Wife Hunting Abroad - Data Sheets Thread

[FrancisK]

That´s setting the bar too high. You and your wife will create your own family. It´s a new branch. That´s what´s important. Me and my wife have around 40 cousins together (20+20). I am partially from the same area than she is. But that´s irrelevant. My parents have 10 brothers together. My wife the same. Maybe she has more. We don´t hang out with any of them. We like to be together. Sometimes I make an effort for my kids to socialize in family events. weddings, easter christmas, church. That´s it. There´s always family intrigues, jealousy, fights for inheritances, etc, etc.

Gipsies marry kids like that.

Ehhh....I don't know magoo. Yea it's true that you're starting your own family but kids need a village, they need accountability to more than just their parents. My younger relatives come to me for advice and guidance about things they would never in a million years go to their parents about, sometimes I encourage them sometimes I put the fear of god into them. My cousin who is happily married told me something recently, he said that when he got married he not only gained a wife but he gained another family, her family. I felt like that was a nice sentiment, I realize it doesn't always work out that way a lot of that it cultural based. You're right in that it can go the other way with fighting and especially jealously, which makes it more true that marrying into a good family is an important consideration.

 

[GoodShepherd]

That´s setting the bar too high. You and your wife will create your own family. It´s a new branch. That´s what´s important. Me and my wife have around 40 cousins together (20+20). I am partially from the same area than she is. But that´s irrelevant. My parents have 10 brothers together. My wife the same. Maybe she has more. We don´t hang out with any of them. We like to be together. Sometimes I make an effort for my kids to socialize in family events. weddings, easter christmas, church. That´s it. There´s always family intrigues, jealousy, fights for inheritances, etc, etc.

Gipsies marry kids like that.

Thats actually not setting the bar high at all in my opinion, in todays modern world I know not too many familes hang out together like before but its still something worth persuing, yes families can fight and have disagreements but rather wait for that to actually happen before worrying about it, thats like avoiding marriage because there are lots of divorces happening, you cant go into a relationship on the backfoot like that.

It is possible obviously to live totally independant and cut off from your family but it just doesnt seem nornal, my kids have spend lots of time being baby sitted by family, in the older days when I was a kid we had huge family gatherings all the time every month there was something, weddings were hundreds of people, Christmas and Easter was also big when both sides of the family got together itbwas around 100 people, nowdays its not like that anymore communities and families are very fragmented and living all over the place.

Even with my kids Im hoping when they grow up and have husbands and wives that we will also be apart of their lives and be with the grandkids and help out our children and create an even bigger family

 

[magoo]

All families have dirt. Some hide it better than others. Already finding a good woman is hard enough for young people today with instagram etc. Making them also check the woman family is too much burden. The important on her family is just her parents. Most importantly how she deals with father. And what her mother does. The rest is for me irrelevant. And I´m saying this my wife family is great. They make barbecues. Invite me to go hunting (never went goes they are always drunk. I wonder how nobody died till today), etc. But in all gatherings. Hers mine. Maybe cause I´m a lawyer there´s always inheritance talks. And it´s an headache. There´s a big web of lies jealousies etc which surfaces once in a while.

Finding a good girl is the most important. Her family is a bonus. But not crucial.

My kids have nothing to learn from anyone. Cause they will never have anyone as good as me advising them.

 

[GoodShepherd]

All families have dirt. Some hide it better than others. Already finding a good woman is hard enough for young people today with instagram etc. Making them also check the woman family is too much burden. The important on her family is just her parents. Most importantly how she deals with father. And what her mother does. The rest is for me irrelevant. And I´m saying this my wife family is great. They make barbecues. Invite me to go hunting (never went goes they are always drunk. I wonder how nobody died till today), etc. But in all gatherings. Hers mine. Maybe cause I´m a lawyer there´s always inheritance talks. And it´s an headache. There´s a big web of lies jealousies etc which surfaces once in a while.

Finding a good girl is the most important. Her family is a bonus. But not crucial.

My kids have nothing to learn from anyone. Cause they will never have anyone as good as me advising them.

I grew up as a child with a big family around and a community and I still think about it today as an adult and how great it was and how much fun I had, I wish the same for my kids and grandkids.

When my kids get married Im hoping we will also get along with the new extended family and hang out sometimes, if not its also ok I will accept it but wouldnt mind the cherry on top.