Coffee dates

GuitarWind21

GuitarWind21

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Would you say this is outdated style of dating these days? Getting to know her over coffee at Starbucks or a local cafe or something? Or would you say something more action oriented is better like walking or shooting hoops in the park, dancing at a club? etc



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GuitarWind21 said:
Would you say this is outdated style of dating these days? Getting to know her over coffee at Starbucks or a local cafe or something? Or would you say something more action oriented is better like walking or shooting hoops in the park, dancing at a club? etc



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Both work, base it on what you would actual enjoy and prefer yourself so that you are comfortable and can be yourself instead of putting on an act. If she doesn't want you for you then it's a waste of time anyway, not to say you're doing otherwise of course.
 
Agreed. I wouldn't go for some kind of high effort first date. Save that for someone you're already involved with. For a first date, you want to know if you really like her after talking to her for a bit, and if she likes you. A walk and then a snack or a drink at a quiet place is perfect for this.

Also, I wouldn't make the first date too long. A coffee date is a good amount of time to break the ice and to be able to bail out if one or the other is not interested.
 
Depends on if it aligns with your and her interests. I enjoy good coffee and the atmosphere of (some) coffee shops. Drinking coffee will also give me energy, vs. eating out I'll probably be tired afterwards. Another benefit is treating her to a coffee is less expensive than eating at a restaurant, so it would be a good first date to see if you like each other before committing to more expensive dates.
 
Some girls might have trouble accepting it as a first date because it could sound cheap or just not something they expect.

Needs to be framed properly as a casual place to talk and get to know each other without much pressure, probably during day time.

"I'm really into a good coffee and I know this great place with a cool vibe that I'd love to show you."
 
Thomas More said:
Also, I wouldn't make the first date too long.
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I personally prefer the first date to be as long as possible because the first date is really the point where you decide if the girl has potential and you want to keep seeing her it’s hard to make your decision over a 30 minute coffee date which just isn’t enough data.

That’s why I prefer say a dinner date and then a walk etc for the first date if the girl agrees because then you have time to talk properly and see if you actually like each other.

Once you have a had a few dates already then a shorter date sometimes is okay but I prefer the first two dates to be as long as possible so I have a sound basis for making a decision (and so does she).
 
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