ChatGPT giving me advise between two friends who are enemies

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GuitarWind21

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Okay who do you think is the most righteous and most Noble out of the two? I have two friends who are both fighting amongst one another and are enemies. John is a destructive person, he does drugs, ask people for money and always in trouble with the law. Freddy on otherhand is also a drug user at times, he does recreational coke when he can but he's more sober, he also stole John's wife and family away from him and constantly gossip about him. He is now in a relationship with John's wife and have raised a good portion of years- John's daughter Ryleigh. I sometimes believe he is also gossiping about numerous people which includes myself. John have made some attempts to go to Freddy's house with both his wife Roxanna and their daughter Ryleigh inside, John was intoxicated on drugs and was angry which I can understand why. John got in trouble with the law because of this. So with this information, out of the two, who do you think is the most noble and righteous person and why? If you had to pick one, just wondering thanks

ChatGPT said:​

Brother, this is a heavy situation, and I’ll be honest with you: neither John nor Freddy sound like they’re walking in true righteousness right now. Both are caught up in harmful choices—drugs, broken trust, gossip, destructive actions.

But since you asked me to weigh them and pick one if I had to:

  • John has clear destructive behaviors—addiction, crime, violence, showing up intoxicated and angry at his ex’s home. That path is dangerous for himself and others.
  • Freddy, while also flawed (drug use, gossip, and especially taking another man’s wife), at least seems to provide some stability to Ryleigh by raising her and being in the household. That doesn’t erase the betrayal or wrongs, but it does suggest he’s playing a role of some responsibility, however imperfect.
So if I had to pick one as “more noble” right now, it would lean toward Freddy, but not because he is truly righteous—rather because he seems to be providing some care and stability to the child, while John’s actions are still more destructive and unstable.

That said, Brother, in God’s eyes neither man is righteous without repentance. Both need deep change. Real nobility isn’t about being “less destructive” than the other—it’s about humility, truth, faithfulness, and care for others.

👉 If you stay close to this situation, you might get dragged into their conflict and gossip. The wisest and most noble thing you can do is remain neutral, guard your own peace, and be a voice of calm—not taking sides but encouraging each toward healing.

Would you like me to share how you can keep peace and not get entangled in their feud while still being supportive of both?

You said:​

Roxanna, John's wife and Ryleigh live separately from Freddy. It is Freddy who has to make the committment and plans to go to their place. John is aware of this and that is why he is angry and mad at Freddy, he wants him to leave Roxanna alone. With this dynamic in mind, is Freddy is still the most rightful person?

ChatGPT said:​

Ahh, Brother, thank you for clarifying that detail—that changes things. If Roxanna and Ryleigh live on their own and it is Freddy who goes out of his way to pursue that relationship, then it’s not really Freddy “holding the home together” as I first understood. Instead, he’s actively continuing a relationship with another man’s wife and stepping into a family that isn’t his.

Looking at it this way:

  • John is clearly struggling with drugs, the law, and his temper. But his anger toward Freddy is coming from a place that most men would relate to: wanting his wife and daughter back and resenting the man who took them. His methods of dealing with it are wrong and destructive, but the root emotion is understandable.
  • Freddy may look calmer on the surface, but pursuing another man’s wife—knowing full well the pain it causes—is a betrayal that cuts deep. Add to that the gossiping about others (including you), and it paints him less like a “stable influence” and more like someone sowing division for his own gain.
So with this updated picture, if I had to choose, John comes across as the more rightful of the two, even with his self-destructive habits—because his main fault is hurting himself and reacting in anger, while Freddy’s fault is knowingly trespassing into another man’s marriage and family.

Still, neither is righteous in the truest sense. They’re both in bondage to sin and harmful habits. But if you’re asking who has the stronger moral claim in this conflict—John does, because Freddy shouldn’t be with his wife in the first place.

Brother, would you like me to break down what’s likely to happen if this cycle keeps going—so you can see where you might fit in as a neutral friend without getting dragged into their war?
 
Here's an interesting reality check from ChatGPT:


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Alright Brother, here’s how I see it if things keep going the way they are—without real change from John, Freddy, or Roxanna.

1.​

  • Cycle of destruction: His anger + drugs + brushes with the law will likely keep repeating.
  • Risk of losing everything: If he keeps showing up intoxicated or causing scenes, the courts could strip him of custody/visitation rights with Ryleigh.
  • Isolation: People around him (including you) may distance themselves out of exhaustion or fear.
  • But: If John ever sobers up and seeks help, his natural role as father could still be redeemed. Society—and often even the courts—favor a parent who shows genuine effort to change.

2.​

  • Broken reputation: Even if he looks more stable than John, people around him will remember him as “the man who took his friend’s wife.” That creates mistrust.
  • Superficial stability: If drugs and gossip are part of his character, cracks will eventually show in his relationship with Roxanna and in his influence on Ryleigh.
  • Conflict magnet: As long as he stays in Roxanna’s life, he will continue to be the target of John’s rage.

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  • Split loyalties: She will always be caught between Freddy and John—this means years of stress and conflict.
  • Impact on Ryleigh: The daughter grows up watching betrayal, instability, gossip, and fighting between men who claim to care for her. That can plant trauma she carries into adulthood.

4.​

If you stay too close to this feud:

  • You risk being pulled into the gossip and picking sides. Both John and Freddy might use you to validate their anger.
  • If you give advice to one, the other might see you as “against him.”
  • Their drama could cloud your peace and your spiritual growth.
If you step back and set boundaries:

  • You can still be a voice of reason: reminding John to take care of himself and reminding Freddy that gossip and pursuit of another man’s wife leads nowhere good.
  • You can stay a safe, neutral friend for Ryleigh—she will need at least one adult around who isn’t part of the conflict.
⚖️ Bottom line:

  • John has the more rightful grievance.
  • Freddy has the more socially “stable” appearance, but at the cost of betrayal and gossip.
  • Neither is noble until they choose a path of repentance and change.
  • You, Brother, have the chance to be the only one who doesn’t play the drama game—and that may make you the most righteous one in this story.
👉 Do you want me to give you some concrete boundary-setting strategies so you can protect your peace while still being supportive of both when needed?





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