Positivity, Good News Only Thread

[analyst_green]

Because that means what the red pill says is true, and being a nice guy—or a godly guy, in this case—only works if a woman is first attracted to us through our appearance. If we’re neckbeards, then it means a woman will not care about our achievements, other qualities, or how close we are to God. This is why, in the example above, the man is portrayed as tall, good-looking, well-dressed, and of high social status by reading the scriptures in front of the church. This proves the red pill was right.

Don't let that bother you. Of course nearly everyone cares about physical traits. It's the same in any aspect of life. You go to vacation in beautiful places with beaches and mountains. You don't vacation in the cornfields of Iowa. You can say all you want how nice and helpful the people are in Iowa and how it's cheap and safe. You still won't get more than a few tourists to go there.

But it doesn't mean that it's the only thing that matters. We just need to be grateful to God for what we have and not forget the bottom line.

Anyways, if a woman is so holy as to not care about the material at all she would probably be in a monastery rather than getting married.

This guy is nice-looking and tall, but he's the sweetest, humblest guy. I'm 99% sure he was so absorbed in the reading that he didn't even notice this girl staring at him. Someday

The guys that are real "chads" are those that don't think about it. They don't obsess about it and just focus on their own lives. I've met average looking dudes who seem to magnetically attract women. And I knew model looking guys who repelled women once they opened their mouths. The latter reeked of desperation. So it's something more than just appearance. The internal state matters most.

We can all gain some of those positive qualities and maximize our attractiveness. Work out, eat healthy, try to build courage and life experience, speak clearly and confidently.. Of course there are limits drawn by biology, but most guys can do a lot better than they're doing now.

For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. (Matthew 25:29)

 

[GrecoRoman]

Might be the wrong thread, responding mainly to a few posts above.

Men or women initially choosing for looks is simply reality, church going / Godly or not. The type of women you are around matter a lot too. I had the easiest time when I was lifting heavily and was more jacked so to speak. Granted I was also low dose cycling at the time preparing for some competitions (Test, all legit by prescription.) Unfortunately in my case I was surrounded by harlots at work and in my social life so that’s what I was getting. I wasn’t really involved with church at the time. It led me more into sin.

 

[Seng Hock]

I know he won't like being praised in this way because he's exceedingly humble (as the church teaches us to be) and would counter with all the ways he falls short and could be better.

But for Orthodox Christians, isn’t it common for us to praise one another? I mean, just look at the Akathist hymns to the saints — they’re often several pages long, filled with words of praise and honor for a particular saint. When I compliment or honor someone on this forum, I’m inspired by those Akathists to the saints.​

I appreciate your kind words brother, but I don't deserve them; and I also feel it is important to clarify, I am only here to serve the people of this forum and to glorify God. I pray he will give me the strength and discernment to do both effectively as well and for as long as possible.

I’ve seen several of Mrs. TexasJenn’s posts in the past, and she seems to hold you in high regard. She’s mentioned multiple times that you’re strong, that she enjoys cooking and living with you, and that she loves doing activities together with you. And finally, she even explicitly called you a chad — though you probably didn’t realize it. To me, that was the final critical strike, and I decided to stoke the flame even further​

Don't let that bother you. Of course nearly everyone cares about physical traits. It's the same in any aspect of life. You go to vacation in beautiful places with beaches and mountains. You don't vacation in the cornfields of Iowa. You can say all you want how nice and helpful the people are in Iowa and how it's cheap and safe. You still won't get more than a few tourists to go there.

But it doesn't mean that it's the only thing that matters. We just need to be grateful to God for what we have and not forget the bottom line.

Anyways, if a woman is so holy as to not care about the material at all she would probably be in a monastery rather than getting married.

I was triggered by the idea that even women in the Church are mostly attracted to tall and good-looking men. That story sounded like bad news to me, because even if we pray to God to grant us a woman, God isn’t a magician — He doesn’t make illogical things happen. Therefore, if we don’t look or act like the stereotypical “alpha,” it feels like we’ll never find a woman, since women tend to be drawn to that type of man.​

 

[Mrs TexasJenn]

But for Orthodox Christians, isn’t it common for us to praise one another? I mean, just look at the Akathist hymns to the saints — they’re often several pages long, filled with words of praise and honor for a particular saint. When I compliment or honor someone on this forum, I’m inspired by those Akathists to the saints.


I’ve seen several of Mrs. TexasJenn’s posts in the past, and she seems to hold you in high regard. She’s mentioned multiple times that you’re strong, that she enjoys cooking and living with you, and that she loves doing activities together with you. And finally, she even explicitly called you a chad — though you probably didn’t realize it. To me, that was the final critical strike, and I decided to stoke the flame even further


I was triggered by the idea that even women in the Church are mostly attracted to tall and good-looking men. That story sounded like bad news to me, because even if we pray to God to grant us a woman, God isn’t a magician — He doesn’t make illogical things happen. Therefore, if we don’t look or act like the stereotypical “alpha,” it feels like we’ll never find a woman, since women tend to be drawn to that type of man.​

I'm sure on some level he appreciates the praise. When we first got together, he was sometimes what you might describe as "cocky". But he's taken the directive to humble yourself very seriously. Most of the time, he won't take a compliment directly anymore, and he rarely brags about himself. Most of the time, he says, "Praise God," recognizing that anything special he's been given comes from God. Now and then he does that cute man thing where he likes to take some amount of credit for how well I'm doing in life. I allow it because he's my man and I get that a man feels proud when he does anything to uplift and light up his lady, and he does a lot for me.

I'm sorry you were trigged by my post. I certainly didn't mean to offend or trigger anyone.