Are dating apps in any way good for Christians?

[JCSteel]

@Lawrence87 is correct; if I put "Christian" in my profile I will match with some legal African/Carribean migrants.

The problem with dating apps today is that they become soft core porn for men. Spiritually weak men chase women they want to fap to, not date, let alone grow old with.

 

[Blade Runner]

Ultimately God is your matchmaker.

If time, trial and error, and a lot of effort is "God" ... yes. If you grew up during most of the last few decades in the US, does that mean He is an anti-matchmaker or a marriage destroyer, by the way?

I couldn't help but think that they're looking for some guy with the salt n pepper hair and six figure income to come along and buy them the life they richly deserve. Because you know you're worth it.

I was just telling a friend this morning that men have objective qualities (let's say height, income) and women have basically 1 (youth and beauty) though they want all the objective, measurable things from men after they age. This is what you get in a culture or economy that provides baseline survival. Men become accessories, but then everyone is upset because obviously a man isn't going to pay for used goods and promise a future ...

 

[Blade Runner]

The problem with dating apps today is that they become soft core porn for men. Spiritually weak men chase women they want to fap to, not date, let alone grow old with.

I disagree. Women use them for attention and it happens that there are just an overabundance of men ... which paralyzes women even more. It lends also to a strategy of fake attention from men, since it's a waste of time and you might as well just swipe all right, all the time.

No one "dates" with purpose, because that would be courting. This tech which made things worse came about after women had already done the let me go to college, then the city, then maybe find someone ... or not. If it fits in my schedule. Wait, is 30 old?

 

[Douglas Quaid]

women had already done the let me go to college, then the city, then maybe find someone ... or not. If it fits in my schedule. Wait, is 30 old?

I've met a few women like this recently, early to mid 20s. One of them is a physician assistant, one is a very successful realtor, another one wants to be a pilot for the airlines. They don't sleep around which is good, but they're completed obsessed with their careers and will end up like the women you're talking about. Career women are better than the sluts, but still very annoying to deal with.

 

[JCSteel]

I wasn't trying to speak comprehensively. I agree that even if a man uses a dating app for the right intent, not to kill time swiping, or to chase women for fornication, but to court a good women, he still has the deck stacked against him for all the reasons stated here.

1.) Women just use the apps for attention
2.) There's an over abundance of men on these apps
3.) Too many women in society don't have their priorities straight anyway

 

[Blade Runner]

I wasn't trying to speak comprehensively. I agree that even if a man uses a dating app for the right intent, not to kill time swiping, or to chase women for fornication, but to court a good women, he still has the deck stacked against him for all the reasons stated here.

1.) Women just use the apps for attention
2.) There's an over abundance of men on these apps
3.) Too many women in society don't have their priorities straight anyway

Yes, all the aspects of broken modern society feed off one another. Once you get women just doing their own things, men then act rationally to not take them seriously for long term relationships or marriage, and then the cycle of "dating", which is just socially acceptable whoredom, gets worse and worse ...

 

[Uncle Cr33pin]

 

[JCSteel]

The bar is pretty low on Tinder. She has been traumatized and she blames men for it but at least she's not in a long distance non-monogamous relationship with an aspiring Jehovah's Witness.

Or a member of the Satanic Temple..

 

[MrRedsquare]

 

[Blade Runner]

The iceberg!

 

[Douglas Quaid]

The bar is pretty low on Tinder. She has been traumatized and she blames men for it but at least she's not in a long distance non-monogamous relationship with an aspiring Jehovah's Witness.

Crazy eyes

 

[Tsarevich]

Of all the dating platforms Tinder is by far the most transactional and low quality. Bumble might be slightly better as there is the option for preference filtering (ie. religious beliefs, smoking, drinking, kids, etc). I've heard great things about Hinge (albeit from my secular friends) as building out a Hinge profile requires far more effort and time. I'm not sure about Christian dating platforms.

Anyone tried WhiteDate? Browsed it a few weeks ago and seemed to be a bunch of on the spectrum guys frustrated that the women weren't immediately receptive to discussing ideology after the "hello".

Post 2020, social skills in general have atrophied for the gen pop causing the massive online dating boom - maybe just being a "normal, social guy" and putting yourself in situations where you cross paths with women like church, hobbies, etc and having decent small talk skills is the way to go.

 

[JCSteel]

I remember how much better Tinder was just 4 years ago. At least in the part of the world I live in. Men and women seemed more serious about using the app to actually meet in person. Not saying it was great for finding a wife or a Christian woman, but at least it wasn't what it is turning into now. Now it's used primarily for validation and short term attention and killing time. Everyone flakes and ghosts and few meet in person. As a result, there are more deviants and less quality people. Men and women go on because they are feeling bored or lustful.

Bumble is a little better. As I age it's getting harder for me to get matches but usually my matches make the effort to have a substantial conversation. And you can filter out people with irreconcilable views better than on Tinder.

I haven't had a real in-person date from a dating app in 16 months, but last summer I met a woman on Bumble who wanted to visit Orthodox churches with me, which was really nice.

 

[Blade Runner]

Post 2020, social skills in general have atrophied for the gen pop causing the massive online dating boom - maybe just being a "normal, social guy" and putting yourself in situations where you cross paths with women like church, hobbies, etc and having decent small talk skills is the way to go.

It's funny when I see you guys posting about how 4 years ago things were better, when I'm sure it's true, but I also remember how nauseatingly bad I thought apps were in 2016. The decline is real. What else is real? The younger women everyone interested in, and here is the real shit sandwich that makes you think overseas is the only option, are basically stunted and anxious or malformed in too many cases or too high a % in the USA. It's just a bad mix of culture, abuse by government, tech, and the generational realities ...