This is a thread is focusing on part of the American Southwest - notably (parts of ) Texas, New Mexico and Arizona.
Disclaimer: please consider that everyone's personal circumstances and views are different. (So, if you are from the US, and before you think: "Oh, quit your trolling! Why would anyone in his right mind want to come to live in the US?" - please read this thread in full before making any judgment).
Without revealing too much about myself: I currently reside in the UK where I am a citizen (grew up in continental Europe - but made the UK my home nearly 14 years ago). While The UK saved my life at some point - unfortunately I have seen the decline of the country in the last few years (The decline has been rapidly accelerating since about 2019...)
For years, you have tried to convince yourself that the UK is a "budget version of the American dream" - while the reality is far from it.
(The UK is great for a few years as a student or a young white collar professional - for a few years. Not great if you are older and want to have a family)
I have always wanted to live in the US. Next year, that dream may finally come true.
My personal experience/exposure to the US has been limited so far.
A short visit to New York City and (an even shorter visit to) Boston, MA in 2009.
NYC (as of 2009) - great place to visit. The people largely reasonable (certainly more polite than people in London), felt safer and more affordable than London. Not sure if this city was my first choice in the US, however.
Boston, MA - (Sorry, Bostoners) - Awful place, couldn't wait to get out of there. It had all the negatives of places in Europe without offering you the positives of US cities. Outside of the college/university areas...is filled with ghettos with high crime rates. (Crowded city, And ridiculously expensive for what it was). Find most people to be rude and aggressive there (Just like in Europe). To sum it up: not good.
Fast forward to 2022 - a trip to the Dallas, FTW metro area in Texas. I felt I found the part of the US I would want to call home. Largely polite and considerate people. A reasonably safe metro area. A diverse and healthy local economy. Great universities (not sure about public high schools). People of different ethnic backgrounds largely tolerant of each other.
Also, the supposed "hoods" and "ghettos" (we took the liberty and drove through one)in Dallas seemed nothing like the footages you see about the deprived areas of cities in the East Coast (Baltimore, Philly, Newark, Trenton etc) or the Midwest (Detroit, Flint, Milwaukee, Gary, Cleveland, Cincinnati and parts of Chicago etc).
It seemed in Dallas even the so-called "ghettos" are just simply working-class neighbourhood, with a few gangs here and there - who would only pose a threat to you if you are involved in some criminal activity.
And (in 2022) I managed to secure a date with a (polite, slim and Christian) lady 8 years my junior (!) by simply initiating a conversation at a shopping mall. (This would have been unimaginable anywhere in Europe). (We stayed in touch for months after I returned from the US - had I pursued it further, it could have led to marriage and family. Not pursuing it further is something I deply regret.)
As of, 2022 a decent family home (with backyard and often with a garage) is still relatively affordable in some of the decent suburbs of the Dallas metro area. (For comparison :The same price would hardly buy you a "studio apartment" in a bad part of outer London, UK)
Home-schooling is legal. So is concealed-carry.
This part of Texas is high on my list.
New Mexico - have not been there yet. On paper, seems a lot going for a it in the Albuquerque and Santa Fe metro areas. However, It is clearly smaller and poorer than Texas.
In theory, the climate is also milder than in TX or AZ. Seems less family-friendly place, however, - compared to the TX and AZ.
Arizona, - have not visited yet. Lots of good going for it. However, summers can be brutal (what is the state starts rationing electricity for AC? That part of the US is unbearable without air conditioning) - particularly in central and southern parts of the state. The laws, however are family-friendly. (Home-schooling, concealed carry, harsh punishments for serious criminals - remember Maricopa County Sheriff - Joe Arpaio?)
In short: I believe one of these three places will be ideal for me to start a new life - start and raise a family.
Yes, I speak Spanish fluently (Learned it). Have no issues with Mexicans people and other Spanish-speaking folks from Latin America. I am also interested in getting to know more about some native American cultures (particularly Navajo and Comanche).
As a side note I am looking for a future wife from the Asian, Black, Latina or native American communities. Have no interest in dating/marrying White women. Please don't judge me - It's my choice - and I believe it is a valid one... You don't need to agree with me on this. Parts of the three states above seem like ideal places for me. As you know: as a men, you go where you are appreciated. The tall, handsome, polite, cultured, family-oriented European Christian gentlemen image (Just being myself, without needing to result to clown game or needing to be a millionaire) - can apparently safely attract the right sort of Black, Latina , Asian or Native American ladies in TX.
Also, if it matters I am a nominal Catholic - who is trying to get to know and practice his faith more. Roman Catholic congregations seem to go strong in TX, NM and AZ.
One thing for you to consider; for me the American Dream was always associated with the American West and Southwest - polite and nice people, plenty of space (compared to Europe), comfortable family homes with back-garden for your family barbecues, A garage for your large, comfortable family car. Beautiful and family-oriented women. Family-oriented social norms. Good universities. Good customer service wherever you go. Functioning public services -( including a decent police force that is polite with law-abiding citizens but is harsh on criminals). Right to home school your children. Right to concealed- carry to protect your family. Death penalty for the most dangerous criminals.
I think you see where I am coming from.
You might be thinking : "Golly, things must be really bad in most of Europe if Dallas, TX seems like a paradise for that brother from Europe!" Yes, things are that bad in Europe by now. I am not exaggerating.
Any insight or meaningful input from people who currently reside there or have recently visited would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
Disclaimer: please consider that everyone's personal circumstances and views are different. (So, if you are from the US, and before you think: "Oh, quit your trolling! Why would anyone in his right mind want to come to live in the US?" - please read this thread in full before making any judgment).
Without revealing too much about myself: I currently reside in the UK where I am a citizen (grew up in continental Europe - but made the UK my home nearly 14 years ago). While The UK saved my life at some point - unfortunately I have seen the decline of the country in the last few years (The decline has been rapidly accelerating since about 2019...)
For years, you have tried to convince yourself that the UK is a "budget version of the American dream" - while the reality is far from it.
(The UK is great for a few years as a student or a young white collar professional - for a few years. Not great if you are older and want to have a family)
I have always wanted to live in the US. Next year, that dream may finally come true.
My personal experience/exposure to the US has been limited so far.
A short visit to New York City and (an even shorter visit to) Boston, MA in 2009.
NYC (as of 2009) - great place to visit. The people largely reasonable (certainly more polite than people in London), felt safer and more affordable than London. Not sure if this city was my first choice in the US, however.
Boston, MA - (Sorry, Bostoners) - Awful place, couldn't wait to get out of there. It had all the negatives of places in Europe without offering you the positives of US cities. Outside of the college/university areas...is filled with ghettos with high crime rates. (Crowded city, And ridiculously expensive for what it was). Find most people to be rude and aggressive there (Just like in Europe). To sum it up: not good.
Fast forward to 2022 - a trip to the Dallas, FTW metro area in Texas. I felt I found the part of the US I would want to call home. Largely polite and considerate people. A reasonably safe metro area. A diverse and healthy local economy. Great universities (not sure about public high schools). People of different ethnic backgrounds largely tolerant of each other.
Also, the supposed "hoods" and "ghettos" (we took the liberty and drove through one)in Dallas seemed nothing like the footages you see about the deprived areas of cities in the East Coast (Baltimore, Philly, Newark, Trenton etc) or the Midwest (Detroit, Flint, Milwaukee, Gary, Cleveland, Cincinnati and parts of Chicago etc).
It seemed in Dallas even the so-called "ghettos" are just simply working-class neighbourhood, with a few gangs here and there - who would only pose a threat to you if you are involved in some criminal activity.
And (in 2022) I managed to secure a date with a (polite, slim and Christian) lady 8 years my junior (!) by simply initiating a conversation at a shopping mall. (This would have been unimaginable anywhere in Europe). (We stayed in touch for months after I returned from the US - had I pursued it further, it could have led to marriage and family. Not pursuing it further is something I deply regret.)
As of, 2022 a decent family home (with backyard and often with a garage) is still relatively affordable in some of the decent suburbs of the Dallas metro area. (For comparison :The same price would hardly buy you a "studio apartment" in a bad part of outer London, UK)
Home-schooling is legal. So is concealed-carry.
This part of Texas is high on my list.
New Mexico - have not been there yet. On paper, seems a lot going for a it in the Albuquerque and Santa Fe metro areas. However, It is clearly smaller and poorer than Texas.
In theory, the climate is also milder than in TX or AZ. Seems less family-friendly place, however, - compared to the TX and AZ.
Arizona, - have not visited yet. Lots of good going for it. However, summers can be brutal (what is the state starts rationing electricity for AC? That part of the US is unbearable without air conditioning) - particularly in central and southern parts of the state. The laws, however are family-friendly. (Home-schooling, concealed carry, harsh punishments for serious criminals - remember Maricopa County Sheriff - Joe Arpaio?)
In short: I believe one of these three places will be ideal for me to start a new life - start and raise a family.
Yes, I speak Spanish fluently (Learned it). Have no issues with Mexicans people and other Spanish-speaking folks from Latin America. I am also interested in getting to know more about some native American cultures (particularly Navajo and Comanche).
As a side note I am looking for a future wife from the Asian, Black, Latina or native American communities. Have no interest in dating/marrying White women. Please don't judge me - It's my choice - and I believe it is a valid one... You don't need to agree with me on this. Parts of the three states above seem like ideal places for me. As you know: as a men, you go where you are appreciated. The tall, handsome, polite, cultured, family-oriented European Christian gentlemen image (Just being myself, without needing to result to clown game or needing to be a millionaire) - can apparently safely attract the right sort of Black, Latina , Asian or Native American ladies in TX.
Also, if it matters I am a nominal Catholic - who is trying to get to know and practice his faith more. Roman Catholic congregations seem to go strong in TX, NM and AZ.
One thing for you to consider; for me the American Dream was always associated with the American West and Southwest - polite and nice people, plenty of space (compared to Europe), comfortable family homes with back-garden for your family barbecues, A garage for your large, comfortable family car. Beautiful and family-oriented women. Family-oriented social norms. Good universities. Good customer service wherever you go. Functioning public services -( including a decent police force that is polite with law-abiding citizens but is harsh on criminals). Right to home school your children. Right to concealed- carry to protect your family. Death penalty for the most dangerous criminals.
I think you see where I am coming from.
You might be thinking : "Golly, things must be really bad in most of Europe if Dallas, TX seems like a paradise for that brother from Europe!" Yes, things are that bad in Europe by now. I am not exaggerating.
Any insight or meaningful input from people who currently reside there or have recently visited would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
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Every interaction with any of their RV or automotive repair places there ends predictably. Either they get the wrong parts, or lie to your face wasting your time for a long time or just rude and unprofessional. It's surreal, can't be United States. Can't wait to part my ways with the region and most of Arizona. I know good places left in AZ but once the secret is out on public internet they get ruined. Dreaded Phoenix driving ahead to get the jeep out of storage. Phoenix is absolutely insane, my rear view mirror can't wait for Phoenux to appear in it. At least mask terror had ended in New Mexico when I travel through it! It wasn't travelable until this year due to all the hoax Karens.