Andrew Tate’s decision to convert to Islam so he could continue living his preferred lifestyle.​
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This is just one example. I’ve made posts before that supported Tate, and those were also disliked. Additionally, Valentin Pearson, the thread’s creator, regretted starting it because of the negative reactions it received.

Last but not least, I’ve received my share of negative reactions, such as dislikes, but none hurts more than being disliked by Samseau. While his dislike deducts the same -1 point from my score as any other, the psychological impact feels equivalent to being disliked by ten people. Samseau is a compassionate and merciful man, but if he dislikes my post, it means I’ve completely messed up by making a low-quality post—one so poor that even he lost his patience and expressed his wrath.​
Now what makes a Christian person defend someones conversion to another religion?
 
Yes, I said the same thing back then in this thread. Once, I gave FrancisK the fedora and cope reactions in quick succession, and shortly afterward, he responded with reactions like soy boy and Kumar Reddy.

I have personally removed reactions I’ve given to certain members if, later on, they give me reactions that lower my score. For example, if some posters react to my posts with dislikes, I may consider undoing the positive reactions I had given them, such as likes or smiles. This isn't about being petty; it's what I call "reciprocal reactions."

Additionally, giving reactions to a member involved in a heated debate can be seen as taking sides. In discussions like the Trump thread, the flat Earth thread, or the Hitler thread, it's possible to determine who supports whom by looking at the posters and the users who liked or disliked their posts.


This has been my experience as well. I would like to post more often in this forum, but I know that if I say the wrong things, my posts will be disliked into oblivion. That’s why I only share opinions that align with the majority viewpoint here.

For example, I’m a huge fan of Andrew and Tristan Tate. I believe they do meaningful work by motivating people to reach their full potential and achieve success. I often watch and listen to Tate’s motivational clips.

However, most people in this forum seem to hate Tate, and by supporting Andrew Tate, I inevitably receive some of that hostility. The screenshot below is just one example of the dislikes my post received after I defended Andrew Tate’s decision to convert to Islam so he could continue living his preferred lifestyle.​
View attachment 21565

This is just one example. I’ve made posts before that supported Tate, and those were also disliked. Additionally, Valentin Pearson, the thread’s creator, regretted starting it because of the negative reactions it received.

Last but not least, I’ve received my share of negative reactions, such as dislikes, but none hurts more than being disliked by Samseau. While his dislike deducts the same -1 point from my score as any other, the psychological impact feels equivalent to being disliked by ten people. Samseau is a compassionate and merciful man, but if he dislikes my post, it means I’ve completely messed up by making a low-quality post—one so poor that even he lost his patience and expressed his wrath.​

Was that the post where you said the guy had a better life because he converted to Islam? Did you really expect that to go over well?

Have you considered that maybe you concern yourself with vanity far too much? You seem to obsess over it, the majority of your posts are about it, towards yourself, towards others....even towards your faith.
 
Before posting something just typed up in response to something read on the forum, I try to stop and take a second to think.

1. Will this provide value to other men on the forum (glowies, bots and women aside) who took time out of their day to read my comment?

2. Is what I'm about to post reactionary, inflammatory or unclear in ways that could mean something different to a person reading the comment from another context?

3. Could there be a reasonable angle for why certain event, etc...happened that I am oblivious too?

4. Any egregious grammatical or spelling errors?

Ymmv but I've found it helpful to have a little filter to run things through before just letting loose with something...
 
I am favor of removing the dislike button. It currently gets used by individuals to brigade, steer forum perception and stifle discussion.

Unfortunately the majority of membership is still very sensitive towards reception and forum standing. Ergo in extension of that I'd say level of discourse and engagement would greatly improve if the dislike button would be removed.

I'm so old school that I'd get rid of likes/dislikes altogether. Back in my day there was only one way to express approval/disapproval of something, and that was to simply type out a response.

Likes first showed up on facebook, that was the start of "web 2.0" when the internet started becoming gay.

Agreed. Or keep the like button but lose the point system. There have been individuals on this board, presumably in their 40s, who were fretting about 'losing their like points' due to forum updates and adjustments. Kinda low energy if you ask me.
 
I agree with those who say that negative reactions should be removed. I'd be fine with just a 'like' but some of the other sillier reactions are fun too. I like the 'redpill' reaction for acknowledging a post that you feel really cuts to the heart of the matter or has particularly on-point insight. However stuff like thumbs-down, the 'irrational' retarded pepefrog and the proposed bluepill reaction really encourage much more adversarial discourse. I say this as someone guilty of disliking on a semi-regular basis myself.
 
I agree with those who say that negative reactions should be removed. I'd be fine with just a 'like' but some of the other sillier reactions are fun too. I like the 'redpill' reaction for acknowledging a post that you feel really cuts to the heart of the matter or has particularly on-point insight. However stuff like thumbs-down, the 'irrational' retarded pepefrog and the proposed bluepill reaction really encourage much more adversarial discourse. I say this as someone guilty of disliking on a semi-regular basis myself.
@Samseau
 
I think the positive and negative reactions are good for assessing where folks stand on a topic but it can certainly lower the quality of discussion because instead of typing out a well thought out response, it's too east to just hit a react button.

The way I see it is that the reaction (like, dislike, chad, red pill & so on) is to the content, not necessarily the poster. For example, if someone shares some crazy tweet in the clown world thread and users react with the "clown world" react, it's not saying that the user is a clown even though he will get minus point per clown react. It's just a way to give your perspective on the content of a post.

Who cares about points anyways, it's not like you can just cash them out or buy things on the forum... Unless you are only following a few specific threads, it's possible to get a good feel for a poster without ever checking his points.
 
Starlight just gave me my second dislike ever because she didn't get my Arnold Schwarzenegger "girly men" reference in the California thread. Now I'm so mad, that we need to rescind the decision to allow women to post out of their containment board. In addition, repeal the 19th, and remove all of their rights in general. I'm joining the Taliban.
 
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