Perseus66
Protestant
Yup, marital sex is for progeny, lust should have no place there. Luther recommended performing your duties once a week at the most, if I recall correctly.
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I would amend this to "you don't NECESSARILY get to have 24/7 unlimited sex just because you are married."
Some husbands do though. Some husbands even have slightly more sex than they'd like at times. Situations where it's late, you're tired, but she still wants some can and do occur. If you're doing it right.
In a rough manner of speaking a marriage where you have blowjobs on demand is entirely possible. You have to start out by marrying a woman who's intensely attracted to you physically and emotionally. Then when you get married you continue to lift weights, eat well, and keep up your appearance, and you learn game if you haven't already to keep her emotionally satisfied. Basically, start from where she's intensely into you and put in the effort to maintain that attraction and you should have all the sex you want in marriage, or even slightly more.
It's probably also helpful to be aware that the bizarrely prevalent idea that women like sex less than men is hilariously blue pilled and wrong. When they seem to be less into sex it's just that you've failed to create attraction in them and they don't feel like having sex with you, specifically.
Perseus66
Protestant
At the very least the churches and priests should start preaching to women that attend the church that they need to keep their virginity intact and stop being whores, submit to their husbands, etc. They could also organize singles events/mixers at the church or priests could try to introduce/matchmake young men and women, etc. That would be the church playing their small part.
There is a limit to how much sex a man can desire when its always with the same woman because the novelty wears off. Its like if you eat steak twice a day every day for a year eventually you are going to feel less excited about eating it.
This is true. This is also why you should like your wife for reasons other than sex. It should be one of the fun activities you do with her, but yeah, if it's the only one it's not going to be satisfying for very long.
Is this true if you both were celibate on your wedding night? I know guys that were and have been married for 40+ years and have never tired of it because they don't know what else is out there.
I eat steak as much as possible and the same with giving my old lady the business.
Hence the seven kids.
Totally reject this notion.
When you're actually able to have bonding beyond a purely physical connection, and you're a high testosterone dude... There's never a lack of desire for sex... merely a lack of free time to hop in the sack.
Sounds like you’re struggling with passions of the flesh. Have you spoken with a priest about this? I hear nofap can really help in such matters. Unless I’m wrong of course and a marriage contract makes you exempt, then I guess more power to you.
Back to the topic. Almost none of the priests, even the ones who take on many social ills, talk about women/careerism/submitting etc. That's what several passages in the gospel teach. I'm curious as to what they would even respond to St. Paul - Corinthians, Ephesians and Timothy. It's weird to me that someone with courage like Fr. Josiah will take the gays head on, but (and if I'm mistaken please point it out) he won't take feminism and how subverted women, and thus men and marriage have become? What gays or the world do is essentially inconsequential if your people aren't doing that, or following them. The rub is, with a few exceptions of small regions or churches with traditionalism, they are following them. It's like complaining about media or Hollywood that they are influencing your daughter but never actually directly speaking to your daughter about the lies and damage it will do if she listens to them and does what they suggest. Now, she may still disobey you but not addressing the issue directly is definitely on you.
To be fair, at regular Roman Catholic mass last Sunday, the deacon gave the homily and directly spoke about the part of the NT where it says wives should submit to their husbands as their husbands submit to God. So, it does get mentioned even in mainstream churches sometimes, albeit probably not often enough.
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Why do I need to speak with my priest about healthy sex with my wife whom I'm very much in love with which has produced multiple children.
What are you talking about? Where in did I say that there was anything out of line with what the biblical and Traditional teachings of marriage are in my point?
Im pretty sure the Orthodox wedding ceremony which prays for the couple to have many many kids is a natural maturation of God's gift of Eve to Adam do they may be fruitful and multiply and bring more souls to Christ.
Again you're trying to imply you're an inquirer when I've read zero things from you to demonstrate you've done any inquiring with a priest or have any clue what you're professing be knowledge about on or to pontificate about.