Coffee dates

[GuitarWind21]

Would you say this is outdated style of dating these days? Getting to know her over coffee at Starbucks or a local cafe or something? Or would you say something more action oriented is better like walking or shooting hoops in the park, dancing at a club? etc

 

[FrancisK]

Would you say this is outdated style of dating these days? Getting to know her over coffee at Starbucks or a local cafe or something? Or would you say something more action oriented is better like walking or shooting hoops in the park, dancing at a club? etc



View attachment 23041

Both work, base it on what you would actual enjoy and prefer yourself so that you are comfortable and can be yourself instead of putting on an act. If she doesn't want you for you then it's a waste of time anyway, not to say you're doing otherwise of course.

 

[Thomas More]

Agreed. I wouldn't go for some kind of high effort first date. Save that for someone you're already involved with. For a first date, you want to know if you really like her after talking to her for a bit, and if she likes you. A walk and then a snack or a drink at a quiet place is perfect for this.

Also, I wouldn't make the first date too long. A coffee date is a good amount of time to break the ice and to be able to bail out if one or the other is not interested.