Online communication, low hanging fruit?

Lawrence87

Lawrence87

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Do you guys think its better in the age of the internet to stand out and maintain an in-person relationship with someone?

The reason I ask is because there is someone I am pretty sure is interested in me, I initiated contact with her in person and we get along nicely. At this point it wouldn't be too out of bounds to initiate contact from a group chat we are both part of, but could doesn't necessarily mean should.

Part of me thinks initiating contact online these days is low hanging fruit and I should just ask her out in person. But also maybe I am just overthinking and I should just say hello and see what happens.
 
I think it depends on your age group. I realized how younger women tend to be more “direct” online than in person.

Maybe the younger generation is less shy and used to express their feelings easier when not in person? I find it easier to do it in person since I can see the expression/reaction in real time.
 
Lawrence87 said:
Do you guys think its better in the age of the internet to stand out and maintain an in-person relationship with someone?

The reason I ask is because there is someone I am pretty sure is interested in me, I initiated contact with her in person and we get along nicely. At this point it wouldn't be too out of bounds to initiate contact from a group chat we are both part of, but could doesn't necessarily mean should.

Part of me thinks initiating contact online these days is low hanging fruit and I should just ask her out in person. But also maybe I am just overthinking and I should just say hello and see what happens.
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If you're actually going to do it and have an opening to do it in person then do that, I don't see any reason to do it online if you don't want to. I have zero social media and every decent girl I've ever met saw that as a good thing.
 
FrancisK said:
If you're actually going to do it and have an opening to do it in person then do that, I don't see any reason to do it online if you don't want to. I have zero social media and every decent girl I've ever met saw that as a good thing.
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Yeah I think that's what I'll do.

If a conversation in person opens up a reason to extend the conversation into messages then I'll do that (like here's that video I mentioned etc) But otherwise it feels a bit forced.

I just think women get tonnes of messages from guys, that's the easy route and doesn't really require any confidence. I think it made a good impression that I spoke to her in person.

I thought I'd see what kind of opinions were out there as one of my friends seemed to think I was crazy for not reaching out when I spoke about her.
 
If she likes you then it really shouldn't matter too much if you message her online or talk to her in person more. But if you don't know her all that well then I'd talk to her in person more, suggest a date idea, then get the number. Personally, I like to keep things in person more because it's easier to gauge where you're at with somebody.
 
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