Are there women who prefer men who are virgins?

Akshually... there's a spectrum in both men and women. At one end are people with stronger wiring for monogamy. At the other are those with stronger wiring for non-monogamy. Obviously, they should each seek out their own kind.

My two older brothers were chads. The one I was closer to was tall, handsome, athletic, fit, played many sports, effortlessly charming and funny. Desirable girls would chase him and fight over him. One of them took me out to a nice restaurant with her popular friends so she could grill me about my big brother and what he liked.

He never seemed impressed or interested in any of that attention. Throughout high school, he had one nice girlfriend and he seemed totally devoted to her. Sadly, she passed away at a young age due to a heart condition. Eventually all these women swooped in, and one of them won him over and they got married. I get the strong impression he's always been loyal to her. It's just the way he is.

Some men, no matter how many options they may have, because of their heart or mind or whatever it may be... are really only interested in attracting and keeping that one special girl. Most women agree these are the best men to love and marry. I was lucky enough to marry this kind of man.
 
Mrs TexasJenn said:
Some men, no matter how many options they may have, because of their heart or mind or whatever it may be... are really only interested in attracting and keeping that one special girl.
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Again those men exist but they are in the minority. The vast majority of chads are going to sleep around at least until they get bored of it. But again you really seem intent on highlighting the exceptions to the rule which really don't matter all that much in the grand scheme of things.
 
Mrs TexasJenn said:
Some men, no matter how many options they may have, because of their heart or mind or whatever it may be... are really only interested in attracting and keeping that one special girl. Most women agree these are the best men to love and marry. I was lucky enough to marry this kind of man.
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Australia Sucks said:
Men have always needed a sexual outlet but this system was designed to stop women being ruined as potential wives for other men. Otherwise all the women would sleep with chads and no average men would be able to get virgin wives. In the old system as far as I know of most women would remain virgins until marriage and their would be a small number of women who would be official prostitutes and men could visit these prostitutes until they got married as it was understood that men have sexual needs which are far more pressing than women. I am just wondering if it was originally the same in your culture? Or were men always expected to be virgins until marriage?

Men remaining virgins until marriage can be viable but only in a situation where men get married super young (16 - 20).
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People generally still get married young in my culture, not as young as they used to obviously but younger than typical western culture that's for sure.

Men are not judged the same way women are it's a different scale but if you have a dirty reputation it's going to hurt you either way.
 
Thank you for the nice comments but in reality I am not that nice or great of a person, husband, Christian, administrator, etc. Quite the opposite. I've done a lot of stupid crap in my life and I still have so much to learn. Pretty much every single day feels like a failure to some degree but I try my best to keep struggling in the name and example of Christ. Please pray for me.

That being said, I am super grateful for all the blessings I have been given which I totally do not deserve. And near the top of that list (after God, the Church, etc) is my wonderful wife. I pray that you all have or will soon find that one special wonderful person for you that completes your life in a way that nothing else could. Once you do it puts things in perspective and a lot of the nonsense of the world we get so worked up about seems less important.

In Christ,

SoC
 
There are adult women at the church I go to and Christian community around here who are still virgin and prefer a virgin man. I would also say it's rare for a woman to make it a deal breaker, which is fortunate for men that became Christian as an adult.

And then there are the "Christians" sleeping around and not being sincere at all. So it just takes some effort to meet the right people.

A lot of virgin men are unnattractive to women for other reasons than being a virgin.
 
Douglas Quaid said:
There are adult women at the church I go to and Christian community around here who are still virgin and prefer a virgin man. I would also say it's rare for a woman to make it a deal breaker, which is fortunate for men that became Christian as an adult.

And then there are the "Christians" sleeping around and not being sincere at all. So it just takes some effort to meet the right people.

A lot of virgin men are unnattractive to women for other reasons than being a virgin.
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This. I have seen a number of weddings in my church where I believe both are virgins. However you are right to make a distinction between attractive men who waited out of conviction vs those who had less of a choice.
 
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