Is there no way you can get joint custody of your children? That is pretty common here in the US. Wouldn't that reduce the amount of child support you have to pay?Yes!! Absolutely. Thats a big factor in the decision process...
I coyld do a transfer to the regular army as a construction tech and get a very generalized education in construction including carpentry, masonry, roofing, but the thing is, the pay is pretty high and it would reward my wife for essentially destroying my life's work and family, which I dont want to do exactly. This 17k I am entitled to as layoff relief would be enough for a year program somewhere. I'm leaning hard into a carpentry program but the 17k is only for tuition, books and fees, which means I'd have to come up with the ovong allowance on my own.
The income split, since my wife refused to work the whole marriage is 60/40 of my after tax income, so that would make my pay about 29.6% of the gross pay. Imagine working a 100k job and having 29.6k to your name. How can a man even live??? I absolutely need cash on the side... general laborer, farm worker (work on exchange for housing) i just dont know.
I prayed the Sorrowful Mysteries on the rosary this morning so I'm feeling grace and peace right now, but I know there's a train wreck coming. Also, not being there to raise my own sons and daughter? What life is this. Only the welfare state and family laws incentive this behaviour... zero zero zero sense in this frivolous divorce
My lawyer says joint custody is extremely unlikely because I work and my wife does not, therefore she is certainly the primary caregiver and if I was given a 50/50 split it doesnt necessarily work with my multiple jobs, even if I cut down to one job, they would possibly charge me child support and spousal based on 2 jobs, and I would just end up with less.Is there no way you can get joint custody of your children? That is pretty common here in the US. Wouldn't that reduce the amount of child support you have to pay?
If you are near a large city and have a green thumb, your ag/farming idea could be quite profitable. Organic veggies sold directly to customers are nothing to sneeze at. If growing them isn't a good option for you, you could probably function as a middle man for local producers who don't want to deal with city folk or just don't have the time for selling smaller quantities.
What about being a men’s barber? Plenty of them offer a small discount for paying in cash so they get a decent amount of cash customers and you can rent a chair very easily in a barber shop pretty much anywhere in the world.Yes!! Absolutely. Thats a big factor in the decision process...
I coyld do a transfer to the regular army as a construction tech and get a very generalized education in construction including carpentry, masonry, roofing, but the thing is, the pay is pretty high and it would reward my wife for essentially destroying my life's work and family, which I dont want to do exactly. This 17k I am entitled to as layoff relief would be enough for a year program somewhere. I'm leaning hard into a carpentry program but the 17k is only for tuition, books and fees, which means I'd have to come up with the ovong allowance on my own.
The income split, since my wife refused to work the whole marriage is 60/40 of my after tax income, so that would make my pay about 29.6% of the gross pay. Imagine working a 100k job and having 29.6k to your name. How can a man even live??? I absolutely need cash on the side... general laborer, farm worker (work on exchange for housing) i just dont know.
I prayed the Sorrowful Mysteries on the rosary this morning so I'm feeling grace and peace right now, but I know there's a train wreck coming. Also, not being there to raise my own sons and daughter? What life is this. Only the welfare state and family laws incentive this behaviour... zero zero zero sense in this frivolous divorce
What about selling your produce to high end local restaurants? Plenty of high end restaurants will pay up for high quality local produce because they love to brag about this type of stuff to their customers.I actually like that a lot you just have to have a plan to bring them to market which would be the hard part. Relying on little farmer markets and things like that won't get you far I know lots of people that had a great product and thought a farmers market, local fairs and things of that nature would get them to launch and they just wasted their time eventually abandoning their product. I also know people who got into large chain supermarkets through localized programs as pilots for national and just completely flopped as well even though their product was unique, well made and the deals totally in the supermarkets favor. There is big money in veggies and food in general, the logistics of it are the problem.
I am face with an option right now to accept a layoff with 50 weeks pay and 17k in training funds to any registered learning institution. I have a degree in business and I dont really want to continue doing business. I've never liked it and only did it so I could support a family. My wife is leaving me (rejected the faith, wants child support for guaranteed income) and I have this opportunity ro retrain.
Currently looking at agriculture, carpentry / masonry generalist, master of theology, laptop / cellphone repair technician.
A job that pays in cash sometimes would be nice...
Any other ideas?
What about selling your produce to high end local restaurants? Plenty of high end restaurants will pay up for high quality local produce because they love to brag about this type of stuff to their customers.
People keep pointing at electrician but I just picture running wires through attics. I have a bachelor degree already in business, so the 1 year training could just be self development, and then go back into accounting which is really boring and also really easy on my body.If I had 50 weeks pay and 17k in training funds right now, I would go be an apprentice electrician and use those funds to stay alive on the $15 an hour that an apprenticeship pays.
I currently do industrial maintenance and repair. Industrial maintenance technicians that are also journeyman electricians make 50 dollars an hour or more in the midwest, easily, and they do half to a quarter of the actual work of a maintenance tech.
If I had 50 weeks pay and 17k in training funds with no experience in the trades at 39 years old, I would either get into nursing or a trade that isn't going to destroy your joints. I don't know anything about carpentry but I feel like with all these overpriced houses and flippers, a cabinet maker could do just fine and those aren't particularly heavy (to me at least).
If you're just looking for "a job", trucking is pretty easy to get into now as they fired all the scabs who can't speak english. The risk is infinite boredom and getting fat but even my mom can drive a truck and she's pushing 70 years old with parkinsons.
Edit : someone above me suggested "barber", that's actually a pretty solid idea. I know of one in my town who ONLY accepts cash and he seems to do just fine. Gets a lot of reading done, too, so that's a two for one, you can study theology. Location is everything though, men probably aren't going to drive 20 miles into the boonies for a haircut.
On a more "wild" idea, I've kicked around the idea of raising and butchering squab to sell to high end restaurants. I guess you don't need a lot of space to raise them.
This is what happens when you get married in the west. If you want to get married do it in a non western country and live there with your wife.People keep pointing at electrician but I just picture running wires through attics. I have a bachelor degree already in business, so the 1 year training could just be self development, and then go back into accounting which is really boring and also really easy on my body.
I still cant believe im going through this. My wife just decided we're over based on divorce research and the huge price tag she'd get from me at my salary and the fact that I finally was able to buy us a house. Its betrayal and disbelief. Shes loving it. Acts like a spoiled ungrateful adolescent thats got a nuclear button. 16 years is a long time to pay child support for almost no reason. I love my children. I cant believe this is happening, I keep thinking it'll just go away if I keep praying, but im also asking for acceptance.
I think signing up for a year of carpentry would give me the ability to either one day buy a plot of land and build my own small house on it, or buy a really bad boxer upper for cheap and then fix it up myself. Still, my lawyer says she'll get 60 percent of my after tax pay for a while and a divorce would cost me 50k and cost her nothing. Ill be an old man before I could financially put it behind me, but all those years lost and my kids growing up without me.... I dont want this timeline, gentlemen. I don't want this. But I may have to do it regardless. I'm home in an empty house right now after a saturday of training, cooking myself a dinner in a quiet house because my in-laws and wife took the kids. Wtf even is this....
I'll do my prayer routine when the casserole is done... im still shellshocked though.