Daily Interactions With Women

[Douglas Quaid]

I'm 34 and started going to a Christian group for young adults (18-30). I would say most of them are early to mid 20s. I thought it would be weird at first, but the lady that runs it kept trying to get me to go. I think she's trying to help me find a girl. Her husband is a really good guy too and everyone that I've met is really nice. The world feels normal around people like this.

The girls absolutely talk by the way, because I've started running into more of them. There's one in particular I'm really interested in, but she's pretty uptight and awkard around men (probably a good thing). Maybe playing hard to get is working...

So I would focus on Christian activities. Or just move abroad

 

[Steady Hands]

...The only real answer is to go through a high-volume of women until you get a decent girl.

Every situation is different but I wouldn't rule out a woman who otherwise fits the bill if she has some feminist or liberal or let's say "pro gay" kinds of opinions or attitudes. As long as she herself is feminine, seeks Christ above all else, and is willing to follow you and be faithful, those problematic opinions can and will be smoothed out over time...

...I don't even see why it would be necessary to tell a woman that you don't think women should vote as a part of courting her or discerning whether you should court her. If she disagrees so what? I guarantee she also has hundreds of other nonsense opinions. She's a woman.

A woman who has strong political opinions, even if they match with yours is also more likely to be more disagreeable and have more of a personality type that's been going to lead to a lot more clashes when you are around her. I can see how this is going to lead to some issues if you are around her constantly, such as if you are married to her. That's why I would prefer for a potential wife to be apolitical.

I would tend to agree with these comments, which have value for any single man to consider when screening for long-term relationship suitability. It also has relevance for men in existing relationships in the context of "educating" their women.

To keep the thread topics on track, I've continued the discussion with a detailed post in the thread 'Who should you Marry':

Screening for Wifey based on Political Views and other Opinions: Benefits, Challenges, and Trade-Offs

 

[Douglas Quaid]

That comment about meeting a high volume of women is very true, even if you're meeting ones that go to church. It not only builds confidence, but you get better at picking up on red flags. And just because a woman goes to church, it doesn't mean they take it seriously. I've noticed several of them are still sleeping around.

 

[Knight.of.Logos]

I'm 34 and started going to a Christian group for young adults (18-30). I would say most of them are early to mid 20s. I thought it would be weird at first, but the lady that runs it kept trying to get me to go. I think she's trying to help me find a girl. Her husband is a really good guy too and everyone that I've met is really nice. The world feels normal around people like this.

The girls absolutely talk by the way, because I've started running into more of them. There's one in particular I'm really interested in, but she's pretty uptight and awkard around men (probably a good thing). Maybe playing hard to get is working...

So I would focus on Christian activities. Or just move abroad

Is that at an Orthodox Church? I've attended three different Orthodox Churches over the course of the last several years and none of them had that. It would be a great way to meet women and cool dudes too, but, alas, the Orthodox Churches I've been to have been akin to a spiritual sausage fest.

 

[Blade Runner]

It would be a great way to meet women and cool dudes too, but, alas, the Orthodox Churches I've been to have been akin to a spiritual sausage fest.

There are good people at a lot of them but mostly it's old people, recent converts (a lot of whom are families), and young men. It's very regional to boot. I don't think the Roman Catholics have a lot of success either, and they have tons of churches, technically tons of people, and in big cities too. It seems that there is a similar issue of lots of men and few women, or few women who stick around for any events or serious inquiry of men who attend church vs. those they meet in "real life" that are apparently more capable of tingle induction.

 

[Douglas Quaid]

Is that at an Orthodox Church? I've attended three different Orthodox Churches over the course of the last several years and none of them had that. It would be a great way to meet women and cool dudes too, but, alas, the Orthodox Churches I've been to have been akin to a spiritual sausage fest.

For this group you can go to any type of church, including Orthodox or Catholic. But it's pretty much all people that go to Protestant churches. At least where I live, a Protestant church with mostly right-wing people seems to be the way to go. But similar to you, I would prefer a more Orthodox environment.

Either way, they're good people. Lots of nice women and potential male friends.

 

[Knight.of.Logos]

For this group you can go to any type of church, including Orthodox or Catholic. But it's pretty much all people that go to Protestant churches. At least where I live, a Protestant church with mostly right-wing people seems to be the way to go. But similar to you, I would prefer a more Orthodox environment.

Either way, they're good people. Lots of nice women and potential male friends.

I'll see if there is anything like that in my area. I don't want to go to a group that is affiliated with a Protestant or Catholic Church, but if I'd be open to a group that is open to all.