A hard truth about a fairly regular phenomenon with divorced women:It's a notable and regular observation that a divorced woman will begin focusing on her appearance, going to the gym, eating well, beautifying herself, being gentle, warm, and sweet. She tries to be attractive to potential suitors. She focuses on not only how she looks, but, how she comes across. She buys new clothes. She tries to smile more at men she's interested in. She shows interest. She acts gentle and sweet. She tries to be engaging in conversation. She does all the things necessary to attract a man to demonstrate that she is a "catch." She shows interest in men. She works hard at it. She may even remember to flirt with someone she's interested in. She makes her attraction to other men obvious. All things that she likely abandoned and had no concern for with the man she made a covenant with before God and witnesses. In divorce, there are sins and failures on both sides. Always. Sometimes, there are instances of high-handed victimization (like adultery, abuse, neglect, and abandonment). However, it is interesting to note that oftentimes, the divorced woman begins to live in a way that she refused to live with the man who loved her and committed his life to her. The tragedy is worsened by the fact that she will often do more, after divorce, for an unknown potential man than she was willing to do for the man who committed his life to her. Sometimes, the motivation in her new appearance and manner is to make her ex-husband jealous. However, it only makes him angry and often bitter. Because he knows that she never cared enough for him to do those things. But, she is willing to do it for a faceless, nameless, idea of a potential new husband. He thinks, "Who is this gentle, sweet, engaging, smiling, and beautiful woman who shows attraction to other men?" He forgot what that was like. This is to say, ladies, it's better to love and pursue the man God already gave you with that energy. Invest in having a romance with the man you already promised to honor. It might turn out very well for you both. Living like this, after divorce, only shows that your promise to honor your husband wasn't kept. More honor is given to other men than the one who committed to you. Yes, I have things to say about divorced men, too.
