Divorce

God's lonely asperger said:
Yes, I know how to read. You are still contrarian posting because of the word "Zion" and "Jew".

Zionists say you shouldn't divorce your wife and leave your kids traumatized? Those Zionists! READ THIS BIGGER TEXT!

Zionists say I should drink water? Watercucks seething over patriot kings dying of thirst!
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I have to agree that if a Jewish Ultrazionist writes a study showing consistent long term negative effects on children from divorce, I'm more likely to agree than turn into Donald Sutherland at the end of Invasion of the Body Snatchers screeching "JOOOOOOSSSS". A good anti-divorce study is a good anti-divorce study.

I also like water. The line about watercucks is hilarious!
 
Thomas More said:
I have to agree that if a Jewish Ultrazionist writes a study showing consistent long term negative effects on children from divorce, I'm more likely to agree than turn into Donald Sutherland at the end of Invasion of the Body Snatchers screeching "JOOOOOOSSSS". A good anti-divorce study is a good anti-divorce study.

I also like water. The line about watercucks is hilarious!
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Sometimes the jews tell the honest truth about things just to confuse us even more.
 
Plenty of Zionists are friendly to White Christians because they believe a strong America = Strong Israel.

She could have been telling the truth about Divorce for selfish reasons, and was still doing the right thing.

It's also a dig at Gentiles - Jews usually have very strong marriages, so a report about how poor Gentiles are getting divorced and raising miserable children is a way to express superiority over the poor inferior Gentiles, the same way many Whites write about Blacks.

That said the politics has nothing to do with this topic, which is divorce, and yes divorce is a horrible thing. That said adultery is not necessarily the end of a marriage, one spouse has the power to forgive the other. It's not easy but sometimes it's actually the far more Christian thing to do.
 
Samseau said:
Plenty of Zionists are friendly to White Christians because they believe a strong America = Strong Israel.

She could have been telling the truth about Divorce for selfish reasons, and was still doing the right thing.

It's also a dig at Gentiles - Jews usually have very strong marriages, so a report about how poor Gentiles are getting divorced and raising miserable children is a way to express superiority over the poor inferior Gentiles, the same way many Whites write about Blacks.

That said the politics has nothing to do with this topic, which is divorce, and yes divorce is a horrible thing. That said adultery is not necessarily the end of a marriage, one spouse has the power to forgive the other. It's not easy but sometimes it's actually the far more Christian thing to do.
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This is always reminds me of a story St Paisios told. He met a pilgrim who said he had seen the Uncreated Light, and St Paisios had the discernment to see that the man was not deluded. He inquired about what kind of life the man lived, that this should have happened. The man said that his wife had left him, committed adultery and gone off with someone else, and eventually ended up being a prostitute and living a terrible life. But the man never granted a divorce, he kept praying for her soul, trying to help her, because the salvation of her soul was more important to him than anything else. So he was granted such a tremendous comfort by God for the way in which he emulated Christ

A lot of redpilled guys would struggle with the one
 
I know a couple who is struggling on the brink of divorce. They have two kids, roughly 5 and 9, so in prime formative years and a split would be horrible. The mom stays at home but has started working part-time again because... the father has recently become a raging alcoholic. He was making decent money to support the family, but then lost his job, and then 5-6 more over the past few years. He works in a sales field where you get paid well, but get fired easily. It sounds like he drinks heavily, like blackout drunk on vodka and can barely get off the floor. She's had to call in sick for him, which is not a good look when you are a manager. Some people think he drinks so much he will just die like Matthew Perry.

The guy also took a HELOC or second mortgage against the home to start a business, but he had to leverage it aggressively, and that venture fell apart. So they owe double the price they bought their home for (it has appreciated so still has some equity).

Drinking that amount will ruin you physically, spiritually, emotionally. I also feel a bit for the guy in that his wife spends too much, like always wanting her and the kids to match. So the husband works, she blows it.

So far she's threatened divorce, begun working part-time to support herself and the family, and the grandparents expanded to a larger home so the family can come stay with them.

I wish I could just tell them, "He should humble himself and take a less volatile job that still pays the bills, obviously needs to go fully sober and she will simply have to spend less because they'll have a smaller income. Don't separate, and your kids will grow up more modest and also have some powerful life lessons." I don't know them well enough to give advice and I'm sure they've thought of that, but wanting to fix yourself and doing it are two different things.
 
Reaching mid 40s now means that I am seeing more families split. Not many, as I seem to run in pretty conservative circles despite the fact I live in the center of one of the most liberal cities in the world. But there is enough to notice.

One that really bothered me was a friend of my 8yo when they were in kindergarten. Kindergarten is typically one of the most special times as a parent, as the kids are full of love and fun. This little boy had a smile so big, that it was almost comical. And he was always smiling, lighting up the world for anyone who was there.

His parents divorced halfway through. His mom is one of those over educated hand rubbers. She is always stressed. Her appearance is a bit disheveled. Without knowing details, it seemed to eventually wear out the father. This little boy changed literally overnight. He lashed out toward everyone. His smile took a mean look, which turned out to just be his eyes. While the smile was the same, his eyes were not. This boy gained weight. Within a few weeks he had adapted to his new life and calmed down some, but that little guy everyone had fallen in love with was forever changed.

Going through rough patches with spouses is hard. Sometimes the mind turns to the 'what if?' scenario. It's usually from the purest selfish viewpoint, and the one that can wrap someone up in fantasy. But if both people are willing to work through it, the family always grows tighter. Kids especially are always listening with one ear. They are the most in tune with the energy of a home. So they are the ones most affected by our ups and downs.
 
Post on this: https://neofeudalreview.substack.com/p/unseen-consequences-the-emotional

Summary: This post reflects on the long-term consequences of divorce on children based on Judith Wallerstein's influential study. It argues that while divorce might seem like a solution to an unhappy marriage, it often has detrimental effects on children, particularly when it comes to their ability to form healthy, lasting relationships. Drawing from personal experience and societal trends, the piece suggests that staying in a marriage for the sake of children is often a better choice than divorce unless there is extreme abuse involved. It also critiques the current state of divorce laws and the societal influences that encourage divorce, emphasizing the importance of considering the impact on children before making such a decision.
 
Samseau said:
Plenty of Zionists are friendly to White Christians because they believe a strong America = Strong Israel.

She could have been telling the truth about Divorce for selfish reasons, and was still doing the right thing.

It's also a dig at Gentiles - Jews usually have very strong marriages, so a report about how poor Gentiles are getting divorced and raising miserable children is a way to express superiority over the poor inferior Gentiles, the same way many Whites write about Blacks.

That said the politics has nothing to do with this topic, which is divorce, and yes divorce is a horrible thing. That said adultery is not necessarily the end of a marriage, one spouse has the power to forgive the other. It's not easy but sometimes it's actually the far more Christian thing to do.
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If you were married and your wife cheated on you would you forgive her?
 
Iv almost been divorced quite a few times, thank God we are still together for the sake of our kids, I dont want to put myself on a pedestal or push my wife down because I have also been guilty of not doing things right but everytime we almost got divorced it was my wife who was trying to initiate it, its just the culture of the world thats influenced her in my opinion, its rare to find people who talk about relationships who encourage married couples to stay married and unfortunately thats the council my wife is exposing herself too which Iv highlighted to her.

We try as much as possible not to argue or fight around the kids when we do fight, sometimes we have though but in my opinion its not so bad for the kids to see a little of it because one day when they get married they will know that sometimes people can disagree and fight but in the end they make up and sort out their differences, this is how a realistic marriage looks like, its not perfect. My kids also see us hugging and kissing and laughing so they have seen both sides.

I think I have convinced my wife to stay married for the sake of the kids, I explained to her that the children also have needs and we cant put our needs above their needs, which is something she did admit she didnt think about properly, although she still kind of always says once the kids are fully grown and dont need us anymore she wants to leave which Im glad to hear because I dont want my kids to be harmed and Im prepared to go through difficult situations and suffering for their sake.

There are real reasons for a couple to get divorced but they are few and sometimes you can even prefer NOT to get divorced even if you have the green light for it.
 
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