Don't let that bother you. Of course nearly everyone cares about physical traits. It's the same in any aspect of life. You go to vacation in beautiful places with beaches and mountains. You don't vacation in the cornfields of Iowa. You can say all you want how nice and helpful the people are in Iowa and how it's cheap and safe. You still won't get more than a few tourists to go there.
But it doesn't mean that it's the only thing that matters. We just need to be grateful to God for what we have and not forget the bottom line.
Anyways, if a woman is so holy as to not care about the material at all she would probably be in a monastery rather than getting married.
The guys that are real "chads" are those that don't think about it. They don't obsess about it and just focus on their own lives. I've met average looking dudes who seem to magnetically attract women. And I knew model looking guys who repelled women once they opened their mouths. The latter reeked of desperation. So it's something more than just appearance. The internal state matters most.
We can all gain some of those positive qualities and maximize our attractiveness. Work out, eat healthy, try to build courage and life experience, speak clearly and confidently.. Of course there are limits drawn by biology, but most guys can do a lot better than they're doing now.