Being yourself and sometimes crossing that thin line that can affect your love ones?

GuitarWind21

Remnant
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Holy crap, it is currently 2:12 AM here in South East Asia and you'll never believe what just happened right now. This smartphone used to belong to my sisters and a lot of her old contact number is still visible on here and being the silly goose that I am, I've pranked called a lot of people there with my cowboy and russian accents just for fun lol. This time I saw an old name - 'C', who I thought used to be my sister's friend and I felt like texting her, so I did and texted, ' Who the fvck are you'? And what do you know man....it was the wrong freakin 'C', it was 'C', the Court County coordinator for our district, that my brother used to worked with. He used to be an assistant district attorney, now working defense. My Sister is a lawyer and my family ganged up on me with my parents in my room and both my siblings on video call. Needless to say man, I am officially the black sheep of the family with a target out for me. My mom used this to get all up on my grill on the type of posts I post on Social media, that I should stop talking about politics, religion, spirituality etc I swear my family is trying to censor and control me man. This might be an issue down the line especially with the type of woman I plan on hitching and marrying.

I plan on marrying a very spiritual and godly woman and this might cause some friction with my family. This makes me ponder if the type of goals I pursue in the future might have some negative impact with the people I love and how it will also hurt them. That's why I want to have spiritual and noble goals that can bring positive change to our communities and to those around me but some may go against the mainstream agenda, like for example I want to help Men everywhere by uplifting them socially, physically and spiritually. That may go against the elitist agenda of demasculinizing Men everywhere and If I make it big, they might try to censor me or black mail or some stuff like that. Crazy stuff man. For now makes you think how your actions affects the ones you love and how it's important, if its a trivial matter to make some compromise. I changed my profile pic in my social media to cater to my brother and sister's professional reputation as I'm friends with some of their co workers and I don't want them thinking I'm some beanie wearing hipster with no job. Lol well, that maybe true as I'm Retired Air Force Veteran living off my pension and simply living and taking care of my parents at the moment. I can live a simple life abroad and never need to work again. But I'd like to grow a brand cater to Men and their spiritual and emotional needs someday and tomorrow is a great time to start lol. Here's my current social media pic, of my semi casual brown blazer attire.

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It's good to be considerate to your family. Many people, especially men, want to help others, but of course it's more difficult to help oneself. It's common that while attempting to fix problems one sees in the world or in others, that we actually externalize our own issues and blindly project them. I try to remember this quote from St. Seraphim of Sarov:

"Acquire the Spirit of Peace and a thousand souls around you will be saved."

The Morning Prayer of the Last Elders of the Optina Elders

O Lord, grant that I may meet all that this coming day brings to me with spiritual tranquility. Grant that I may fully surrender myself to Thy holy Will.

At every hour of this day, direct and support me in all things. Whatsoever news may reach me in the course of the day, teach me to accept it with a calm soul and the firm conviction that all is subject to Thy holy Will.

Direct my thoughts and feelings in all my words and actions. In all unexpected occurrences, do not let me forget that all is sent down from Thee.

Grant that I may deal straightforwardly and wisely with every member of my family, neither embarrassing nor saddening anyone.

O Lord, grant me the strength to endure the fatigue of the coming day and all the events that take place during it. Direct my will and teach me to pray, to believe, to hope, to be patient, to forgive, and to love. Amen.
 
In order to cater to a man's emotional needs, you might want to go business formal. Men are hierarchal and you need to sell authority to them.

Exhibit A:

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